The thing is, for the past few days, I was alone at home. During that time, I completely transformed myself into a girl and took a bunch of photos in different clothes to capture the essence of being a girl. I was really excited to show those photos to someone, but since nobody knows about this side of me, I couldn't bring myself to show those hundreds of pictures.
So, what I did was use a Twitter account I created a few years back. It has the girl name of my dreams and some mirror selfies of mine, hiding my face while just showing my dress. This account had a few followers. I couldn't control my feeling to share my pictures, so I uploaded a few on that account. After that, my account gained more than a thousand followers in a few days, and I received lots of likes and good comments on the pictures. Encouraged by this response, I uploaded a few more pictures on that account.
Subsequently, my message section filled with direct messages from boys. I tried to ignore all of them, but I couldn't resist seeing and replying to one or two. This led to chatting with one guy over there, presenting myself as a girl. He was flirting with me, and I was giving him replies as a girl. From two to three days ago, he has been telling me that he has some feelings for me and has started loving me. Even though I said it's not possible, he continues to message me, stating that he thinks about me all day. I can't bring myself to tell him the real reason why it's not possible.
I am very confused about what to do in this situation. While I enjoy talking with him as his girl, I don't want to hurt him and just don't want to continue this thing because it seems pointless. Also, I am confused about that account. I get lots of appreciation, but as my family is not at home and I have holidays right now, I have time for this. After this, I will not have time to again cross over to a girl and manage that account. I am very confused about these two things and need wise advice really badly about this issue. Have you ever created an account with your girl appearance? Or did you ever face some issue like this? Or what would you do if you were in my place? Please, I have to do something about this, but I am totally blind and have no solution for this problem. Give your valuable suggestions, it will be really helpful for me.
Two days of tweets or texts does not represent love. An individual who professes growing emotions to an image on a twitter feed could just as easily be a scammer, a troll, or a sociopath. Steer clear.
Better yet, delete the posts and start interacting with people your own age in the real world.
@parth1212 Positive reinforcement of our authentic selves is very flattering and exciting. Falling in love over a few tweets is just unrealistic and points to some sort of problem. Just walk away and in the future just discourage this type of behavior and shut it down immediately.
Lauren
@lauren114 Yeah, considering everyone's advice, I feel it's right to deactivate the account, so I have deactivated it.
@parth1212 Hiya, Parth; I've not really got any concrete advice for you, just a question. Are you really, really sure that he hasn't already guessed the big, dark secret? It looks to me like he might already know and he just plain likes you anyway! No problem with that, though I don't know how you would feel about taking a relationship with him forward. Otherwise, one possibility; you say your account is under a girls name - so why not just admit the truth - no-one will know it's actually you and there's only really two consequences. Either he never replies and you never have to speak to him again, or he does - and if you don't want to talk to him, just never use that account again. No bad consequences either way... but if you decide you do want to take things further... well, you know what to do... Holly XXX
@hottestwitch Actually, considering everyone's advice, I feel it's right to deactivate the account, so I have deactivated it.
@parth1212 In my opinion you have two options, full disclosure, tell this boy everything and see where it goes, or make an excuse and stop messaging him. It’s hard. I had a member of the U.S. military friend me on Bianca’s Facebook earlier this year. It quickly became clear he viewed me as a GG, was wanting to meet me and get to know me better. I thanked him for his interest, and politely told him I was happily single. He got the message. It did feel good that somebody was interested in me, but unfair to lead him on. It’s women who float my boat anyway!
B x
@bianca Thank you, Bianca, for your advice. I totally agree with your opinion and feel reassured to hear that I am not the only one who has faced this situation. Thank you very much again.
Hi Parth,
I can totally understand the issues you're having. I am on Flickr and Facebook. In my bio I am quite specific of my gender and what exactly I am. I do get a lot of friend requests on both sites from guys. Right now I chat often with 4 guys one of which sent me a picture of his privates. I told him that I'm not interested in seeing his dick and if that's his thing then I would block him immediately. I also said if he wants to correspond with me as just friends then I'm fine but no more lewd pics. He actually has become quite the gentleman and I do enjoy talking with him.
I find a lot of guys are just like my friend but once you straighten them out most are just fine. But there are lots out there that are just plain weird and I block them with out any discussion. I also found a lot of them are in professions that keep them away for extended periods and are just lonely guys looking for a pretty girl to talk to. You do have to be careful but if you're straight forward on what you expect from them most guys are pretty good about it.
Trish 💖
@trish1980 Thank you Trisa for sharing your experience. I feel really reassured to hear that I am not the only one who has faced this situation. Thank you very much again.
Firstly, he could be a con man befriending you and then asking you to send him money.
Secondly, he could know that you are a man. I get men sending me messages on FB thanks to my profile pic, even though that using a male name and nearly all the content is typically male. I ignore these messages.
Thirdly, you're not going to pursue a relationship with this person, or ever even meet him, so just tell him.
Cerys
There is a reason that the phrase 'honesty is the best policy' exists 😉 Keeping things simple from the outset prevents your life from turning into some RomCom movie, only with a less happy outcome.
I would agree that some fella professing his 'love' for you from some photos and brief chat, while having never met you is just fanciful and not to be taken seriously, but if you think this same thought after chatting with him (both in text and on the phone) in say...6 months, then refer to my comment above. Good luck! 🙂
@melodeescarlet Thank you, Melodee. Your advice really helped me make a decision, and I feel it's better to delete that account.
I suppose it is a compliment that they are reacting to what they see and reactions vary. As you have entered into a dialogue with this man it has taken a course that does happen on these mediums. The best is to say that you aren't interested in a polite way and stop conversation. There are risks as Cerys highlights so do not respond. It is up to you what you do with the account but if you leave it and add nothing the followers will go elsewhere.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave..."
Learn your lesson and move on. Make it clear that no relationship is possible and stop communicating with him, whatever it takes.
I agree with Melodee on honesty. I would ask myself why does this make me feel good? For many of us it’s the attention and reinforcement it give us. I would exit those conversations. You don’t know who is on the other end. Professing love after a few conversations tells me a lot about that person….run!🤭🤓 Figure out what else can make your girl side happy and focus on that.
@carolcorbett Thank you Carole, considering everyone's advice, I feel it's right to deactivate the account, so I have deactivated that account.
Parth, while i completely agree with all the comments already made by the girls here, I think there is even a more fundamental question you should ask yourself: who is the authentic YOU?
While you may be too young to accurately answer it right now, it should be first in your list. Although you were born Parth male sex, is that who you truly are? Is male your true gender? Are you Trans? Or Gay! Or Bi?
The answers to those wuestions will help you relate “honestly” with others, including the men who hit on you, whether on-line or in the real world. And of course as someone mentioned the real world is called the real world because it is real, and not a fantasy where you do not really know who you are relating to and communicating with.
Anyway, the exploration of your gender, sexuality, and finding your true authentic self can be an amazing life journey. I wish you well, and I pray you follow your path safely.
Hugs
Jules
Just walk away Renee...........................
