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New neighbours get a surprise (as do I)

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(@rebeccabaxter)
    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

About two weeks ago, my elderly next-door-neighbour moved back to the south-east after selling his house to a young couple who are probably in their late twenties early thirties. The new people haven't moved in yet but are coming along periodically to strip wallpaper and decorate and today, unbeknownst to me, was one of those days.

So there I am, in the kitchen, just after getting ready to go out shopping en femme. I am fully dressed, be-wigged and made up and literally about to step out of the front door. I stopped in our galley kitchen to put some water in a cup when there is a shadow at the back door. I look and see Elle, my new neighbour looking straight in at me through the clear glass window, obviously waiting for me to open the door.

Well, I had nowhere to go. To get out of the kitchen would have meant walking towards her then veering off into the living room—not helpful— so this was it, time for Becca to meet one of the new neighbours.

I unlocked the door, said something along the lines of "Bet you never expected to see me dressed like this," then waited to see what she wanted. Well, at least she didn't run off screaming.

She came to ask where another address was because a parcel she was expecting had gone there instead of to her; I told her where said house was. We had a very quick chat about changing house addresses from a number to a name and then we both went on our ways. I went out shopping and she went to find her parcel.

I would have loved to hear the conversation when she got back to her other half.

"'Ere, that guy next door, he was wearing women's clothing when I went round; wig, skirt, jewellery, the lot!"

I wonder what came next?

Fortunately, my wife was fine about it and we had a bit of a laugh.

And, I don't have to worry about going up my garden, dressed, anymore

Oh, what a fun day.

Becca

xx

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Lady
(@sashabennett)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     Wick, Caithness, United Kingdom
Posts: 803

@rebeccabaxter There is something dangerously appealing about this 😏 . Once it's out there then the pressure is off & you can just get on with life. That's one couple to whom things won't need any further explanation.

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

@sashabennett Absolutely. My house, my life, deal with it.

Becca

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Duchess Annual
(@isabella22)
Joined: 6 years ago

Reputable Member     Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 186

@rebeccabaxter great attitude Becca!

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Lady
(@alisonout1123)
Joined: 3 months ago

Trusted Member     Somerville, New Jersey, United States of America
Posts: 41

@rebeccabaxter Great story, Becca.  Might've been a twofer surprise with me (with my wife also "finding out").

Alison

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(@carloscloset)
Joined: 3 months ago

Estimable Member     Colorado, United States of America
Posts: 111

@rebeccabaxter In the end it was a great result!  Now you don't have to worry about how will they react and you have more peace of mind while dressing.

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Duchess
(@jennconn)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Florida, United States of America
Posts: 760

@rebeccabaxter I can’t wait for the rest of the story Becca, you’ve gotta promise to write a follow up.  I’m kind of laughing at this story.  Last weekend I came close to outing myself too.  I was going to dress on Sunday, but for some reason got completely dressed on Saturday and had a wonderful time just hanging out.  I live in a condo that more or less has private entrances, but residents can roam the hall and ring your door bell if they need something.  So sure enough, my door bell rang on Sunday, and I was thinking it was a good thing I wasn’t dressed.  But I answered dressed in drab and it was a neighbor who I know well who just had the wrong unit and apologized profusely.  But I could have had the same experience that you did since I was in full makeup and fake nails the whole bit on Saturday.  I posted the photo today.

I still think you’ll be just fine, since they are new neighbors and seemed to accept you as just a neighbor, and as you say, now you don’t have to worry about getting out in the garden.  I know that someday this might happen to me, and there will be no going back after that outing, since it seems that everyone here knows everyone else. 

Please follow up with us, thanks

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

@jennconn I will indeed follow up. I expect they'll be along to do more decorating this weekend, I'll concoct some reason to go round [in drab] if I don't see them casually.

Becs

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(@lauren114)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 1205

@rebeccabaxter Sounds like her reaction was at worst neutral which is fine.   All in all, one less thing for Becca to concern herself with.  Good for you!

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Lady
(@kimdl94)
Joined: 9 months ago

Reputable Member     Blearmill, Texas, United States of America
Posts: 174

@rebeccabaxter Once the ice has been broken by coming out to your neighbors, you enjoy a greater degree of freedom. I first started coming out 15 years ago. I learned very quickly that the world wasn’t going to end, and in fact, every neighbor that I have met when presenting as a woman has received me with such grace and encouragement.

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(@finallyfiona)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 1458

@rebeccabaxter There's a good result, Becca 🙂  You wouldn't expect that a young couple like that should really have any problem with alternative gender expressions, it's been a thing in their generation as they've grown up.  My neighbours on one side are of a similar age and couldn't have been less bothered when I told them to expect to see me presenting as a woman.  If your recent photos are anything to go by, she'll have had a pleasant surprise, anyway 🙂

Hugs,
Fluff xxx

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Lady
(@cherylt)
Prominent Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 7 months ago

I would not have said anything except "Hi, can I help you?".

