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Well, one of my big fears in showing my face here is for the people at work to find out. That's happened before with things. Once they printed off a photo I put on an online singles forum a few times and put them all over the break room. That person has long since retired and I don't think the new people who took those old peoples places would do that anyway. However after that sort of thing happens you get a bit nervous about putting yourself out there.
Then again....why would they be looking around a crossdresser/transgender website anyway?
Besides a lot of the girls know anyway, so what do you think? Should I put a full on unedited photo up? I don't think people who aren't members can even look around and see photos of us anyway can they?
Jessie
I think that only you can answer that question. but I have gone through the same thing. If you were to look through my photos, you would see that I was very shy about showing my face at first, and when it did a bit, I obscured it.
You make a very valid point, what is someone doing here that has no interest in this?? But there might be those who do browse through various websites, that aren't members, don't want to be, and are just looking at us oddballs, so to speak. Not that I think I'm an oddball, and I don't mean to be offensive, but others might think that.
Now, I post myself full face, when I think I look nice, as I want others to see me, and not hide, though I have not told many folks about this side of me. Also, I'm retired, so there are no coworkers (but many friends!) or bosses to be offended by my femme side. Of course, many. perhaps most will be accepting, but there is always that fear that someone won't.
It is a risk, that somehow, someone will see your picture, and recognize you, and then out you to others. There was a thread about this very subject here quite some time ago, if anyone has been outed by having their picture on this site, and the last I saw it, no one had.
I ended up seeing so many others posting themselves here, that I said, "What the H..." I may as well too!
Amy
Darling, if they're looking here, they're probably closeted CDs anyway.
If they got as far as the pictures, they're either really interested or really curious.
Either way, they probably wouldn't mention it if they did see your pictures for the grilling they themselves would get!
Anyway, a wig and a bit of lippy works wonders.
Love Laura
And you looked pretty good
I think anyone who found these things would be too afraid to reveal that they found them at all! I know that once i can make myself presentable i will be happy to share my face here. I can only hope that someone recognises me as I myself am always hoping to see someone I know in our world. Realistically for now at least being recognised should only help.
Before I signed up here, I saw articles and forum posts on this site from Google searches. I was able to browse around and see all kinds of pictures. For me to show my face...I don't even do that very much on my facebook account.
Jessica, since I’ve joined CDH, I have taken beaucoup de photos while dressed, most showing my unobscured face, all with the intention of posting them to my Profile’s “Private Photos” repository but have never had the courage. Arguments made by Aoife and Laura notwithstanding, I would surely die of humiliation if anyone who knows, or knew me, saw them – even if they were CDs themselves! I have yet to look at a self-taken photo of myself and see someone other than me – unmistakably me. I would need a Hollywood-level makeover to render me unrecognizable en femme.
And then, too, I have seen the photos of so many other CDH members, especially those I’ve friended, and I know I can’t come up to their level of accomplishment.
But maybe one day, like Amy Myers, I may say, “Oh, what the hey, maybe I will as well.”
Presumably the images only came up because you entered specific search terms, though - probably including cross dressers?
Again, to find the content in Google, that's what you would have to be positively searching for!
Love Laura
Well I kind of was...yes.
I'll admit that I tried another site before this one. My account there kept getting removed by the staff after a single day. After the third time, I sent them an email explaining the scenario and kindly asked if they could explain why my account kept getting removed. Months later, no reply so screw 'em. This site probably has the better community anyway.
When I was in the closet I didn't post face pictures anywhere that people could see them (my Flickr pictures were set to Private, so they were only visible to me). After I came out to my wife, I was happy to post online in forums or sites like this. I reasoned that if anyone saw the pictures it was because they were specifically looking for things like that, so any negative developments off the back of it would be just as likely to impact the picture-finder than it would me.
Now? I don't worry. I've been recognised in the street as a guy by people who've only previously seen me in femme mode, so there's nothing left to hide really.
I have only two features that make me a woman, my face (always been a pretty boy) and my legs. As I am thickening round the middle finding a pic where I don't look like a female hippo is getting harder.
Should I try photo shopping and look like a 7 foot tall amazon warrior or concentrate on headshots?
Damn it, I'll buy bigger dresses, be fat and fabulous and show my face in defiance!!
Sally xx
You make my day Roxanne, several times a day. xx Sally.