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I’ve personally not met any other gurls, but would love the chance one day. Just wondering how everyone else feels about this, and if they have, did it live up to what you expected, or if you don’t want to, what are your reasons???
I am hoping to meet fellow dressers some day. Reading the stories of those who venture out gives me inspiration. I currently see myself as a MIAD, but are working on my makeup to develop a more convincing appearance.
From what I’ve read so far, it’s not always about passing as a woman, more about felling you are and being accepted by others.
I would love to meet other crossdressers but am not confidant in how I look.
I had never met another until attending a Tri-Ess meeting age 60. I thought it a one-off experience, but it surpassed any expectations in extremely positive ways. I was impressed that the great majority are married with children, heavily involved in church and charity activities and more "normal" and caring than most other people I have come to know. Most of all, I was impressed with the love of the CDs for their wives, and, more importantly, the love of the wives for their spouses. It brought me to tears. I was attending in part because I was trying to get over my wife leaving me after 40 years married and pretty open to exploring things I had never dared consider before. I was not expecting to see what I found, but knew it was worth sharing with others. I spent 6 years on the Board as Outreach Director, wanting to help others learn what I had learned, hoping to save marriages, educate counselors and others with misguided notions and false stereotypes. This led to college presentations and other efforts to educate and bring light to dark, seemingly mysterious places.
I no longer fear the unknown. I embrace it. There is nothing more freeing than shedding the illusions that bind us to false ways of thinking... getting personally involved. Presenting in front of a classrooms or church congregation or freeing Rhonda to actively participate in co-ed groups while en femme overcame my fears of public speaking. I learned the art of self-acceptance and acceptance of others. Feeling comfortable in my own skin wherever I went brought me from the brink of suicide into an exciting world I never knew existed, one where I now feel totally free to embrace and express a feminine side I had long suppressed and offer a welcoming hand to many I previously dismissed as having little to offer. Recognizing one's prejudices is sobering. Overcoming them opens up a new world of joy and freedom!
I totally agree, but if you choose your moment right, there is safety in numbers. I keep seeing loads of “girls” nights where loads of us would turn up. I’d personally love to do it one day. It’s lovely to be able to chat online, but it’s not quite the same as a proper night out!
Well, I can’t really follow that, you said it all. Thank you for sharing
It’s the best thing ever.
Don’t worry how you look!
Just be yourself and you will be surprised …we all are not perfect.
Some of the girls I have met are now closer than my long term non Carole friends as they know the real me and understand me.
❤️Carole
I could not imagine looking presentable as a female, had no clothes, and didn't know how to spell "mascara", let alone how to apply it. Having no clothes or any skills at all I found a lady who considered herself an artist, bringing reality to people like me. I was totally amazed that she could actually bring out feminine features and could not recognize myself in the mirror. A good makeup artist can do wonders. I suggest looking for a dressing service. Short of that, if you have courage, go to a MAC counter and ask them to see what they can do with you... or visit a salon after hours after first calling to be sure you will be welcomed. It is not difficult to find places where you can get a makeover nowadays, with nothing thought amiss. You'll be glad you did. Go early enough to allow time to spend time out and about afterwards. Or attend a support group meeting if you can find one in your area (or contact me if you want suggestions.)
Yes, It's all about acceptance... primarily SELF-acceptance. If we love who we are we can more readily love others. And what better way to love who we are than to put on a dress, hose, heels, makeup, perfume, and all things feminine!
I have not worked up the courage to go out fully dressed yet. I have no issues being around the house fully dressed and going outside but I just can't work up the courage to go somewhere I might meet others. I recently told one of my close friends about Syndee and she fully supports me. She is excited and wants to have a girls night out with her, my other friend and my wife. All of them have agreed to do it and I know that there are local places that are safe and supportive. I just need to work up the courage to do it.
In September 1979, I went for a makeover from a woman who ran a transformation business from her home. She mentioned she has parties at her home.
In December, I left work early to attend a "pre-Christmas party" event. I couldn't stay for the party (I was expected home), but met my first few crossdressers/trans women.
By Febrary 1980, I was attending monthly parties at her home. In October of that year, I was even in a show she put on as a celebration of 5 years in business.
Since then I have met many crossdressers, trans women, and supporters (both male and female).
In April 2013, I attended my first conference in Albany, NY. In March 2023 I attended my first Keystone conference.
I started attending another group (a former Tri-Ess that broke off from them) and started attending these meetings as well. The other parties were becoming less regular.
A few years ago the woman who did my makeover and threw the parties had to close up shop and move. I still keep in touch with her, having attended so many events, both in and out of her home.
I was surprised how many beautiful women don't even attempt to feminize their voice. But even when in public, I see no reaction when they hear a male voice coming from what looks like a woman.
So yes, I've met plenty of crossdressers over the years.
As I often state on this site, "being one of the more "mature members"", I can go back quite a few decades to my first meeting with a CD, First up here in Melbourne, but in drab of course. Then as my job gradually expanded into frequent interstate and international travel, I met up with lots of other lovely, (and some not so lovely) CD's. Initially most Australian capitals then UK, America and Canada were my main occasions. Mostly that's cos the above is where most of my travel took me to, including over the years 3 CD formals/conferences.
Loaded to the gills with clothes for "both of us", including make up, breast forms and wigs etc. Product samples and literature etc etc.
Again, to repeat a couple of my hoary old one liners. Comments made to me by "persons various"
"All that travel must be a real drag"
" You have enough luggage there for two"
Response?? Yes, well quite so"
These days I belong to a lovely little private CD email group and have on odd occasions met up with some of them, either in drab or as Caty.
Happy dressing
Caty.
I went to a pub night with the Xpressions group in Toronto and met a group of lovely ladies. Other than that I met another at my fav shoe store dsw.
I used to work with a transgender woman so I voted yes. I never talked to her about gender things, I was still in denial about myself at the time. She was a very nice person and we worked well together.