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Hi Sisters... friends...girls who give me strength. It's been quite tumultuous around here lately hasn't it? Not only is February a depressing month to begin with, and the weather miserable ( except for you lucky southern hemisphere girls ), this perpetual pandemic is fraying the nerves of the best of us. Bad days seem to be a lot more common- for me anyway - than they were last year. Hell, I havent gone without work this long since 2004 when my father died and I totally lost it for 6 months, I'm certainly in a rut myself in that regard. But even now I still come here because I feel better being around " my people ", as a friend once put it. My fellow sisters here warm me, whether they are being sad, mad, silly, sassy, or just crazy. You girls have melted my heart one moment, and made me roll my eyes the other moment, and I love you for it. And it makes my heart cry when girls leave, especially the good ones. I realize such things happen for several different reasons as we move on and forward with our journeys. We have lost a couple of our sisters ( my friends ) lately and once again my heart is heavy. I had just recovered losing my dear friend Kay months ago and now must grieve more loss. I realize as a support site that it is inevitable that people come and go as they gain what they need here and grow in life, but it still hurts. Our greatest strength, diversity of opinion, can also cause friction at times, but these things are - or should - be trivial when compared to the grief and friction we have all experienced as crossdressers/ transgenders. When someone makes fun of me and laughs at how I look and I cry, I feel better coming here. (Honest at times I have run here). What the hell am I getting at? I dunno, I've been rambling I think.... but each girl here should hug themselves and love who they are and know how they help others by just being who they are. And I do not want to start singing Kumbaya in a circle, but can all give each other a hug?
As a P.S. - please realize management sweats there butt off working and trying to keep us all here together happy and safe! More than one night ends in tears and sadness for the admin too.
Sorry for my rant or whatever this was...
You girls do mean a lot to me even if I do not show it as much as I'd like to. Okay, I'll just finish now and seal this with a kiss.💋 ... and smile 😁.
Stevie "honey girl"
Not a rant at all Stevie. I’ve wondered about these things as well. I’ve only been here two months but know that there are many who came here before me and many to follow. We know there are roughly 30,000 members on CDH but obviously not all active. That tells me that the membership is constantly churning. It also makes it safe to assume that there have been other “shooting stars” in the past and likely will be in the future as well.
I’ll miss Grace as many others will too. But we can only be in the moment that we have. Rejoice in it while you can.
One of my favorite songs is Gathering of Spirits by Carrie Newcomer. And one of my favorite lines from that song is, “some give it all in one great flame, throwing kisses as they pass.” That’s our Grace Scarlett.
So here’s to all the shooting stars past, present and yet to come.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=F3Z_YVugvQA
Best,
Clara
A prescient observation, Stevie. Thanks for sharing it. We all seek connection and to be seen. This site has connected me with some wonderful sisters in my geography and beyond. For that I'll forever be grateful. Meeting CDs/transwomen and cis-allies while en femme for the first time was a truly mind-blowing experience, and it wouldn't have happened, or at least happened the amazing way it did, without this safe an encouraging website.
Seems that friends and acquaintances often have a natural rhythm of connecting and disconnecting through the years. Life happens, as they say. May you find new friends and keep others close for the whole ride!
Hi Stevie,
Not a ramble at all. Thank you for posting this has been a terrible past few days for me. Yes, we could use that group hug right now.
Stevie, it has been a hard year for sure, but I want you know that you are an inspiration to me, and I mean that with all my heart, “hun” 💖❤️😀
Very well put Stevie.
Isabel x
Don’t you dare Steph!
And get hold of Ms Scarlett if you can.
Stern Clara (wagging her finger at you)
Thank you Steph. I hate seeing people leave, and I still feel this was a snowball that grew way out of proportion for what it was. I'm sure we could sit down and find blame and grief to spread around, but what would that solve? Like to think at CDH the whole is greater than the sum of the parts, and the fresh parts joining us daily adds to the greatness. Still, before others leave over.... this, please remember you have many other girls here that do not want to suffer more friends leaving over this.
And, I never give up on thinking our once departed girls may return again.
Stevie
Hey, I must have missed something, what happened to get everyone so upset?
Hi Honey girl Stevie you as many here are treasures to my heart and as this whole senerio has caused us to loose a wonderful Treasure and please not more my heart lost a vital piece of my exsistence and cant afford to loose more .. you never have a rant here as we love hearing from you and the other girls here thats what i joined here for as i had my wife to be a friend with as she is very supportive and will never trade her love and support .. I as we all need just a little more as CDH has given me a better life as Stephanie and beyond that is friendships beyond words can compare im really in heaven here so i hope this gets out so others can read and please sit down and take a deep breath before you walk out the door to leave besides the relief you are trying to get you are causing lots of us more grief by leaving the ones that do love you .. Sorry Sweet Honey girl for taking up your post with my rant also he he love you all please take that deep breath and wait another day and then decide on your fate ..
Love you sweet honey girl Stephanie
Girlfriend I ain't going anywhere!!! !!!! Gadzooks, didnt want to give that impression. I've laid down roots, you're stuck with me sweetie.😘
Stevie
Hi Miss Stephanie and you four cant call you musketeers how about winches well you know what i mean yes you all made this a more funny and exciting place to log onto every night when i got home from work .. So miss Grace has left and so hope things will get better and she comes back and please like a said to you dont go please sit down and take a breath as miss Amanda and Sammy also girls you are taking more and more of my heart when you leave as it has grown so much since i came here its not time to go yet .. Please dont leave love you all ..
Stephanie B
Boredom... reactions.... opinions.... overreactions (imho), attitudes.... anger.... insults....
You are better for having missed it Heather.
Whew saved one long way to go and same here roots are dug in would take a big digger to move me out ha ha ..
Stephanie
Thanks for your topic Stevie, I needed to read something like this after reading the comment thread in Katey's innocently-started topic which really got out of control. And despite the minus 33 Celsius temperature, I had to go for an hour's long walk to clear my head after that one. My feeling is that there are way more important things going on in life than to get involved in a drama. A close friend of mine; his leukemia has just come back and now only has a few months to live (a bunch of us are going to do a drive-by of his house in 30 minutes, his wife is arranging that he will be outside with his grandkids to see us). Another close friend also has terminal cancer which reminds me I should give him a call). And as some of you know, my BF Paige, my dog, died recently so I was already grieving. Notwithstanding, I still love coming to CDH to learn from others and to share my experiences. Being a Canadian, we tend to be polite and don't get too riled up about things, and try to be peacemakers if at all possible. Stevie, you are a great Ambassador for us and thank you for taking on this position. I better start prepping for our drive-by and put a We Love You sign in my SUV window. Big Hugs to All of You, Krista.
