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(@cdashley)
Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
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Good morning all, 

Have you found that your feminine side still comes out when you’re dressed or not? The way you sit and maybe cross your legs, or put your hair behind your ears, the way you walk, the way you bend at the knees instead of at the waist. Anything you do and or changed from the early days. I’ve found the way I walk when doing groceries has a little sway in my step, my wife had mentioned on a few occasions my walk and the way I bend at the knees to get something from the fridge while making dinner( which I love even more while dressed). She did say one day that I may not want to fix my bra straps while underdressing as someone may pick up on it. So any ladies find these are just a part of everyday living now? 

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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Noble Member     Gateshead, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
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@cdashley 

Interesting question, Ashley. On the whole I reserve my feminine mannerisms for when I'm fully dressed. From time to time I'll change the swing of my arms when walking along the corridor at work. So long as no one else is there, that is!

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(@cdashley)
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Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
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@jacquelinelarkspur Well maybe I’m being a little forward when pushing my shopping cart as I’m normally in womens clothes while still presenting as a man. I just like the practice. Haha.

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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Noble Member     Gateshead, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
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@cdashley 

Practice makes perfect! Just so long as your shopping cart doesn't have a wobbly wheel. There's no good way to push those!

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(@melaniejames)
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Reputable Member     Manchester, Lancashire, United Kingdom
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@jacquelinelarkspur and the wiggle of the ass and hips or am I weird? Nobody watching obviously 🤣

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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Noble Member     Gateshead, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
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@melaniejames 

Maybe a little wiggle. And come to think of it, an occasional bend at the knees when getting something out of the fridge.

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(@melaniejames)
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Reputable Member     Manchester, Lancashire, United Kingdom
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@jacquelinelarkspur and knees close together.

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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@melaniejames 

Of course! 😀 

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(@chanel)
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@melaniejames I love this- it is the best way to get a more feminine walk, I practice walking with my knees close together all the time now with the hope that it becomes my normal walk.

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(@cdashley)
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@jacquelinelarkspur That’s where my wife noticed it.

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(@cdashley)
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@melaniejames oh they are watching. Don’t kid yourself.  lol.

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(@melaniejames)
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(@target)
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Estimable Member     MPLS, Minnesota, United States of America
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@cdashley. I definitely have incorporated feminine mannerisms in my daily routine including getting in my car the way a lady would wearing a dress or skirt, crossing my legs as feminine as possible, wrapping a towel around my body in the gym shower/steam room, practicing my walk on a treadmill and of course sitting to pee at all times. I could go on and on but the answer is yes I do.

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(@cdashley)
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Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
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@target That’s another good one. The way we get in and out of the car. Very nice.

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(@lucyb112)
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Noble Member     Staffordshire, United Kingdom
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@cdashley Interesting question Ashley.

I’ve found that this is happening more and more these days.

On my one day in the office I sometimes have to check myself, as I find I’m walking with far more of a wiggle than I used to. 
There are other things too, I always sit cross legged now, and I even find myself moving my hair back behind my ears, when I don’t really have any to move

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(@cdashley)
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Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
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@lucyb112 One of my wife’s friends was over and in the middle of there conversation she stopped and said “ why do you sit like a girl?”  I just replied “ its comfortable “

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(@lucyb112)
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@cdashley 

Although I’m not out to anyone, including my wife, she does allow me to wear ladies slippers around the house.

A friend was sitting in our lounge recently and she asked why I was wearing pink ladies slippers.

My wife just said “Oh, he loves his pink stuff” 

 

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(@cdashley)
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Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
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@lucyb112 That was a quick reply from wife eh. Had your back and maybe she knows more than you think.  🤔

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(@lucyb112)
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@cdashley I’ve suspected that she does for a while, but I’m happy to not test the theory

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(@cdashley)
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@lucyb112 I always say “ baby steps” we all go at our own pace.

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(@missylinda)
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@cdashley yes , I make a practice to cross my legs correctly or just hold the thighs together all the time. I think about walking erect  and of course smiling a lot. My guy self was such a sourpuss. Now if I could just give up drinking beer from a bottle.LOL

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(@cdashley)
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@missylinda Lol. Maybe try a glass for your beer.

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(@lauren114)
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@cdashley I have found feminine mannerisms moving into my daily life more and more.   This includes the way I move and walk, the way I gesture with my hands and even the way I speak.   I'm spending time en femme most days now including when I'm out doing my daily errands so I can see these mannerisms becoming more habitual for me.   There are times when I will still do things in drab and at these times my mannerisms are a combination of male and female but I feel that more and more the feminine side is winning out.

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(@cdashley)
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@lauren114 And there is nothing wrong with that hun. Just shows how you feel on the inside.

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(@lauren114)
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@cdashley I'm actually thrilled about it!

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(@cdashley)
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@lauren114 That’s perfect then. 🤗

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(@cdashley)
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@ellyd22 thanks Ellie, I’ll have a look when I get a chance to sit down. Thank you.

