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Over the years my wife and I have gone up and down on crossdressing overall. I’ve mentioned in posts before how it was DADT, then things progressed to underdressing and nails etc. Most recently she’s seen a full face of makeup but all drab clothing. That’s been great for me you know, slow steady exposure over time. As we’ve talked about it more and more over the years, she’s said she thinks she’ll be ready but not sure when. So, while I wait I keep daydreaming about how that looks?
Those of you lucky enough to share this side with you SO, how was your experience? Was it full glam, classy, sexy, comfy? Just want to think about that balance between looking great without being over the top ya know? Obviously every woman will be unique and not a one size fits all situation, but maybe hearing some experiences can give me ideas for when that day comes!
Love, Rebecca @
Normally, I don't dress en femme, so while I wear women's fashions all of the time they aren't blatant and in my wife's face.
Therefore she tolerates how I dress. She still calls me weird, though. 😇
For your first 'full dress', I would go for a 'considered restraint' look. Since you've spent years with a slow, steady exposure, coming into the room looking like a tart from a street corner that screams 'LOOK AT ME, HERE I AM! is probably not going to go down too well. Coming out fully-dressed is a big step but it needn't be one you trip over.
My own personal method was to wear, firstly, just a skirt with a male T shirt. I wore this around the house in the evenings for a few days and my wife started to suggest things which, over time, progressed into full CD mode where we could go out in public. Why, just today, she bought me a pair of earrings and I'm wearing them now even though I'm in full male mode.
It's like crossing a bog, one wrong step and you are up to your ears in '**it', but with care, testing the ground as you go, you can make it across and into the safe arms of an accepting SO.
Softly, softly, catchy monkey.
Becca
My SO don’t support but tolerate it all I get from my SO is laughing and that I look like a stripper or what corner am I working tonight other then that she don’t really speak of it lol 😂 glad to hear tho with the small steps she’s seems accepting
My wife and I explored my fem side initially many years ago over a game of billiards. We were discussing fantasies and “role reversal” came up. We planned a future night and that’s how Pandora’s box was opened. It was very sexual (lingerie, heels, etc.) at first. Fast forward about 10 years and we work together from home post-pandemic . So I slowly introduced full-dress to her. It was “dressed to the nines” at first and I received some comments from her like what the hell do you call that look? but now we have fun with it. I let her describe a girl/look she wants me to achieve and I try my best to put it all together. My presentation has improved and she honestly has admitted that some days I look “really put together” to the point that she will say, I’m going to steal that top, dress or leggings from you sometime. My best advice is ease into it with an everyday GG look at first and ask for honest feedback from her. Good luck 😎
It's never good for a CD to outshine their wives with how they dress. That sometimes results in wives being turned off or upset and can sometimes change their minds about being supportive. Just go slow and easy until you find a place where you are both comfortable.