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A chance remark by Grace on my latest topic 'How do I see other CDers?' made me think of something else that I think might be a quite interesting topic.
I know some folk here have put pictures in their private gallery showing themselves in 'man mode'; I must confess to thinking it might be interesting to do that, but I'd love to know whether others would do this (perhaps you already do).
Would it destroy the image of femininity that we have carefully nurtured, not only for others, but for ourselves as well, or would it serve to show how far we have come in our transformation from male to female?
Do you have pictures of your male self in the private gallery? Would you put any there or would this be a complete no-no?
After consideration, I'm not sure I would put any pictures of male me there, mostly because I don't want to see them myself. This is a bit one-sided because I'd love to see what others look like 'not-dressed'—or would I? Hmm.
I'll stop posting for a while now
Becca
I deleted my private photos, but none of them were of me en-homme, nor would I even think about posting any.
Hugs,
Anna xx
I started crossdressing to get away from what I had been doing decade after decade. 😉
Hi Becca i don't think i want to put up pictures of me as my male persona, I just want to put my Femme pictures up,
Hugs Roz X
I wouldn't Becca as that to me isn't what it is about but if others do then that's perfectly okay. But not for me.
I would have no problem doing except I am limoted to 5 photos, so I am not wasting them on drab photos.
I would never post pics of my male self. I do not have gender dysphoria but have socially transitioned and live 24/7 as a woman. I hope to never again appear as a male. I have never even told close trans friends my male name and would never appear as a male with them - I just want everyone to know me as a woman.
Never really thought about this I don’t think even private pics I could post male mode I don’t have to hide that from anyone lol here on CDH is a blessing to be able to share are feminine side and hide are pics from are SO lol 😂
Not me
"No way Jose!". 1/. I agree about facial recognition being too good these days and 2/. Who ever would want to see a photo of a baldheaded old geezer with a bit of a beer/wine gut **and more lines on his neck and face than a major!! city rail junction?
Nana/Granpa
Caty
**But at least the wine is very good stuff from "Oz".
So far I've only posted pictures of Gisela and it never occurred to me to post my male photos. I don't know what effect that would have on my private gallery. I'd rather share my female photos here. I doubt I'll change my mind.
Gisela
@rebeccabaxter I was in the chat once when Vanessa Friends posted a couple of photos of her guy self in the chat. It wasn't that there was anything wrong with it, I was merely quite surprised that anyone would do so. But I gave it some thought: Did I have any compelling reason not to follow suit? Was I ashamed to have my male self associated with Melodee?
All the answers came back 'no', and in fact only found reasons to follow Vanessa's lead. By posting photos it felt liberating to not only not feel like I was hiding, but to pull the curtain back entirely. I'd note that I did give fair warning to anyone present that it was coming and if they wanted keep the mystique of Melodee (if one existed) to look away. lol
I have a couple of side-by-sides that I'll post from time to time if the topic arises.
Even though I'm out and open I have very few pics. I wouldn't post any pics of the old me and in fact I rarely post any pics of the new me. This is because I really don't like any pics of myself. I think my face is aged to the point of passing as a Rolling Stone's Grandmother. My old self hid as a man with a woman's body shape and long light brown-gray hair. My new self lives as an intersex person with the same face and body as before but with longer blonde streaked hair. I have a strange dichotomy between my tired face and my feminine body. They are conjoined twins who squabble. So while I won't totally abstain from pics, I do try to avoid them. Also I never worry about people ID'ing me as my old legacy (dead) self and my current intersex self. Those two live together productively and peacefully. Additionally, I'm brutally honest with myself and don't adjust my pics other than to crop. What I see is what I am. I'm at peace with myself just not with my photo. Marg
I would not post male pictures of myself here. First of all, I rarely take any male pictures of myself. (In the past 2 months, I haven't taken many female pictures either, partly from not having the opportunity for medical reasons, and when I do, I don't want to spend the extra 10-15 minutes setting up the camera, framing, posing, and taking the photo, and put things back; I just want to get on with my day.)
I don't think I look all that different in female mode. I wear a similar color and length wig to my hair. Yes, my hair has gotten shorter over the last year due to chemo, and the wig is fuller and darker, and has bangs (fringes) to hide my male-looking forehead, but it doesn't make me all that unrecognizable.
I'm not that interested in the "image of femininity." If there is a particurly nice photo, I might post it here. The majority stay on my camera or get loaded to my computer.
The male me isn't the subject of this website. I'm not going to post pictures of the male me any more than I'd post a tourist photo, floral display, or any other non-CD subject. I posted a few scenic shots here, but only because there was a forum specificly for that. As for other photos, there are plenty of other websites for that.
I have done it, not here but on another site. A number of persons I knew had done so and I decided to do it as well. I guess I was interested in seeing what folks thought of my transformation, especially since I thought at the time my male self did not resemble my female self very much. That response was kind of underwhelming, and upon seeing the two pics side by side I realized I still have a LONG way to go before I can truly say my transformation is seamless - WAY too much of my male self showing! In short is was kind of a slap in the face of reality for me - good in a way as it got me on the road to improving my presentation. I probably won't do it again until I am sure the contrast makes for worthwhile viewing - and I can deal with diminishing the fantasy myself!