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I think this post could go to the both sites or maybe not. I want all of us here to achieve what we are striving to achieve in our own ways. As for myself, I don't want to transition, I don't want to wear wigs. I am not against it in anyway and I will fully support all of you if that what you want for yourselves. I want to be myself, wear panties, leggings, jeggings, shorts, or maybe a skirt someday. Clothes are for me not other way around. Some day I feel like wearing masculine attire with my panties underneath, lol! Other days I envy form fitting short shorts as I have no desire to flash my panties, yet I am not completely ready for that yet.
I apologize if my post sounds pushy. It is not my intention. I am very open to any advice, suggestions, and any criticism. I don't know all the answers and I wish I would be understood and accepted here. Thank you and I wish all of you the best in your vision of yourselves.
Hi MeMyself
Welcome to CDH
I'm not sure what you mean by 'I apologise if my post seems pushy'.
As far as I can see, you haven't said anything that might be offensive to anyone or be taken in the wrong way. All you've done is say how crossdressing manifests itself for you.
To summarise:
- some days you like to wear panties while you're in drab.
- some days you like to add leggings or shorts to the ensemble (and you think that one day a skirt would be nice).
- you're not a fan of wigs.
None of that is even remotely controversial.
CDH has 46K members. Some are at one end of the 'spectrum' and are occasional crossdressers who simply love the look and feel of women's clothes; others wear women's clothes since they identify as women. I'm one of the latter 🙂
There are members at all points in between.
Only a small percentage of our membership are actively transitioning, or considering doing so. However, one thing I can pretty much guarantee is that we all like panties 🙂
Crossdressing manifests itself in different ways for different people. Thankfully, there IS no rulebook. What each individual does is valid, and what each individual does is absolutely worthy of respect.
The best advice I can give is 'You do you'.*
Ellie x
*I see that JJ has said exactly the same thing. Great minds!
@memyself Welcome to CDH, MeMyself!
We all have the right to dress the way we want. A major problem with that is how others deal with us dressing the way we want.
Stick around, read the threads, join in on the live chat or the topics that interest you. I look forward to hearing about your own crossdressing adventures.
@harriette I think you just nailed the core issue of the societal boxed limited thinking about "appropriate masculine and feminine expressions and roles ". It all artificially made up to keep people in line and sadly many people internalized it so much they don't even realize nor question it's validity.
@memyself Oh, yes, society in general definitely has its constraints on what it finds acceptable, but we here on CDH are doing what we do best to push those boundaries back a bit further.
@harriette I never thought I would become kind of a rebel. Yet I need to stay true to myself or there's no other path to my own happiness. So if that means peaceful rebel, so let it be.
You are doing you, and that is a good and important thing. We are all on our own journey and have our own destinations, and we are all better and richwr for it.
There is no right or wrong way to dress as long as qe are respectful of others, and, of ,course, causing no harm.
Just enjoy your exploration where ever it may take tou.
@jjandme thank you so much for your kind words. I hope I did not appear as disrespectful
I do not think you came across as disrespectful at all. As I said, we are all on our own path...you do you, and I will do me and everybody can be themselves. Life and society would get along swimmingly if we all respected each others choices.
Thank you so much everybody for your thoughtful feedback and support!
I will never forget how I was driving to my first support group (ironically on the international day of coming out in 2023 lol. I didn't plan it this way, seriously) with my heart speeding even I knew I wasn't doing anything wrong. I was wearing one of my favorite pair of panties, black leggings, socks underneath, blue long sleeve man's quarterzip top and black man's sneakers. I was not looking flashy at all and I really prefer comfort and functionality and rather understated styles. I never thought how much traditional thinking about clothing would cause me to freak out being dressed the way I just described. The support group went well and it was the first time I openly stated out loud " I like to wear panties " with my heart still speeding, lol!
OMG, you mean not everybody wears panties.
Hi Lacy ! I just didn't want to assume. I been many times down underwear sections in the stores and I never saw other person who looked like a biological man. Before I started digging on internet I often felt like a lonely unicorn. I knew that logically my desire to wear panties was making sense for me as I found many types of panties closely resembling male underwear. So I thought, who cares about the tables, let's look at the real differences. It was self validation that helped me to keep moving ahead. Finding that I am not alone many years ago in my tastes and underwear preferences was a huge relief as you might guess.
