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Hi Girls,
I have not posted on here for several months, so I thought it was time for an update.
Since starting going out and about eight months ago I have gone from furtively going down the front path to the car and, most times, changing into my bail-out kit before arriving home, to stepping out confidently fully dressed and even taking my time clearing the snow off my car. I'm sure that several people in the village must have seen me, especially the librarian across the road. She has not yet waved or acknowledged me though.
Things I have noticed then is that most people give me a second look and in fact, for the most part, a lot of people don't give me a first look. This is not to say they studiously avoid eye contact, they just pass me by the same way they would were I dressed like a guy.
Young hostesses in restaurants call me Ma'am and, sometimes, middle-aged ladies do the same.
Where at first I just kept my head down in restaurants and read my book, I now look around and have discovered that no-one, even at the closest table to me, is paying me any particular notice.
The other day I was going into a store and noticed a heavier built middle-aged man not too far behind me. I was already going through the doorway so I held it open for him. Seeing this he quickened his pace and, reaching for the door, said, "Thank you, Ma'am!"
As you can imagine, I now feel very confident as I go out and about my business as Aurora.
I can't remember who challenged me to go to the clinic as Aurora but, just recently, I went to the lab for a blood test. No-one seemed in the least concerned.
As one of the other girls in this group suggested, teenage girls are a good barometer and in my observations they don't take any particular notice of me.
A couple of weeks ago I was out walking and noticed two young boys playing at the front of their house. On seeing me, one said, "Hi Grandma!" I looked and smiled just as the other boy said, "That's not Grandma."
Anyway, I have been mistaken for someone's Grandma where I have been hoping to be mistaken for a hot chick... but I don't think that that is going to happen.
It may be because I am older that I tend to not stand out.
As always, I hope that this is helpful for the girls who... like me only a short time ago... have not yet taken the step to go outdoors. It is like swimmming, you can either dive in the deep end or start at the shallow end and work your way up. For myself, I went for the shallow end approach.
Hugs,
Aurora Eden
Hi Aurora congrats girl on taking those baby steps and gaining the confidence to keep it going .. Thats an inspiration to us girls that have never been out keep it going girl and have fun ..
Stephanie Bass
You go, girl - more power to you!
Fredrika. XOX
I'm thankful I was confident enough in my feminine appearance when I was young to go out in public and pass as a young girl. As I have gotten older I don't have that same confidence and the last thing I want is to be looked at as someone's grandma.
The style of dresses I like to wear are more appropriate for a girl much younger than me. I still love to take short walks in public, seeing me from the back with my long wavy blond wig and my petite feminine body, I still think I look like a young girl.
Hi Aurora, a great boost to me on reading this post. When you show others that you are just leading your life in a new dirrction, grey clouds lift, and a tertific release from built up emotion.
Continue living your life as you wish. You deserve it.
Best wishes
Jane
Congratulations Aurora! I think Aurora has gained her wings to fly, thanks for sharing.
Well Aurora you have passed the test and realised that if you look like a lady then that is what the rest of the world will see why going about their business.
In restaurants people at other tables look around, it is a natural instinct and sometimes they will stop, gaze and move on. I always felt they were looking at me. Wrong, the glance was momentary and that was that. You sat and kept your head down then started to do what is quite natural. And that is the key, being natural.
Neighbours are different as they know who should be coming out the house. Your librarian is thinking 'Is it or isn't it' and probably made the connect. Give her time and maybe wave at her first. Did you have any contact before you started to go out? If she waves back do it a few times then maybe go over and have a chat. If she runs you'll know it won't work but I feel that she will come round as you appear more.
When I started to dress regularly I would do it from my mothers house. We never told anyone but the connection was made and now I chat to them or wave hello as I am round there a lot know as my mother is elderly. A short distance away lives another lady who is the same age as my mother - over 90. When I was younger we knew the family and played with the children. A few years back one of the daughters moved to the area to watch over her mother. I bumped into her as she passed the house. She stopped and started to chat. She reminded me of her name and asked which one of my mothers daughters I was. I just gave my name and she carried on chatting about the old days! I have seen her a few times now and she just chats away.
As for being called 'Granny'. I am of that age I suppose. I was sitting in a busy fast food chain and there were a couple of boisterous lads larking about. One bumped my table. 'Sorry granny' was his apology! Offended, never.
I told a few my neighbours before I started to go out regularly. Others made the connect as I go out more and either engage or don't. None have taken exception as they see me regularly out and interacting with the others. New neighbours only know me as I am. No problems.
I am happy you are getting positive vibes so you are obviously the woman they see. Keep going girl.
Thanks for sharing.
Hugs, Liara
That's wonderful Aurora, you make us all proud ! 🙂 Go girl !!
Thanks, Sandra. I get a lot of support from this group and that helps a lot.
Yesterday, when I got back to the village, I summoned up the courage to go into the post office for my mail. It is becoming very difficult to be out of town dressed up and then not show myself in the village in the same way. I usually come straight home and anyone who sees me going back into the house, well that's all well and good, but I have not been going into the village dressed, apart from my foray into the post office yesterday.
Hi Arora,
It is so good to here from you again. Your adventures always inspire me to go forward.
I am happy you are enjoying your new phase of life.
Paula
Thanks Paula,
I'm happy to hear my adventures inspire you.
What I have found is that when I first started going out, or getting out of the car when I arrived at my destination, was only present before I did it. That is, before I stepped out of the house, got out of the car or entered a restaurant. Once I had done it the fear would be replaced by a sense of 'There's no going back now.'
Hugs,
Aurora