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(@alison-anderson)
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Sometimes I do feminine mannerisms, but they are usually intentional rather than ingrained. I may walk with a more erect feminine posture. I sometimes cross my legs like a woman, especially after losing a significant amout of weight last year (due to illness). I'll sometimes squat instead of bending at the waist just to practice my squats. During some of my Pilates moves I may try to be a bit more graceful.

But most of the time, these are conscious efforts on my part.

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(@ab123)
Famed Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
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I have found myself doing some feminine mannerisms on the rare occasion in drab. If aware I quickly auto correct  if it is too overt.

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(@cdashley)
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@ab123 Why not just go with it Angela?

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(@splitdecision)
Reputable Member     Doylestown, Pennsylvania, United States of America
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Yes , my feminine mannerisms and movement’s can show up when I least expect it and at times when I don’t want them to show. I’m sure it’s because some of theses mannerisms are a part of who I am and have become so ingrained they can’t help but show up. My posture, how I hold my hands, how I sit all of these can look very f at times. How I sit and hold the steering wheel while driving has become girlyish ( probably not a word) developed it while watching other women drive during my commute. I have to remind myself condone when driving with others in my truck. Because of back issues I’ve been bending at the knees for years, but how I do it has slowly become more women like and less like a guy. I can sense it while it’s happening. I’ll admit I enjoy when it happens. It helps me feel closer to my feminine side.

Natalie💋

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(@cdashley)
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Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
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@splitdecision Yes exactly, I just go with it and enjoy it .

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(@cdsue)
Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
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Ashley -

Funny that you ask this. I was just noticing this morning that I'm walking a little more femme without even thinking about it. I cross my legs at the knee (female style) and have done so even before coming out. I'll also sit on the couch sideways with my legs tucked up. I do pay more attention to my posture as well. The way I loop shopping bags over my arm or the dogs leash. 

Thanks for asking and bringing this topic up.

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@cdashley)
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Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
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@cdsue I believe it’s our femme side poking its head out when we least expect it.  lol

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(@charlottesometimes)
Estimable Member     Dayton, Ohio, United States of America
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There is a scene in the French film "The New Girlfriend" where a crossdresser has to quickly revert back to drab to host a visit from relatives.  Dressed in male attire he gracefully takes a seat, crosses his legs, and with a flourish rests his chin on his palm in a very camp manner for a man but a perfectly natural manner for a woman.  His nascent girlfriend glares at him and he realizes what he's doing and snaps out of it.

I need to remember the bra adjusting thing while underdressing.  I've been guilty of that a few times ... at work, no less.

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(@cdashley)
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Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
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@charlottesometimes I hear ya as I’ve done it a few times at home and work. Plus a had a hug from a co worker and they padded me right on my bra strap area.

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(@melodeescarlet)
Noble Member     Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
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I absolutely do have an entirely separate set of behaviors when dolled. However, I find that most of them come from the attire. My hands, for example - when I'm wearing the long, press-on nails, my hands are simply forced to interact with the world differently. Using my phone, opening doors or other objects, just picking something up off a table, etc. I'm not certain if my brain is driving my hands or my hands are driving my brain, but the presence of those nails changes everything. The same goes for heels, and jangly bracelets, and all the other accoutrement. 

Hence, for me, being in guy mode those behaviors don't kick in because the triggers for them are not present. Now, I will say that after Keystone last year, spending 4 straight days in girl-mode, there were a couple of lingering mannerisms I noticed, which was really, quite a delight. However, they faded away on their own.

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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Noble Member     Gateshead, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
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@melodeescarlet 

I've never worn false nails. I'd love to, but, y'know, circumstances make it difficult. So instead I paint my own, re-drabbing time permitting (which isn't often).

But yes, when I do have painted nails I find I'm far more aware of my fingers, and move them quite differently.

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(@lucyb112)
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@jacquelinelarkspur I’ve also never worn false nails, and very rarely get the chance to use nail varnish.

However, I have been growing my nails recently (I always kept them far too short and started to have problems with them) and I find that I am noticing a click on my keyboard, and having to use my phone slightly differently

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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@lucyb112 

I always wear chunky bracelets when I'm dressed and WFH. The clattering and clunking they do on the desktop drowns out any clicking my nails might make on the keys!

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(@lucyb112)
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@jacquelinelarkspur 

Yes, I always wear a bracelet when I’m WFH.

They’re not clunky, but one of them has a section that hangs down quite a bit and clunks on the keyboard.

It used to really wind me up at first, but now I love it

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(@cdashley)
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@melodeescarlet Nothing wrong with remembering 4 great days hun.

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(@justnikki)
Honorable Member     Seattle, Washington, United States of America
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Absolutely! In fact it's such a thing that when I came out to my daughter she said she had suspicions because of some of my mannerisms, but she didn't elaborate. My mannerisms sometimes lead my wife to say "there she is!" when I'm in drab. I think it's mostly how I sit and how I carry myself; my back is a wreck, so I'm constantly working on my posture. I also use my hands when I talk, and there's probably a bunch of subtle tells too. I do consciously work on my walk when I'm at the grocery store etc. so that might figure into it as well. Don't care!

