Mean Girls

people say mean things when they can hide behind their computer. its different when in person. they probably wouldn't say anything to your face.

Hi Diana!

Yes it's tougher for some people than others.  Rachel has it right though...people can say anything behind a computer.

My 2 cent opinion...thats a site you shouldn't be on because obviously they have no idea about what compassion and support are.

The really best thing if your at this point...Go OUT!!  I know Rachel is a big advocate of it too...

Go OUT!  The more you go out, the faster and greater your confidence will build.  You'll realize how doors will open when strut with confidence as your TRUE self!

Haters will hate no matter what you do...pay no attention to them.

Robyn 🤗❤️

I lost 45kg doing keto. I now wear size 12 / 14 jeans.  It took me 18 months.

I'm happily married so I can't help you in the dating arena.

I'm sorry you're experiencing such negativity... but as previously said by Robyn... time to leave that site and get out and about more. Start with any nearby Rainbow group of search out sisters here, on CDH.
I understand what you're trying to do but in my pre-Polly days I dated online literally hundreds of times before meeting my wife (of 14 years) at a party!
Too many trolls/cowards sitting at home ruining the lives of those they resent or are jealous of! Just raise your middle finger to those trolls and rethink!

Chin up and step out Diana... hugs Polly

PS: I'm not a midget either and I'm known in the cycling world as a 'Clydesdale'... so we all have our crosses to bear

Hi Diana, glad you found us here. There are some tough folks out there who seem to want to beat up on others, but I think you have found a good place here.

This is a very accepting group of like minded girls, and we try to give each other support. This need we have causes so much conflict in our lives and it can be difficult to get through. I think one of the biggest things is to accept one's feminine side as part of what makes us whole, and it can take some time to get to that point.

Spend some time with us, and read some of the great articles posted here too.

Though I currently have a partner, I have been single though many Valentine's Days! It is difficult when one is single and would really like to have a person to share it with. That is how I feel about Mother's Day now. All those ads about do this, do that for your Mum, I just wish I could, but she passed some years ago now.

Weight loss is also difficult and usually means some some kind of lifestyle change. I'm sharing some more sadness in my life, in you want to stop reading do it now.

For some reason, after the loss of my Father, I kind of lost all restraint when it came to eating deserts, etc. I didn't have the same issue with the loss of my Mum, maybe because I was supporting my Dad, as he needed it. So I gained about 25 lbs, and it took a few years to turn myself around. With some advice from my doctor, who suggested a high protein, low carb diet I lost quite a lot of weight. I have never had issues with high cholesterol, so the high protein was not a problem for me. For some it might be. What I did is similar to the Keto diet, which many have found successful. The biggest thing I don't really need to say, is to be consistent.

The best thing I read was like this, "you didn't gain this in a week or two, so don't expect to lose it in a week or two", or something like that. Which I did, lose the weight I gained, and more, and have kept it off for some years now.

Hi Diana,

And I'm sorry you were treated so poorly by a community which should certainly know better.
It just proves the old saying that there are more horses' behinds than there are horses.
You shouldn't have any problems here.

Hugs,
Bettylou

I think you'll find the girls here supportive, Diana.

I started out very slowly.  I spent many years just dressing at home.  I started out with just some lingerie.  Later I added other clothes.  After that, I added make-up, wigs, shoes, breast forms, etc.  I worked on presenting a complete feminine image.  My confidence grew over time.  Finally, a couple of years ago, I was brave enough to go out in public.  I haven't looked back.

Hi honey, keep your chin up and don't let me get to you.

There's a saying I've developed, if I can get though (insert most difficult issues you've had here) then I can survive this.

Honey the people in that group should be ashamed of themselves.

Love Trish.

Just hang in there Diana. It will get better.

Big hug to you,

Lee Ann

People can be AH. I find the same on those sites as well. I stay away from them. People can say some awful things and yes words do hurt. You are better than they are remember that. People can be so shallow. Don’t listen to them. Be proud of who you are. Only opinion of you that matters is yours.

Hi Diana,

I hope you find the support and friendship that you need. With honesty comes vulnerability. I think it takes some time to get used to that.

- Robyn

Diana
The folk who say mean things from behind the safety of their computers are nothing but cowardly bullies. CDH is a good place for you to be. You will receive nothing but kindness here and that is the first step to being kind to yourself and about yourself. We are all loving sisters on CDH and we are all rooting for you.
Love and Hugs
HildaRuth 💋💋

Diane please ignore those other sites they are not worthy of you, we all here at CDH accept you as you are and do not judge you.

Best Wishes

Sarah

Diana, pay no mind to those naysayers.. and just be the beautiful you that you are..im always available to chat if you need to!

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