No Frédérique this weekend... was I moving too fast?

It happens Frederique.  Most girls here have had similar experiences, myself included.  I don't know that there's any particular cause.  It's just how the mind works.  The one thing that seems universal, however, is that we all return to dressing at some point.  Whatever you do......DON'T PURGE!  I promise you will regret that.  If you feel the urge to purge, put your things in a storage container and stow it in a safe out of the way place.

/EA

Frédérique,

Sometimes I get tired of crossdressing.  Taking over an hour to shave, moisturize, dress, do makeup and nails. It takes a lot of work to be a woman, especially when I can’t spend more than two hours at a time doing it. But I haven’t purged in a long time. And I hope you don’t. The feel and look of shear nylons on shaven legs is fabulous and I’ll never get tired of it.

Yes, something similar happened to me a few months ago. I was over indulging in my crossdressing and simply got tired of it. As Kerri points out, it’s sometimes a lot of work to get all dressed up, and at one point I got the feeling it wasn’t worth all the effort. So I walked away from it for a while. And that was helpful, because after a break, I was able to get back into it with full vigor.

But please don’t purge anything. Purging usually comes from a feeling of shame. I don’t think that’s what you’re feeling right now. You’re just feeling a little “crossdressing fatigue”, and that happens. You just need to find your own pace for crossdressing. And when you do, that “pink fog” feeling will come back. Because it never really goes away.

It happens. I sometimes feel the same. I just don't feel like dressing up and all that goes with it. But, that feeling never lasts long. The pink fog rolls in and once again Lanna emerges! Hang in there it will pass!

Hi Frederique, I don't want to say I 'understand' as I think we're all different, with different feelings, attitudes, reasons, etc.  Yet, let me share some thoughts I have.  How often do we say, or think, when we want to be somewhere else, like going to the store, or going out for dinner or wherever - I want (or got) to go the store?  Well, I really dislike that because I don't like doing that anymore, because way too often, I don't want to GO anywhere.  Oh, YES! I want to be at the store, get what I want and be home. The going and coming back is becoming a necessary evil that I'd rather do without, thank you very much. Sort of time just wasted. It has to be done to accomplish what we want, but if I could do away with it, yet have the rest, I'd be thrilled. So, sometimes, I just don't go the store (or wherever).

Now put that into other contexts. I don't want to have to 'dress up' to be a woman.  I want to be a woman. The dressing up (for me at least, maybe for others here) is a necessary but sometimes unwelcome part of getting to that point. I've mentioned recently that sometimes I don't want to wear forms or pads or whatever to get a little bit of a figure.  I just want to get dressed and be what I want to be without artificial attachments.

I wrote here some years ago, that I once was able to spend about 4 days, dressed. Yes, I sort of 'glammed up' once or twice, the rest, I was in a top and slacks, low heels, changing daily, wig hair pulled back as I did all the odd housework that needed to be done - including ironing (this was WAY back when), vacuuming, dishes, bed making.

I just wish some times, I could do all that again, not just for 4 days and nights, but like for a week, weeks, months, years. I seldom have the time I'd like, so I usually want, need to make the most of it, and then sometimes, well, I'm not always sure that I want to go to all the lengths. So, every once in a while, when I have the chance to dress for a limited amount of time, I think...maybe not today.

.....and then it all comes back and and I dream and imagine, and I can't wait.

Hugs, ChloëC

Well for me it doesn’t happen often to not want to dress. Maybe the fact that I wear panties and a bralette daily , light makeup if not at work and wearing women’s clothes while still presenting as a man. Yes there are times when I don’t do it for a few days / week but it normally isn’t because I didn’t won’t to but more that the opportunity didn’t arise. I do find that when I dress more frequently the urge to do more is there and the fact that I don’t want to change back into my male clothes.

Thank you Angela (and all other sister that responded). It feels exactly like 'crossdressing fatigue', that is the perfect term for it. I do not feel shame, because I am already out to my husband and family, and my clothers and heels are here 'out in the open' for all to see (that are actually allowed on the first floor of our house that is 😉 ), but it's just a bit too much at the moment. I won't purge; it would be such a shame for those lovely heels and dresses and all other lovely stuff... but they'll have to wait a bit for Frédérique to retur.

This happens. A few months back, I lived as Cerys for 5 weeks, then one morning I woke up, had a shower and dressed in male mode. I just couldn't be bothered to go into girl mode. On many occasions I have got dressed in Cerys mode and then got changed back into man mode.It happens. This is one of the difference between crossdressers and transwomen. We don't always want to dress as a woman.
I will often go 5 days or more living as Cerys, and then, wham! I don't want to, or can't be bothered. When I'm living as Cerys, I go the whole hog. Hair and make up and I spend a LOT of time finding the right outfit. From getting out of bed, and getting ready for the day, it can take an hour or more. Every day..... Sometimes, I can't be bothered, so lazy slob male me comes out 🙂

Don't purge. You'll regret it 🙂

Cerys.

Totally normal. Nothing to worry about.

Yeah, don’t purge. I still regret my one purge a few years back. This feeling happens to the best of us. Sometimes we just say “not today”. I myself have been drab all weekend too. Now, will I go back to panties and sports bras for week this week? Not sure yet. Just go day to day and eventually the wanting to dress will surface again.

On another note with this topic, I know everyone here has their own reasons for why they dress but, for those of us who would like to be full time(transition or just dress) does anyone else feel kinda guilty that when we don’t feel like dressing we just wear our regular clothes and nobody thinks twice about it?

Not to worry....some days are like that...just go with it and live your life...tomorrow's another day...

I'm a lazy transgirl.  I wear womens clothes daily but usually don't fuss over my appearance.  I feel zero guilt about that.

/EA

Hi Frederique.

Don’t purge! You’ll regret by the end of the week. I’m in much the same mood. My outfit today is very basic, knickers and bralette with skirt with tank top. No wig, makeup or forms. Quick easy and comfy

I have such days en femme or en home, it is just part of being human. We have mostly good days, but some are just, meh.