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(@sashabennett)
Noble Member     Wick, Caithness, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

A funny old day yesterday. Mrs B was out getting her hair done & I was waiting for the plumbers to arrive so I had a couple of hours to kill. Mooching through the TV options I came across a movie, The Danish Girl. I'm not usually a fan of drama's, I much prefer Sci-Fi films like Arrival or Interstellar but as this one featured Alicia Vikander who I very much liked in Ex-Machina I thought I would give it a go.

For anyone who doesn't know the film, it is a really relationship story about transgender artist Lili Elbe & her wife Gerde Wegener. It is based, at least in part, on a true story, tweaked for hollywood. Honestly I don't know whether to be worried or not having watched it. The number of parallels between my life & the characters in the movie were in many ways a bit too close for comfort. The most comforting part was the parallel between Mrs B & the Gerda character. Mostly the level of acceptance in both cases, although I think that she would probably feel the same if I went as far the Lili character. I'm not sure that I would want to find out for real even though it feels more like who I am these days.

As we are off visiting friends & family over the next couple of weeks we decided it would be a good opportunity for a clothes shopping splurge so we had a measuring up session last night & it didn't phase Mrs B one bit doing a bra fitting & dress sizing for me. This only reinforced my views on both the film's depiction of Gerda & how lucky I am to have Mrs B in my life. The one thing I definitely don't want to do is jeopardise this relationship, hence the too close for comfort statement.

At the end of the day this was just a movie but it had a much bigger effect on me than i had expected. Has anyone else seen this, or any other film that has made you question life this much.

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(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2191

@sashabennett 

I know of the film but haven't seen it yet so, following your appraisal, I'll make a point of watching.

Thanks for the post.

Allie 

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Duchess
(@alison-anderson)
Joined: 6 years ago

Noble Member     Middlesex county, New Jersey, United States of America
Posts: 1742

@sashabennett While it wasn't as pronounced an effect, about 10 years ago I went into New York en femme to see Casa Valentina, a Harvey Fierstein play about Casa Susanna.

When I saw the characters just sitting around and discussing life, and not overtly feminine things that seem to show up in fiction (makeup, clothes, etc.), it reminded me very much of the parties I attended en femme at my friend's home. Neither the characters nor myself and my friends there were different people just because we were dressed. Watching parts of the play made me feel right at home.

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Lady
(@sashabennett)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     Wick, Caithness, United Kingdom
Posts: 803

@alison-anderson Feeling at home is where I'm at right now (actually I am at home but you know what I mean) I have never been lucky enough to go to a party like that sadly, the closest I ever got was wearing a pink wig at a festival once. Not really the same but I know "it's so you can find me in the crowd" that's my excuse & I'm sticking to it. I hope your parties are still going & maybe one day I'll get the chance to try it.

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Duchess
(@alison-anderson)
Joined: 6 years ago

Noble Member     Middlesex county, New Jersey, United States of America
Posts: 1742

@sashabennett Sadly, due to personal circumstance, she stopped having parties, closed her transformation business, and moved away. She comes back occasionally and some of us join her for a meal at a restaurant, but it's not quite the same.

Getting my first makeover and going to her parties changed my life, and I would not be where I am today without these experiences. It's a time I will always cherish.

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Lady
(@sashabennett)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     Wick, Caithness, United Kingdom
Posts: 803

@alison-anderson That's a shame, they sound like they were a lot of fun. At least you have the happy memories though.

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1828

@sashabennett I've read the book, but not seen the film

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@sashabennett This is one of the many movies that I have in my unwatched pile. I will try to rectify that.

In addition to Alicia, Matthias Schoenaerts (Red Sparrow, The Old Guard) also has a lead roll.

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Lady
(@sashabennett)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     Wick, Caithness, United Kingdom
Posts: 803

@harriette I had to look him up, not a name I recognised. I haven't seen either of those movies but then, who has time for them all. One has to cherry pick. I wouldn't say that the Danish Girl one I would come back to again, as I said, not my usual style but worth viewing at least once.

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(@finallyfiona)
    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

I've seen it, although it was before I started getting any feminine feelings myself so I can't really comment on any parallels etc.  I was definitely rooting for the Lili character though, so well played by Eddie Redmayne.

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