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Lexicon and Lexicology. Both interesting words. Both interested in words, Pink or otherwise.
As a confidant dresser in public, do you change your vocabulary when en femme. Does your guy-talk get unceremoniously flushed down the pan. Do blokes or dudes become sweeter menfolk. Does your language soften.
I’m not so interested here with the TLAs (three letter abbreviations), the AMABs or the OBGs of our world so much as the actual words you might use. Is it (excuse the preemption) in any way softer; is there in fact a Pink language?
For me, yes! When I'm presenting lady-like I do my best to behave lady-like - mannerisms, actions, conversation, etc.
Yes, my choice of words changes. I'd prefer not to sound like a trucker in a dress so I choose different wording to say things. Few men refer to anything as "pretty" they'll say it's cute. The change isn't drastic but more subtle. Listen to women speaking and then think about how men would say the same thing.
The language is the same but my are there differences.
Man to man - 'You okay' 'Yup, as well as can be' - 'Cool'. That's the end of the conversation.
Woman to woman - 'How are you' - 'Oh I'm okay, as well as can be'. - 'You don't sound okay, is there something wrong?' 'Well seeing as you ask.....
There is a very different dynamic in conversation face to face and behind the back. As a Trans person I have worked and been among woman and it has taken me a while to attune myself to conversation. Yes I may have female traits such as empathy and emotion but chatting is way different. Men would flush at what is said and I thank my biology ad medical knowledge for some of the nitty gritty discussed.
Perhaps CDH could create a diploma course.....
Interesting question.
I think when dressed I am more careful in certain aspects (no swearing) and more free in others(cute, pretty, sweetie, et al). Throughout my life I was always careful not to use terms like pretty, beautiful, cute and other "girlie" words as to not appear less than manly. Now I use those words a lot whether en femme or en homme. It is so nice being able to truly express how I feel.
I agree that women have public and private ways of talking. I'm a retired nurse and worked with women for 20 years. Some of the conversations that took place would make a trucker blush.
XOXO
Suzanne