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Hi All,
We all know the feeling, you've got a comfortable space you dress up and relax. For some it's going out to a place and for some it's just in our homes.
For me I'm mostly an underdresser, but I do wear dresses and such at home. My wife knows and doesn't mind. When I'm alone at home I'll wear full lingerie and I absolutely love lounging around in it. bodysuits, teddies, garters, thigh highs, corrset, you name it and I'll wear it. 🙂
Anyways, in the summer and fall times when I'm home alone lounging in lingerie I also enjoy being able to go out back of our house and sitting under the pergola on our patio. Relax in the satin, lace or nylon. Enjoy the breeze and birds with a glass of wine.
We do have neighbors but no one can see me back there. Well except for the second floor apartment next door. But that apartment has been empty for 7 years now so I've been able to enjoy. Recently, I noticed some work being done up there and ran into my neighbor when I was mowing the lawn so I asked him about it. (little did he know I had nice green satin and lace panties and thigh highs on under my dirty jeans for mowing.) He mentioned that they have enjoyed not having anyone living above them for so long, but with the prices of rent going so high in our area he does think they are going to rent the upstairs again starting this fall.
So there goes my private outdoor space unless I wear a robe over everything.
Anyways, I just thought I'd share. I'll just have to be sure to take advantage of that space when I can this summer.
Hugs,
Jenn
Jenn,
Have you thought about the possibility of adding a bamboo or other type of curtain on that side of the pergola? Something you can open when you want, but close off from prying eyes. I had a similar situation and had this as a solution.
Lisa Leigh
Hi Jenn,
Fingers crossed the renter to be might actually appreciate what they see. Get to know them and you might be able to confide in them so that you can continue to enjoy your home. It could happen.
Good luck,
Madeline
I'm so sorry you have lost your privacy as I so highly value mine but I'm amazed the apartment has been empty for seven years. Depending on the tenants if you get to know them it may work out, especially if there are no kids. Maybe you can put up a screen or something to get some privacy. Best, Marlene.
That was going to be my response. I too enjoy my backyard in various levels of dress, and am sitting on my patio fully en femme as I type. We have planted a few plants strategically and that has most solved the problem. We do have people across a small barranca (a small canyon or ravine for the non-Californians or people from flat typography.) if you look with binoculars you can see me, but my philosophy is if you are going to that much effort to.see things, I might as well give them something to look at.
Living in the country has benefits. Our nearest neighbor is 600meters away.
I live in a high rise building. When I first started dressing here, I used to close the curtains, but now I always leave them open. I realized that if someone does glance up, their first glance will reveal a woman and if that woman is wearing under things, they will look away. And if they stare and find out exactly what they are looking at, I’m sure they aren’t going to say anything since they won’t want to admit to being a pervert staring at someone in their finery. If I’m completely dressed, all they see is a woman. So, I think this will apply to you too with a second story tenant.
I live in a terraced house in a densely populated area..... My neighbours know that I'm a crossdresser. Most have met Cerys. No one cares!
So what if you new neighbours see you. No one will die. If they accept you for who you are or not, what difference does it really make? I was worried about what my neighbours thought as I like them and they mean a lot to me.
Do not let what others MIGHT think. Carry on doing what you do, as long as it's legal and decent.
Don't be a prisoner in your own home. It's your life. Live it!
Cerys
I had a similar disruption in my routine when we moved into a new place as well. My dilemma was lack of space in the new house -about 1/3 the size of the old one. I rented storage for about three months and then had to pack a lot of my feminine finery away. I'm slowly restoring it all, but I can't resist buying new stuff anyway. LOL
Hi Lisa,
I have begun looking into options for something like that.
Especially now that I have finished my workshop it'll give me a project to work on.
Side note: Lingerie isn't the best outfit to be wearing while using woodworking tools. But it is fun to do. 🙂
Hugs,
Jenn
Whilst I totally agree with your sentiments Cerys, and it does pain me to say this, I still think you have to be careful. You literally have no idea who could move next door to you, and in today's climate they may have extreme views.
I know you can't live your life thinking like that all the time, but I also think it's sometimes wise just to wait and see what new neighbours are like.
Katie
Yeah, but...once seen, it can never be unseen.
If that balcony was Jenn's safety zone, then she has to assess for herself what she has to do. I have a balcony of another building about 15' opposite of mine and 5 more that can see mine. There is no way that I will go out there en femme.
I live in a single level retirement complex and when the rare chance to become Caty at home arises, I can close off all the blinds and no one can see me. We do have a double story house next door with a bathroom window that looks down into our yard. So in the good weather I can go out there, but make sure I am obscured from the above. I dare not go out the front as Caty, for if I was seen, the gossip mill 'round here would shred its bearings and would be most unfair on my SO. (Who knows but does not want to know)
I can go to my 3m(10ft sq) storage unit and lock myself in there, its nice and comfy with carpet a window and power. But that's a bit too restrictive and I have to be at "desperate stage" to want to do it.
So I content myself with regular overnight charity volunteer stays. Business complete by lunch time, Caty time from then until check out next day
Happy dressing
Caty.