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Meeting someone else in the wild

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(@kt1819)
Honorable Member     Ottawa area, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 7 years ago

I have seen other CD in the wild and always been to scared to approach them so this time I decided to not to that again. 
I was in a thrift store and did see one looking at some shoes. I did look around at some also and then asked "found anything good?". She did show me some and we talked a little about how hard it is to find right size.
I did go to check some other things but felt I could do better so I did then go back and introduced my self. We started talking and in the end exchanged some info to meet up online.
I know it exist other people like me but never managed to really do much of a meeting with anyone here around (had to go to keystone for that). Now I found out how to hopefully get in contact with more rainbow people that I may have something to exchange with.

/Kelly

 

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(@melanieelizabeth)
Joined: 4 years ago

Honorable Member     New Jersey, United States of America
Posts: 502

@kt1819 Cool story Kelly, I’ve never done that personally. Good for you and I hope that chance meeting turns into a real friendship over time. Ty for sharing.

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
Joined: 1 year ago

Famed Member     Gateshead, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 1497

@kt1819 

I regularly visit charity shops, and quite often see men tentatively sifting through the racks of women's clothing and shoes. And even though we're looking at the same stuff, each of us probably suspecting the other is a CD, we never speak in case we're wrong.

Thank you, Kelly. You've inspired me to be a bit braver in future.

Interesting post about an interesting situation.

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(@Anonymous 94505)
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@jacquelinelarkspur Haha say hi to me next time.

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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Famed Member     Gateshead, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
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@melaniejames 

I will if you give me the sorority wink.

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Lady
(@denises924)
Joined: 1 year ago

Reputable Member     Massachusetts, United States of America
Posts: 210

@kt1819 

Hi Kelly
This is a nice little story. I bet your new acquaintance was happy that you said "Hi". I'm sure it was nice to be talking IRL to another girl. Sounds like fun.

Denise
❤️

 

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(@pattyphose)
Joined: 9 years ago

Famed Member     Long Island, New York, United States of America
Posts: 2296

@kt1819 That's so great you met another one like us "in the wild". You handled t so well.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4018

@kt1819 Today, I was out and about and remembered that I want another cloth measuring tape, to carry in a new bag, so I went to a dollar store.

I approached where another customer had her back to me and I happened to notice her clothes. Shoulder length hair, knee length coat and probably some sort of frilly dress, calf-high boots and filling them were two skinny, very hairy legs. Later, I saw that there was the beginnings of a moustache, too.

At least I am not the only CD out there with the abilities to confuse people. 😇

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(@kt1819)
Joined: 7 years ago

Honorable Member     Ottawa area, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 606

Update: Thanks to the initial contact done almost a year ago I now got several new friends. Before the only people I knew about was people here and the ones I meet on keystone conference. This group of friends are local in town and we have regular meetups and other activities. Being an introvert it's hard to have a social life but I feel I need it and this change have really helped me.

/kelly

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(@joanarbour)
Joined: 9 years ago

Reputable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
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@kt1819 what a beautiful breakthrough for you.

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(@patches)
Estimable Member     Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

It's never a bad idea to speak to strangers (now that we are adults 😊).  Strangers are friends we haven't met.  Good for you!

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(@stephanieann)
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Prominent Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
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@patches 

Very well said Patches !!!!

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Lady
(@esmewthrwx)
Estimable Member     Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I've encountered some ladies (CD a TG) in the wild. Never had the nerve to say hello. What we need is some kind of secret handshake or something like that.

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
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Famed Member     Gateshead, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
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@esmewthrwx 

I had exactly the same thought just the other day! Only trouble is, in the UK our natural reserve would probably prevent us from shaking hands with a stranger. Maybe we could wear a badge...

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
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I agree, it is so fun to meet new people regardless of background, or maybe because we get exposed to alternate backgrounds. The world is full of too many new, neat, and interesting people to not open up to them.

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(@justnikki)
Prominent Member     Seattle, Washington, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

If I'm shopping for womens clothes in-person, I'm en femme. I've never encountered another crossdresser while doing so, as far as I know. I don't pass well, so it's not a case of "is she or isn't she" but it doesn't bother me if someone approaches me. On the other hand, if I saw someone shopping en drab, I would never say anything. If they were crossdressed, I might comment on the item they're looking at, nothing more. Honestly, though, I'm in my own world when shopping and barely take any notice of others at all.

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(@rebeccabaxter)
    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

I was at the theatre a couple of years ago and saw someone en femme in the audience with, I presume, his SO. I wasn't even considering cross-dressing at the time but I was impressed with how good they looked (although one could tell they weren't female). I was tempted to say how good I thought she looked during the interval but thought of a load of reasons why I shouldn't (and didn't):

1) They might not want attention drawing to the fact that someone clocked they were male.

2) They might have thought they were so good at passing that someone commenting on how good they looked might have been an affront.

3) They may actually have been transitioning and my commenting, however well-intentioned, may not have been appreciated.

4) They may have thought I was taking the p*** (English expression, perhaps).

So I said nothing. If it had been me [now], I think I would have been quite pleased with such a comment, but they were not me so discretion was the better part of valour.

Should I have commented or did I take the right course of action? It's quite a quandary.

 

Would YOU have liked someone to say something complimentary in that situation?

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4018

Posted by: @rebeccabaxter

Should I have commented or did I take the right course of action? It's quite a quandary.

 Would YOU have liked someone to say something complimentary in that situation?

Sometimes discretion is the better part of valour. You will never know in your example, but maybe a new meeting will allow you to approach someone else.

What's the worst that can happen? It will be clear pretty quickly whether you made the right choice.

 

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(@finallyfiona)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 1461

Maybe an opening such as 'Ooh, I like your coat' might have worked?  It says as much about you as it does about your having noticed them, and not in specific.  It allows for either a polite thankyou from them to end the exchange, or a response that invites a little further conversation if they're happy with it.  Or a warm smile could only impart positive vibes, surely?

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(@stephanieann)
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Prominent Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
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@finallyfiona 

  Very very smart ,  I lov how you mind works  

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(@stephanieann)
Prominent Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

I have to say I agree very much with what Fiona  Finlay said v and especially how she said ,  !!

Quoting Her : Fiona  Finlay

Maybe an opening such as 'Ooh, I like your coat' might have worked?  It says as much about you as it does about your having noticed them, and not in specific.  It allows for either a polite thank you from them to end the exchange, or a response that invites a little further conversation if they're happy with it.  Or a warm smile could only impart positive vibes, surely?

Beautifully Said , Well.Put   

Something we could do !!

Huggs 

Stephanie

 

 

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(@finallyfiona)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 1461

@stephanieann Thank you Stephanie 🙂  Although it's very early post of mine, I must have had my feminine head on that day.  That's just the sort of thing that the girls say to each other!

Hugs,
Fiona xxx

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
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Prominent Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
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@finallyfiona 

Your most welcome Fiona .

Stephanie👠 

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Lady
(@ashleigh)
Noble Member     Ocala, Florida, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

Thanks for sharing this story. I have never encountered another crossdresser ( that I know of ) when out dressed. I have spotted a few at other times. I have never had the nerve to speak to them. Perhaps I will next time thanks to your encouragement.

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