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

@cherylt I had a lot of things rehearsed to say if this ever happened and every single one of them went out of the window at that instant 🤣

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1828

@rebeccabaxter I've been rehearsing for this too. I think one of my neighbours knows, I have encountered her whilst wearing makeup - it depends on how observant she is

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

@annaredhead What is it they say? No plan survives first contact with the enemy. 😊

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1828

@rebeccabaxter I was on my way out to meet a friend so thought I'd chance it as I was going en-femme, so wig, heels, handbag in a shopping bag, loose trousers and denim jacket on over my dress, the coast looked clear so I made a dash for the car, only to encounter my neighbour by her car. I said sorry, couldn't stop, was running late, jumped into my car and went. I am sure she spotted the makeup.

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1017

@rebeccabaxter Wasn’t it Mike Tyson who said something to the effect of - Everyone has a plan until I come out and punch them in the face!

I think she was concerned for her parcel and you really didn’t even land on her radar at all. Time will tell but my guess is she didn’t notice anything unusual about the encounter.

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

Posted by: @gracepal

I think she was concerned for her parcel and you really didn’t even land on her radar at all. Time will tell but my guess is she didn’t notice anything unusual about the encounter.

Oh, I'm pretty sure she did 😀 

 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1017

@rebeccabaxter Good! Then she probably went home and told her husband guess what? We have a neighbor who is a genuine crossdresser. How cool is that?🥰

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

Posted by: @gracepal

I think she was concerned for her parcel and you really didn’t even land on her radar at all. Time will tell but my guess is she didn’t notice anything unusual about the encounter.

Being dressed en femme, wig and make-up would be hard to miss.

I am starting to be annoyed at the indifference shown by close observers who can't miss how I am presenting. To me, it seems very odd.

 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@harriette Don’t discount the fact Harriette -that today’s society has been trained to not comment on anything anymore, lest they offend someone. It’s just the way it is nowadays.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@gracepal A good polling company can deal with that.

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Duchess
(@alison-anderson)
Joined: 6 years ago

Noble Member     Middlesex county, New Jersey, United States of America
Posts: 1742

@rebeccabaxter This is what we meant in the other thread (regarding meeting other crossdressers) about being yourself. You planned and you planned, then forgot the plans and did just what came naturally.

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

@alison-anderson Yes, the best laid schemes of mice and men, and all that. Fingers Crossed

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(@Anonymous 97944)
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I have a habit now of closing the door leading from the kitchen to the back entryway.  I mean, the back door window is right there, and if I have a visitor, that's where they will appear.  Like you perhaps, I am en femme almost 100% of the time at home, either during the morning still in a nightgown & silk robe, or else strutting my stuff fully decked out in heels, nylons, dress, the works.  However I yet cannot step out the back door dressed like that.

Now that they know you, you have "broken the ice" and may see you have a good thing going!  Hope it all works out fine!

hugs,

Dani

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(@melodeescarlet)
Famed Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

@rebeccabaxter It comes down to my motto: Someone's reaction to you says everything about them and nothing about you. If she went home and had some small/medium/huge reaction...well, that's about her. Similarly, your reaction to her when opening the door is about you.

While in your own home, that you felt compelled to say that to her says everything about you and nothing about her.

I wouldn't spend 2 seconds thinking about what kind of convo she had with her husband because whatever it was doesn't change the fact that you're a lovely person. 🙂

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

@melodeescarlet You are so sweet.

I don't think they could have anything that outrageous to say anyway, I've met the girl's mother and she has dreadlocks, and isn't a black Rastafarian.

Becca

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

Well there's a perfect ice breaker! So long as a for sale sign doesn't appear all looks good for the future. 

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

@ab123 If that's all it would take to make one sell one's home, then there would be an awful lot of houses on the market 😀

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Lady
(@blondie747)
Estimable Member     Newcastle, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Joined: 7 months ago

Hi Becca,

I'd be interested to hear of any further reactions from your new neighbours whether they see you again en femme or in drab, it would be nice to think that they'd be non-plussed.

Gina x

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

@blondie747 We'll see, time will tell. They haven't actually moved in yet and only come to decorate so I don't see them that often. I'll update here as to what happens later.

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Lady
(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

When I decided to no longer hide, my neighbour knocked on it y door to ask something or other. I opened the door as Cerys. "Oh you like nice. Are you going somewhere?" she asked. I told her no, and that I like to dress as a woman, and that after I nearly died with a massive embolism across my lungs, I decided that I wasn't going to hide it anymore.  Her reply was, live how you want to live. 

All my neighbours have now met the other me. None of them care. They are all supportive. 

As I've said on here many times, once the secret is out, it loses it's power. 

The fear of the neighbours finding out is what stops many from getting out into the real world. That fear is usually unfounded. 

Cerys

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Lady
(@sf)
Prominent Member     SoCal, California, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Well, at least you got that part out of the way.  Sometimes simple solutions (intended or not) are the best.  

Have fun...   Staci...

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

While I do not advertize it, my neighbors have likely seen me dressed.  No one has said anything, and why should they.  We are all friendly enough, but not close friends. I live in a great neighborhood that is quite diverse and nobody seems to care, and neither do I. The way I look at it is the more we are seen the more people are used to such diversity. People get used to such things and that leads to others being exposed and to a degree taught that such things are no big deal. My hope is if your neighbor is having drinks with friends and somebody mentions something about gender diversity she can now say, "yeah, my neighbor dresses as a woman, but he is a normal bloke, so so what?"

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