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My quandary --I still enjoy women

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(@garthie)
Eminent Member     Dundee--NW Chicago area, Illinois, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

I always dated at least 2 or 3 girls at a time. I had a love of women -- their looks, clothes, makeup, hair, etc. I loved everything ABOUT them so much that REALLY got into crossdressing! Due to meds (spiro.) I started to develop breasts and loved it. Started taking estradiol to help more. My nipples and breasts are sensitive to the slightest touch now, and it feels great.Now I know why girls get in trouble!

I have no desire to transition-- I love both my male and female side. My problem, though, is that both sides still want to be with females. I'd love to be "lesbian-ish", if there is such a thing.

Are there women that would go for this and enjoy it???

 

Staff note: When writing responses, please be aware that any overtly sexual content will be removed. In other words, please keep it clean! Ellie x

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1017

@garthie I don’t see this as a quandary. It’s a plus as far as acclimating girlfriends or significant others to your hobby IMHO. I’ve only been back to the pursuit for 3 months now and my SO has gone from…”Do that in the other room” to “Do you want me to help you take some pictures?” Then, to “You need bigger breasts” to “Let’s take a picture of us kissing!” (Have to admit, those kissing pics we took are kinda sexy.)

So the answer to that last question in your post is yes.

GP

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Baroness
(@chrisfp99)
Joined: 2 years ago

Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
Posts: 1713

@gracepal Oh stop it Grace, you're making me jealous. Particularly the kissing with your SO xx.

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Duchess
(@robyn1408)
Joined: 2 years ago

Reputable Member     Cape Cod, Massachusetts, United States of America
Posts: 135

@gracepal you’re killing me Grace!😄

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(@lauren114)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 1205

@garthie To me, your feelings are perfectly normal Bobbie.  I'm sure that there are many others who share the same feelings.   In my case, part of what drew me to wanting to crossdress originally was my attraction to the female form and appearances.  As a result, it was only logical that I would still be attracted to women when en femme.  While not a relatively large part of the female population, there certainly are women who are attracted to crossdressers.

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Baroness
(@river)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
Posts: 827

@garthie Always thought if I ever had to date again I would be looking for a Girl thats BI .  I think that would be a perfect match.  which is also why I think my wife is a bit but she wont admit it either way. doesn't say no but also wont say yes. which is odd as Ive shared so many deep dark secrets 🙂 .. Ive thought if I could do it all over I would be a beautiful gay female.   but dont tell anyone its a secret lol.. Cheers RC

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Duchess
(@missylinda)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Ft Worth, Texas, United States of America
Posts: 848

@garthie    Your feelings are shared by many of us.  Summed  up:  we love women so much, we want to look just like then.  This extends to our physical self as well as clothing .  Thus, our fixation for the female breast.

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Lady
(@emily2626)
Joined: 3 months ago

Trusted Member     Louisiana, United States of America
Posts: 39

@garthie This is a slippery slope question for me.  I am an everyday guy's guy 90% of the time.  I am attracted to women and everything feminine about them.  I am not attracted to men.  When I am Emily though, I feel like the top of the mountain would be having her presence affirmed by a real man, and treated like the woman she is.  How far would I take that?  I don't have an answer to that.

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Lady
(@cherylt)
Joined: 7 months ago

Prominent Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Posts: 481

@garthie There are people for everyone. Someone will like what you like, it just takes time to find them.

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(@crazycynthia)
Estimable Member     zuid holland, Netherlands
Joined: 4 months ago

Sexuality is one of the most fluid things in the world of you ask me. Im bi so yes. Do you also feel attracted to men or just woman?

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Lady
(@garthie)
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Eminent Member     Dundee--NW Chicago area, Illinois, United States of America
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Lady
(@garthie)
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Eminent Member     Dundee--NW Chicago area, Illinois, United States of America
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Hi, Cynthia,
Attracted only to women as a male or when I'm female.

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Lady
(@dianemilena)
Eminent Member     Christcchurch, Canterbury, New Zealand
Joined: 1 year ago

I know exactly how you feel Bobbie 

Many many long years ago I was in the Merchant navy at a time when I had no desire to dress, But some how you have just jogged me mind to something I heard back in those days some 50ish years ago

One of the crew announced he was going to become so gay he was going to be a lesbian,   for some reason that comment stuck in my memory and today that is pretty much how I and I guess many of us feel 

 

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Lady
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(@garthie)
Eminent Member     Dundee--NW Chicago area, Illinois, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi, Diane,

So are you" lesbian-ish"? Do you go out with females that know about you? what's their reaction?

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Lady
(@dianemilena)
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Eminent Member     Christcchurch, Canterbury, New Zealand
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@garthie I would go out with girls if i could find some interested, 

like many of us I not interested in males in a romantic way

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(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

I was attracted to girls because of what they wore because I knew that's what I wanted to wear. I am also very much hetero, it's in my D.N.A. as it were and probably yours. You do not change as a person so you feel the way you do all the time, it doesn't change you. if you wish to take a label then go ahead but it is you being you at the end of the day.

There are those that dress who have other preferences and those that sometimes question themselves as one comment to girls 'coming out' is the they must be gay or Bi. It can cause confusion or make an individual wonder, it's a societal observation. 

