Knees Together? Is It Natural When Wearing A Skirt?

I myself find it extremely hard to cross my legs like a lady. I cross left over right and find it easier to lean to the right when crossing even pushing down on my knee to close the gap some. I do sit with my knees together and try to keep them closed. It is just another aspect that we must train for till it becomes natural.

Hi Lorie,

Great question! It has become more natural for me, after a lot of practice that sometimes even in drab, I catch myself sitting with a more feminine posture.  The other day, I noticed that I was keeping my knees closer together when walking as well.   It feels more comfortable at this point.  - Michelle.

Hi Lorie. For ladies....the positioning of legs when sitting is important for modesty. Men in pants can hold their legs apart because they are not showing a public display. Also...mens organs hang down and closing the legs make it hard and painful to do so, if they are well endowed. Being a crossgender to a lady or a cross dresser points out the many little things that must be learned if you ever are to pass 100 per cent. Checking make up, twirlin g hair, eating salad not burgers, how you hold your cigarrette and fold your hands makes a huge difference. Open and exiting doors is another one. Study real girls especially the classy ones....see how they behave.....become all you can be.

Dame Veronica

Hi Lorie,

To me this is one of the most important parts of our femininity, for two reasons. Firstly, as Veronica rightly says, it is a question of modesty. Secondly, it is a much more feminine, and graceful, movement. Great legs are a beautiful part of the female body,  and when crossed gracefully look gorgeous and very sexy. Like you Michelle, I sit with my knees close together most of the time and now cross my legs as a lady would. Sounds like your support group, Lorie, could use some practice with this. You have it absolutely right, and doesn't it feel wonderful?

Thanks for everyone's feedback. Davinia, I appreciate your support that I have the right idea about adopting lady-like behavior and mannerisms. What I find amusing is that I seem to be adopting the mannerisms simply by putting on  the clothes  The challenge for me at this point, as far as the gurls in our group is concerned, how do I bring it up without being in judgment or sounding like I'm criticizing or appearing to have a "superior" air about myself? I have a feeling that my best option might be to just set an example and hope that some of them will get the idea.

It seems like setting an example worked when it comes to clothes and outfits. It seemed like when I first joined the group a few months ago that some of the gurls did not go to much effort in their dress. I know how easy it is to become apathetic about appearances when attending a function for years. But I was so excited to be dressing in public that I took great care in assembling a look, and I really wanted to take advantage of the opportunity to wear something cute and feminine. Shortly thereafter, many who had been wearing jeans and t-shirts began wearing skirts and dresses.

Sometimes I have to remind myself that there are three kinds of business: my business, others' business, and God's business. This is probably not my business. I don't think the possible loss of friendships is worth the risk if I were to say something to the group about their unlady-like mannerisms. Discretion is the better part of valor.

That was all worth reading, thank you all. I agree 100 percent, mannerisms and how you present yourself is so important. I am so very new to crossdressing I find this to almost switch automatically when I dress, it's almost like a necessary part of the clothes.

I go into girl mode fully as soon as I put on a skirt or dress,I underdress 24/7 so I do find myself sitting and walking a lot more ladylike even in drab,I work on my female mannerisms constantly.

I'm with you, Lorie.  It is important that we present ourselves in as feminine and ladylike manner as possible.  I've studied women for years to learn their mannerisms and do my best to do as they do when en femme.

Yes. I keep my knees together. I forget at times and spread my legs  but have gottrn much better at that.

Unfortunately I have short legs and cannot cross them knee over knee  like a lady.

I am fully aware now of all these little mannerism over the years and agree with you Lorie that it is very important. I find myself keeping my legs together even when out and simply underdressed. These are important tell signs for passing. Acting fem is as important as looking the role.

Legs together , short skirt, stockings and heels it is only the only way to be.

Or when they cross their legs, it’s in the male style of calf on knee, with a visible gap in the thighs...

Until I read that I've never really noticed or thought how most males cross their legs.  But now you mention it, it is obvious.  I just tried doing it that way and it is most uncomfortable. I've always crossed my legs knee over knee or crossed at the ankles with the knees squeezed together.  No wonder my ex-wife complained that I sat like a girl.

Great! That's one thing I can cross off my list, just several hundred other things to get right...

I have started wearing skirts and dresses at a very young age, so I have had plenty of time to learn to sit properly. But I had to learn it first, as anyone else.

Maybe the ladies you met did not have yet the opportunity to learn that?

(Also, I should add that I can not, for the life of me, cross my legs as a lady. )

That said, a girl may also chose to sit improperly just to be provocative and/or seductive 😉

The challenge for me at this point, as far as the gurls in our group is concerned, how do I bring it up without being in judgment or sounding like I’m criticizing or appearing to have a “superior” air about myself?

You don't? because in doing so you will be edit:sound judgmental as there is not a single good/true way to be or to feel a woman.

What you can do, though, is keep on doing the things the way you think you should do them, and maybe this will serve as a model for other? Maybe they will ask for advice? Or maybe they won't 😉

Hi Lorie,

I'm with you, knees together when sitting or crosslegged. I mostly sit crosslegged even when in drab, but I wouldn't dream of sitting with my legs apart when wearing a dress or skirt, I think it looks horrible, which of course is why most women sit legs together.