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Lexicons & Lexicology & Pink Language

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(@valentina16)
Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
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Lexicon and Lexicology. Both interesting words. Both interested in words, Pink or otherwise.

As a confidant dresser in public, do you change your vocabulary when en femme. Does your guy-talk get unceremoniously flushed down the pan. Do blokes or dudes become sweeter menfolk. Does your language soften.

I’m not so interested here with the TLAs (three letter abbreviations), the AMABs or the OBGs of our world so much as the actual words you might use. Is it (excuse the preemption) in any way softer; is there in fact a Pink language?

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(@valentina16)
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I will also share that I haven’t yet entered the chat rooms here, bit afraid of being immersed in a new world perhaps. Maybe in time.

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(@mkat3874)
Reputable Member     Northeast GA , Georgia, United States of America
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For me, yes!  When I'm presenting lady-like I do my best to behave lady-like - mannerisms,  actions, conversation, etc.

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(@valentina16)
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Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
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@mkat3874 TY. Any examples of words you would or would not use?

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(@mkat3874)
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@valentina16 

No cursing or swear words for sure. Maybe a slip on rare occasion, especially when driving, but I'm more aware and in control of my conversation when in public.  

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(@valentina16)
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@mkat3874 So we’re concluding that ladies mind their Ps and Qs. I would tend to agree.

That said, I’ll be openly honest and share that I’m still processing my co-singer who was moved to call me a f…..g a……e, seemingly just because I wanted to also sing Speed of the Sound of Loneliness with her at the gig we were rehearsing for. Still not quite got my head around that. My worry is that she may just be right. 😔

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(@mkat3874)
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@valentina16 

Even the ladies have their public and private conversational differences.  While, from my observations, they may hold back a bit more in public they can sure let it fly when they feel comfortable with the company they are in. My wife may call me "sweetie" or "dear" if I say or do something that might bother her while out of the house but her address would be far less pleasant if at home. 😂

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(@valentina16)
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@mkat3874 …are you admitting to being a F….g a….e like me then?! Girls together!! 💕

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@valentina16 

Yes, I believe the shoe fits!

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(@valentina16)
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@mkat3874 perhaps a badge of honour then. 💚

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@valentina16 

🏅

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(@cherylt)
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Yes, my choice of words changes. I'd prefer not to sound like a trucker in a dress so I choose different wording to say things. Few men refer to anything as "pretty" they'll say it's cute. The change isn't drastic but more subtle. Listen to women speaking and then think about how men would say the same thing. 

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(@mkat3874)
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@cherylt 

I find that I use "cute" and "sweet" far more often when dressed, especially in public.  

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(@gracepal)
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@cherylt You just struck a nerve for me Cheryl. Men do tend to avoid the word “pretty”. (Always sounded gay to me.) I’ve had fun telling girls on CDH they look pretty - much because it’s a word I avoid in drab. It’s a girly word that’s missing from my drab toolbox 🥰

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(@ab123)
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The language is the same but my are there differences. 

Man to man - 'You okay'  'Yup, as well as can be' - 'Cool'. That's the end of the conversation.

Woman to woman - 'How are you' - 'Oh I'm okay, as well as can be'. - 'You don't sound okay, is there something wrong?'  'Well seeing as you ask.....

There is a very different dynamic in conversation face to face and behind the back. As a Trans person I have worked and been among woman and it has taken me a while to attune myself to conversation. Yes I may have female traits such as empathy and emotion but chatting is way different. Men would flush at what is said and I thank my biology ad medical knowledge for some of the nitty gritty discussed.

Perhaps CDH could create a diploma course.....

 

 

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(@valentina16)
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@ab123 It may be a book which is scoffed at by some and has perhaps outlived its usefulness, but, in my earlier quest to understand women (as if I could ever), I related well to the book by John Gray, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. One main difference was put forward that men will generally want to listen & fix. They need a solution to every problem posed. Whereas women will just soothe and calm with, ‘Yes I know’, not a solution in sight. But both approaches have their merits. Perhaps you have seen this first hand.

I do however, please excuse me, gulp at your stance that empathy and emotion are female traits. Final answer? Phone a friend? x

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(@ab123)
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@valentina16 Empathy and emotion was mentioned as it was something women colleagues that were introduced to the female me said about me as a male. To me that inferred feminine traits and that they could confide about personal issues in the course of my work that they wouldn't with other male colleagues.

Those traits aren't exclusively female but perhaps stronger in females is where I would be. 

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(@cdsue)
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Interesting question.

I think when dressed I am more careful in certain aspects (no swearing) and more free in others(cute, pretty, sweetie, et al). Throughout my life I was always careful not to use terms like pretty, beautiful, cute and other "girlie" words as to not appear less than manly. Now I use those words a lot whether en femme or en homme. It is so nice being able to truly express how I feel. 

I agree that women have public and private ways of talking. I'm a retired nurse and worked with women for 20 years. Some of the conversations that took place would make a trucker blush.

XOXO

Suzanne

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(@valentina16)
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Noble Member     Worcester, Worcestershire, United Kingdom
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@cdsue Some peace in your life it seems. 💚

And (attempting to resurrect an outdated and well-worn ‘joke’): “What does Dela wear, Suzy?”

 I will go sit back in the naughty step. 😉

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(@cdsue)
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@valentina16 never heard that one before, very good. In answer to the question frilly panties under a short leather skirt and a cute lace top.

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@valentina16)
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@cdsue Ooo-la-laaaa, my frilly friend!! 💚☺️💚

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(@valentina16)
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possibly showing my age here, but Perry Como released a punny song “What did Delaware, boys” with a follow-on verse, “What did Tennessee, boys”

As I promised, I will now go sit in the norty corner for at least five minutes. 🤓

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