It is sometimes difficult for individuals to understand the reasons they dress which leads to the questioning. Releasing that feminine side within can also release a denied sexuality too. 

In answer to what do real girls think of there 'man' dressing well these pages are full of married partners reactions and some with unmarried partners too. It is a varied response from acceptance to absolute abhorrence so no one answer fits all.

 

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Lady
(@sf)
Joined: 3 years ago

Prominent Member     SoCal, California, United States of America
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@ab123 Angels, Right on lady, right on !!   S

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Lady
(@sf)
Prominent Member     SoCal, California, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

No problem, I love women too!!  Especially my beautiful wife.  Just a hetero guy who enjoys wearing gals clothes and being pretty from time to time.  

I do not want to be a woman, but I do want to dress like one....  Simple.  

Have fun, Staci...

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(@Anonymous 99388)
Estimable Member
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I love all things feminine whether in guy or girl mode. If I was a woman I would be a lesbian. But I have no desire to transition I love my wife to much. I enjoy my male and female side.

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Duchess
(@augustvaliant)
Noble Member     Long Island, New York, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

There is a key for every lock.....

Some locks have more keys duplicated... 

Some locks might only have 1 key.....

But yes, there are women who find CDH ladies attractive and desirable. Probably just not as many as would buy a hot hunky fireman calendar.

 

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(@jennconn)
Noble Member     Florida, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Bobbie, it’s interesting that you bring this subject up.  I think to the casual observer, it might get very confusing, because they really don’t understand us or our desire to be female part of the time.  I’m so happy when a male finds me attractive, because it reaffirms that I look attractive as a woman, and as a crossdresser, who doesn’t want that.  However on another site, which I’ve since quit, I would get propositioned and that was just not anything like I’d ever consider or do.  I’m entirely heterosexual, but when I’m dressed I believe I’m a lesbian who is still attracted to women.  If I could ever find a GG that was attracted to me enough to want to put up with crossdressing, I’d be so happy, I don’t know what I’d do.  But unfortunately, I really wouldn’t know where to start looking and would be scared that I’d fall for someone and not want to lose them and try to give up crossdressing or hide it, and I just can’t do that.  So I’ll just keep being me, both male and female and for the time being, I’ll just be my own girlfriend, I really like her anyway, she’s just like me!

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@jennconn Good one J.C. “I have a wife and a girlfriend.” How does your wife put up with that arrangement? “I’m the girlfriend 🥰”

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Baroness Annual
(@d44)
Famed Member     New York, United States of America
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I have always loved women and the female form. As a trans woman, my feelings haven't changed at all.

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Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

Myself has always loved females in both mode my SO would never go for me being dressed and intimate probably due to she’s non supported and also attracted to men not women I do have a confession tho there is an adult entertainer who’s a TG her name is Aubrey Kate I always found her highly attractive she also been my idle to look like a women when dressed a course she probably spent 10s and thousands of dollars to get where she looks no desire to transition just enjoy looking feminine at times TC 

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(@Anonymous 99388)
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I love women. And also love being one! I’d definitely be in a lesbian relationship if I had transitioned. 

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(@caroline2k)
Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

I'm quite surprised by the amount of - and I hope you will forgive me if this comes across as sounding over-critical - of what sounds like rushing to fly the flag about how heterosexual we are 🙂

Personally, I would describe myself as such - I am in a long-term, very loving relationship with a real girl who accepts me as a tv/ crossdresser/ whatever and have only been with females in the past. However, I have always found other tgirls attractive, and I just know that now, were I single, I would look for the company of someone similar to myself.

And as for reincarnation... if I could have my time over, I'd still be a transvestite, although I'd like to be a little more petite, with smaller feet and a prettier nose. 

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
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Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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Posted by: @caroline2k

although I'd like to be a little more petite, with smaller feet and a prettier nose. 

There is my quandary. Being over 6' tall was useful on a rugby and a football pitch, less useful for finding dresses and tights.

As for noses, my was fine until an opposition centre-forward's elbow "adjusted" it for me.

 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1017

@caroline2k I totally get it Caroline, you’re right about flying the hetero flag a little too fiercely here on CDH. It’s a testosterone thing I’m certain. It’s some of us saying, “Well, yes - I wear the clothes but I’m not GAY or anything!” The most dreaded word in “bro-culture” is being called gay.

Where do we usually go first when we log on to CDH? Photos. Are there attractive girls on here? Yes. More than once I’ve shown a “Featured Photo” to my wife saying - “This is a man.” She can’t believe it. Sometimes neither can I. If you’re attracted to the clothes first and foremost, you’re probably going to be attracted to whoever’s wearing them. It’s always been the “accoutrements” for me. I’ve never been a big fan of complete nakedness on any human, even the ones who think they’re perfect. Women have two appendages sticking out there and men have one. It’s all skin. This girls attitude is: “Keep’em covered.”

It’s not too hard to imagine scenarios where you’re in a group of “pretend girls” and some of them have really nailed their presentations. They’re talking in their “breathy girly voices”, with everyone drinking and dancing. Then the dancing becomes “wiggling and grinding”. One thing leads to another and pretty soon I’m making out with “Lola”🥰 It’s not a big jump for me. Especially if she keeps most of her clothes on.🤣

GP

 

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