Need an advice for the situation I am facing
The thing is, for the past few days, I was alone at home. During that time, I completely transformed myself into a girl and took a bunch of photos in different clothes to capture the essence of being a girl. I was really excited to show those photos to someone, but since nobody knows about this side of me, I couldn't bring myself to show those hundreds of pictures.
So, what I did was use a Twitter account I created a few years back. It has the girl name of my dreams and some mirror selfies of mine, hiding my face while just showing my dress. This account had a few followers. I couldn't control my feeling to share my pictures, so I uploaded a few on that account. After that, my account gained more than a thousand followers in a few days, and I received lots of likes and good comments on the pictures. Encouraged by this response, I uploaded a few more pictures on that account.
Subsequently, my message section filled with direct messages from boys. I tried to ignore all of them, but I couldn't resist seeing and replying to one or two. This led to chatting with one guy over there, presenting myself as a girl. He was flirting with me, and I was giving him replies as a girl. From two to three days ago, he has been telling me that he has some feelings for me and has started loving me. Even though I said it's not possible, he continues to message me, stating that he thinks about me all day. I can't bring myself to tell him the real reason why it's not possible.
I am very confused about what to do in this situation. While I enjoy talking with him as his girl, I don't want to hurt him and just don't want to continue this thing because it seems pointless. Also, I am confused about that account. I get lots of appreciation, but as my family is not at home and I have holidays right now, I have time for this. After this, I will not have time to again cross over to a girl and manage that account. I am very confused about these two things and need wise advice really badly about this issue. Have you ever created an account with your girl appearance? Or did you ever face some issue like this? Or what would you do if you were in my place? Please, I have to do something about this, but I am totally blind and have no solution for this problem. Give your valuable suggestions, it will be really helpful for me.
Firstly, he could be a con man befriending you and then asking you to send him money.
Secondly, he could know that you are a man. I get men sending me messages on FB thanks to my profile pic, even though that using a male name and nearly all the content is typically male. I ignore these messages.
Thirdly, you're not going to pursue a relationship with this person, or ever even meet him, so just tell him.
There is a reason that the phrase 'honesty is the best policy' exists 😉 Keeping things simple from the outset prevents your life from turning into some RomCom movie, only with a less happy outcome.
I would agree that some fella professing his 'love' for you from some photos and brief chat, while having never met you is just fanciful and not to be taken seriously, but if you think this same thought after chatting with him (both in text and on the phone) in say...6 months, then refer to my comment above. Good luck! 🙂
I suppose it is a compliment that they are reacting to what they see and reactions vary. As you have entered into a dialogue with this man it has taken a course that does happen on these mediums. The best is to say that you aren't interested in a polite way and stop conversation. There are risks as Cerys highlights so do not respond. It is up to you what you do with the account but if you leave it and add nothing the followers will go elsewhere.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave..."
Learn your lesson and move on. Make it clear that no relationship is possible and stop communicating with him, whatever it takes.
I agree with Melodee on honesty. I would ask myself why does this make me feel good? For many of us it’s the attention and reinforcement it give us. I would exit those conversations. You don’t know who is on the other end. Professing love after a few conversations tells me a lot about that person….run!🤭🤓 Figure out what else can make your girl side happy and focus on that.
Parth, while i completely agree with all the comments already made by the girls here, I think there is even a more fundamental question you should ask yourself: who is the authentic YOU?
While you may be too young to accurately answer it right now, it should be first in your list. Although you were born Parth male sex, is that who you truly are? Is male your true gender? Are you Trans? Or Gay! Or Bi?
The answers to those wuestions will help you relate “honestly” with others, including the men who hit on you, whether on-line or in the real world. And of course as someone mentioned the real world is called the real world because it is real, and not a fantasy where you do not really know who you are relating to and communicating with.
Anyway, the exploration of your gender, sexuality, and finding your true authentic self can be an amazing life journey. I wish you well, and I pray you follow your path safely.
Just walk away Renee...........................