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(@cdashley)
Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 4 years ago

Maybe the way I walk in the grocery store is why that lady asked if I was wearing a bra.  lol. 

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(@wendyswift)
Noble Member     Alberta, Canada
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in drab mode i'm pretty much your stereotypical male, man sit, fart, belch, .... all of the above.

In Wendy mode, i'll admit it is no better.   I try to be concious and walk abit feminine though, but I still man sit.  As I like wearing above the knee skirts, when you man sit well, it exposes pretty much everything.  Thank goodness for my wife who provides me constant reminders like "how are you sitting".   Still working on that one too.

About the only thing feminine I do when wearing a wig is brush the long wig hairs around my ears.  Yeah, I have a looooong ways to go.

 

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(@reallylauren)
Noble Member     Victoria, British Columbia, Canada
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I just saw this post, and have to reply before reading all the other replies from my sisters as I'm off to a meeting tonight.

I am intersex, I was born that way and inherited much of my mother's physical and facial features. I knew when I was a young and small child that I was supposed to be a girl. I have always identified as a female, and it was always apparent to others that I was very feminine. In school I was often targeted for ridicule, bullied and teased because of my feminine mannerisms. In my later years my own daughter would point out and complain about many of those mannerisms. The list is rather extensive, I am evidently guilty of the following: I talk, sit, walk, stand, hold my fork or spoon, hold or tilt my head, fold my arms, do hand gestures, laugh, giggle, throw a ball, run, cross my legs or ankles, and eat and drink....like a girl!

I believe that my feminine mannerisms are a natural and biological result of being born an intersex female. They weren't something I learned from other females, I've always been that way. Even when trying to do my best to hide and act masculine it was obvious that I was feminine. Where I now work, as a woman, one of the ladies I work with asked me one day where I learned to be so feminine. I told her I didn't learn, that is who I've always been and now I don't have to hide it!

I have to tell you that being free to be me, in every possible way, able to let those mannerisms be on display for all to see, is such an enjoyable experience that words don't begin to describe it!

Hugs girls, big hugs,

Ms. Lauren M

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(@catgurl)
Noble Member     Marietta, Georgia, United States of America
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On more than one occasion, I have introduced myself as "Peggy Sue" not realizing that I was in male clothing.  Sometimes I will catch myself, while other times the odd expression on the other person's face will alert me to my female "ooops" moment that I have blurted out my female name by mistake.  So what do I usually do?  Make a lame excuse, like, "Oh, I was thinking of a lady I know." 

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(@florapgh)
Trusted Member     Pittsburgh , Pennsylvania, United States of America
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I was always effeminate to begin with.  I had to learn how to act like a boy upon adolescence as a means of self preservation.  Always constantly wondering:  is my stance masculine; is my handshake firm enough.  Now that I have rediscovered my true feminine nature, I don’t worry as much about how I cross my legs when I sit, or how I walk or bend over to pick up something.  Of course, I’d rather be dressed in my preferred attire when I do those things, but understand my limitations when it comes to my women’s clothing.  

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(@michellemybell)
Honorable Member     Clearwater, Florida, United States of America
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I enjoy and feel comfortable walking, sitting, bending and toileting like a lady and no one has ever commented on that.  As of late, I find myself interacting with women in a much more feminine manner.  I compliment them on their looks, their clothes, their shoes, ask about their families, etc.  I help my wife browse through catalogs and pick out outfits and which clothes to wear for the day.  I've even done her nails for her.  This is new for me.  I enjoy my male side but Michelle is definitely becoming a more dominate part of my personality.  

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(@cdashley)
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Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
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@michellemybell I do a lot of the same hun. I and always have complimented woman on there clothes, if there hair is different, one woman here at my work gets her eye lashes done and I always noticed and she thinks that great how I do . I’ve also given my wife pedicures and painted her nails for her. She comes to me now and asks questions about outfits or which heels go better with an outfit. She has even asked me to show her how I did my eyeshadow when she was going out one night.

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(@florapgh)
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Trusted Member     Pittsburgh , Pennsylvania, United States of America
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@michellemybell the girl ALWAYS wins.  🩷

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(@carla66)
Estimable Member     Barcelona , Barcelona, Spain
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Es todo curioso, ahora no soy muy bueno con mi esposa, ella no entiende mi travestismo. Hablamos hace poco, ella imaginó algo. Una de las cosas que me reprochó fue que no soy varonil, y que cuando éramos novios alguien se lo contó. Y hasta ahora siempre me he comportado como un verdadero hombre. Pero estoy pensando y sí veo movimientos de manos, mi voz débil. Mire siempre la ropa de mujer en las grandes superficies. Sentir tacones en los pies me recuerda mis ganas de estar con botas de fútbol, ​​mis botas camperas.

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