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My passion, My life, My Way!!

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(@catanne)
Estimable Member     Henderson, Waitakere City., Auckland, New Zealand
Joined: 4 years ago
My passion, My life, My Way!!
 
What is your passion, your life or the way you live?
I do what I do because I enjoy it. For me, it's not about money but rather about living my passion. When I think back, I have been a mechanic for 45 years and met thousands of people of which the most I remember are the ungrateful ones. Why? Because those are the people who highlight your flaws or your failures. The happy ones always come back for more. Funny to think about it, I wasted 45 years on building knowledge and experience that I do value, but it prevented me from living my passion to the fullest. I'm doing my BA Psychology degree now, imagine where I could've been if I had the opportunity when I left school. Life threw me some severe curveballs. A path of destruction, self-blame and ultimately self-harm, but I also believe in not dwelling on the past. All the what-ifs that bothered me turned from what if I had to what if I just go for it, no matter my age. I once had a religious discussion about doing something as a transgender woman and another preacher asked me, why are you or why do you want to do it, and without thinking the words came over my lips, Why not me? He had no answer. Today I'm happy, I struggle financially, studying and getting my practice setup but I still manage my support groups. So, my point is, stop dwelling in the past and stop asking yourself what ifs and instead, think about the why not me. If you get to that point ask yourself, "Why not me, setting my destiny?" and then set your goals, one at a time but in the end, you will reach that destiny. That is voluntary but payment is the satisfaction of seeing another human being happy and smiling. I live my passion, one day at a time. Your destiny is what you create and set for yourself and how you get there is a decision only you can make.
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(@lizk)
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Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
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@catanne 

Coulda woulda shoulda  Words of a life littered with regret.  Where I was heading....

I got to be most of the things I wanted to be.  But I wasn't happy.  Living authentically was the one thing that eluded me.  That is until I stopped making excuses.  Until I stopped reading from the script someone else wrote.  And I started writing one of my own.  Amazing how my world got a lot bigger and a lot brighter.

Better late than never.  That sounds a lot better.

You're a survivor Cat.  Keep doing you.  Deep RESPECT!

/EA

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(@catanne)
Joined: 4 years ago

Estimable Member     Henderson, Waitakere City., Auckland, New Zealand
Posts: 107

@emilyalt That's great Emily.

Another thing we tend to do is overthink issues and become our own worst critics. 

Thank you for that kind words.

Take care and be safe,

Love and hugs

XXX

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(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Cathy -

Thank you for sharing your story.

What a different way to look at it. As I read it I wondered how many times in my life I had the same type of experiences. How would my life have been if I had asked myself "Why not me?". In therapy I have talked about what if, I had acknowledged my crossdressing and followed my heart and/or I had acknowledged my sexuality and followed my heart. Unfortunately I can't turn back the hands of time and have to accept that. However, going forward I can acknowledge and accept my crossdressing and sexuality. As far as dressing is concerned I do what I can when I can and how far that will go is yet to be seen. Regarding sexuality, I can accept that part of me, it is something I will probably never act on but if I've learned one thing over the last few years never say never.

I wish you well with your new career and hope you find happiness.

XOXO
Suzanne

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(@catanne)
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Estimable Member     Henderson, Waitakere City., Auckland, New Zealand
Posts: 107

@cdsue thank you. Our past defines who we are and what we do today defines who we are tomorrow and the day after.

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(@firefly)
Noble Member     Panama, Panama, Panama
Joined: 7 years ago

Thanks for sharing your story, Cathy.

I dress because I love it. Everything I have done in my life I have tried to do with passion. Life is hard, bitter and heavy, a poet told us. But I have put my best effort into making mine as pleasant as possible. I think I am happy. 

Gisela

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(@catanne)
Joined: 4 years ago

Estimable Member     Henderson, Waitakere City., Auckland, New Zealand
Posts: 107
  • @firefly YW. When you think you're happy you already know your destiny. Knowing your destiny makes it easier to travel your journey. A life hard bitter and heave can only smooth out withunderstanding, acceptance, love, and caring. Design your map and follow your heart and travel your journey.
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(@firefly)
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Noble Member     Panama, Panama, Panama
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@catanne Wise words.

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(@carlafirst11)
Honorable Member     So. California , California, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Hello Cathy, I really appreciate your thoughts , many of us duel too much in the past or the ifs, I am glad you’re living your life to the fullest and doing what makes you happy, I wish you the best in the years to come.

Your friend,

Carla 😘

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(@catanne)
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Estimable Member     Henderson, Waitakere City., Auckland, New Zealand
Posts: 107

@carlafirst11 Hi Carla,

Thank you very much.

All the best for you as well and take care

Hugs

Cathy.

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(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

Has it not been said that many very successful people dwell on the what ifs? They have achieved all they had imagined but realise they have missed out on some very basic things in life.

What makes life exciting is the opportunities that come your way and you take the ones that seem a good idea at the time. Sure we have all imagined being something that in reality is not attainable - or is it? Now  what if.......

As a kid it was wanting to be a pilot, a princess, a dog, a cat and even a girl. Tell that to your peers and, well we know the rest. 

So I was never gong to be a cat or dog, a pilot, academically improbable. A princess, born into the wrong family but a woman, put that on the back burner as out of everything this was something I could aspire to but wasn't sure how but knew this was pick of the bunch. 

Life then goes on and work choices are made, relationships come and go while this person evolves and eventually every decision that has been made starts to see this woman develop, slowly at first but it started to gather momentum later in life until the day it all came together and Angela was out into the world.

There have had to be some sacrifices and even regrets and the what ifs are just that as taking another decision may have forwarded my progress but equally have defeated it. I may not be rich or famous but I have had a life and achieved quite a bit in my world of reality but the end result is I am the person I always wanted to be.

 

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(@catanne)
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Estimable Member     Henderson, Waitakere City., Auckland, New Zealand
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@ab123  Hi Angela,

Well said hon.

I think you can be the richest person in the world and the happiest ever, 

but you will still have those what ifs. Like what if I was poor instead or what if etc.........

Take care and be safe.

Hugs

Catherine

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