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It’s been a week since we had “The Talk”.
(I have posted the first 48 hours on my wall. Head on over after read this for more reactions and details.)
I don’t call it coming out, or out of the closet. To me it is “Revealing Myself”. I find it a more accurate description. I had told and showed my wife everything last Thursday Evening, and I do mean everything. 60 years of repressed feelings were released and discussed. She understood it all. She has 100% accepted me, no holds barred. So this past week has been an experience I never thought possible. I only wished it could have been years ago. When we had our long talk and we realized that we both need to work on our femininity. Yes, her included. My wife totally accepts me as I want to be. I have lived this past week en femme and loved it every minute. Unfortunately I really didn’t have much to wear so we got on Amazon and bought bras, panties, heels, make up, night gowns, blouses, a dress. So much! Then on Sunday we hit Kohl’s and bought some VeraWang dresses, skirts and tops.
Some stuff I found I really liked, she did as well. We could buy two of everything so I gave in to her needs, my way of saying thanks. We’ve painted our nails together, have had lots of girl talks, gone thru and purged our clothes. A lot of my drab stuff is donated or placed in another closet to make room for a new style of clothing. She even “purged” hers out as well. (She’s even picked up on the vernacular!) She’s a retired teacher so now she’s ready to be a new woman too. I adopted some of what she didn’t want as well. So this is becoming a journey we are taking together. She loves it and at 67 we both are having a blast. I am so much better off, I am much happier and my depression is gone. She sees it it too. I’m going to sign off by telling you all something I was so shocked to hear her say. “I love my husband. I now have him, 100% of him. You are my husband, my best friend and best of all my girlfriend!”
I hope you all can be as blessed as I have been.
Lisa.
(head on over to my wall next for the first 48 hours)
Added: FYI I showed her our CDH site and she is so happy we have this place for support. She was very impressed by this site and many of you. I want to see if she’ll join. I can say “CDH - Wife Approved!”
Lisa sounds so wonderful! I would love to dress with my wife but she is not a dresser, I think Iwill show her your post...loved the part of how you Both needed to work on your femininity. She supports me dressing but would love for her to really get into it and take us to the next level.
Great story and so glad it worked out so well
Lisa, your wife sounds wonderful. You must love her dearly. This is only a dream for me. My wife is not supportive or accepting. She does not want me to express my feminine side in any way. Did you think it would go in a bad way when you reviled your self to her? I am very pessimistic about my wife coming around. I do love hearing stories that have such wonderful outcomes. I am so happy for you girl.
That is so wonderful! Too bad you didn't do it sooner...but better late then never. Congratulations! 🙂
Wow!
As all of us who have emerged, as I call it, know it is a huge relief to stop hiding.
Those of us who have waited so long are especially happy.
Wow thanks for sharing this story Lisa! I am so happy for you and your wife to he able to have that burden of isolation gone and to have unconditional love and acceptance from the woman you love, your best friend has to feel so good and freeing to be accepted for all of you. Has to be a relief for your wife she had to feel that something was amiss with you or being being withheld from her like maybe you had walls built. For your wife to be eager and willing with all this and say “I love my husband. I now have him, 100% of him. You are my husband, my best friend and best of all my girlfriend!”
You are truly blessed to have that beautiful support and love it makes me happy for you and for your wife to have all of you. You two can have such a beautifully wonderful intimate relationship now so happy for you both.
Thank you for sharing.
Hugs April
Congratulations to you and your wife Lisa. I'm so glad for both of you. Hugs, Marg
You, my dear girlfriend HAVE BEEN SO BLESSED. -SAVOR IT! -BREATH IT IN AND REMEMBER EVERY MOMENT OF THIS DRAMATIC NEW TURN AND ADVENTURE AS YOU AND YOUR WIFE CONTINUE THIS WONDERFUL JOURNEY TOGETHER.
NEXT BIG STEP Together. Plan to spend the full day OUT together as two chatty girlfriends, going to lunch, catching a movie, and doing hours of shopping en femme with her helping you try on and change into dozens of delightful dresses. (show this post to her)
If you don't think you'll pass- have her help, make you up to transform into her new girlfriend or go to a place like ULTA and get a professional make-over; then take lots of pictures and continue to let us know on forum or your wall the results.
Carpe Diem!
Good Luck (listen for that duel click of heels on the sidewalk sister)
Meghan B.
Lisa, that is AWESOME!~ Glad she totally accepted and will participate! She is certainly a Unicorn. Keep us posted.
Oh this is so, so amazing!
“I love my husband. I now have him, 100% of him. You are my husband, my best friend and best of all my girlfriend!”
Wow, wow, wow 🙂 🙂 🙂
Huge congratulations to both of you ... let the fun begin!
Mega hugs
Ellie x
So happy for you! You are probably the happiest you have ever been. Your wife has given you a great gift just as you have given her one.
hugs, Robyn
That is SO amazing! Congratulations! I know there are many stories here of don't ask, don't tell, non-acceptance, grudging acceptance, and so on, and it always makes me a little sad that so many don't get supported at home in something so core to their being. It's just so wonderful to hear about the happy beginnings! I know it wasn't easy to have the talk, but you found the courage to show your self, and the trust in your partner to fully reveal the complete you. AND she embraced you! I love it! Yay, Lisa! All good things from here!
xo, Nikki
Nikki,
I use to be one of those DADT members. But I have been wanting, no, needing to discuss my life with my wife. It was the right thing to do. Once she realized all the pain I had gone through for years she made me whole for the first time.
She has seen a marketable difference in me and we both are glad this came about. It really is the best thing that could have happened to the two of us. I am still in shock.
The talk was easy. The hardest part was starting the conversation. That first step is the hardest. Each step became easier and easier. I opened up that let everything out. I have nothing to hide. It all out there. I do wish everyone had it as I did.
Thanks you, and all, for your support.
Lisa
What a wonderful result! Best wishes to both of you!
What a relief, eh?
