Noticing Differences

I make these observations all the time too Bianca. Very few men have any fashion sense as well

I'm continually watching and admiring Bianca, even when they're not really trying, they put more effort into it than most men.

I usually notice women's hair first, then their makeup. I also note whether they take care of themselves. I can't imagine going thru life not taking care of myself. I often wonder if I could look like them while all made up. Most men I know don't take care of themselves. They look awful and some of them smell bad.

While walking through a store or sitting in a restaurant, I have always observed the people around me. I like to read the expressions on their faces and think about emotions they are going through.

I admire these women, but they intimidate me as well. I could never look that good!

Lee Ann

And they in turn are probably intimidated by somone else Lee Ann, and so on. We're all (us AND them) far too hard on ourselves.

You don't have to look like them, just feel good about who you inside and out.

Olivia, something strange happened to me this morning. It was nice though.

I felt pretty.

OMG!

Lee Ann

Bianca I sure do ,

Of course I still give the guy glance, but now I start noticing the details more carefully and I appreciate women for the wonderful beautiful effort they put into being pretty .

I catch myself checking them out more now just to see their outfits ,shoes , makeup and hair.

I have to be careful I don't want them to think I am some kind of nut job.

sometimes I just want to compliment them when I see something outstanding they are wearing or makeup or hair.

But I figure they would think I am a lunatic.LOL

Patty

I pay a lot more attention to women I see in public that have taken even a half effort to put themselves together for going out to dinner with family or even with friends/coworkers, or even just by themselves.  Compared to the pajama bottom/ sweat pants wearers that you see so often, even the half put togethers stand out head and shoulder's over the ones who don't care, and then there are the ones who will go the whole nine yards to outshine their sister's even in common situations and obviously take a lot of time getting it all just right.

I study the top two types of women endlessly to learn little secrets and tricks to make an outfit come together.  It really makes me appreciate how I can look better if I just put my mind to it, and it makes my men friends appreciate the effort just that much more when I dress special for them.

My question for the girls here who have tolerant and supportive spouses.  Do they appreciate the effort you put forward to look nice, or even awesome, for them, the way a man does for some of us?

PaulaF

Hi Bianca what a good question and yes I watch to see the women who do there best to empress and ones who just take a little more time to look pretty . also a fun one my wife also notices the women and says quietly to me did you see her dress or how her eyes were made up and sometime wow that's a pretty shade of lipstick .my wife is so supportive and loving I thank her all the time .

Hugs

Stephanie Bass

Yes, I certainly notice women, not just because I find them attractive, but even more how they present themselves. Some take the trouble to look good, and I notice it just isn't older women, or younger ones. Some older women take the time to dress well, nice clothes to start with, then nice accessories, and others just wear shapeless clothes, and do little to present well.

The same with younger ladies. A young woman I often saw at an auto parts store took a lot of time with her makeup. Doing the kind of work she did, meant fairly practical clothes, but she always looked good.

Amy

Hi Bianca I believe we are just developing the female eye. One of the many things we all missed out on when we all came to understand that our thoughts of being connected to the female gender were wrong . Woman began scanning each other at a very young age. Constantly comparing mental notes what looks good or out of place. Part of it is all the insecurities that society has managed to drill into young female minds at very young age. What we see on the television or in magazines or in any type of visual media is the exception not the rule for most woman. It is sad in so many ways that young woman are forced to learn what a perfect body type looks like. We also have learned it and some of us expect it when looking for a partner. Woman spend a lot of their time trying to achieve that image as we do. This is what we all have in common with our cis sisters . We got caught up ,as they are in what is the perfect image of a female. We identify with woman so we got caught up in their insecurities as well. Most woman are never satisfied with their bodies when they look in the mirror. So they are taught at a very young age how to cover up any insecurities they may have with clothing and make up. Sound familiar. The beauty industry is massive. It is larger than a lot of the worlds economies. It is designed to make woman feel bad about themselves when they see the image of a female body that may make up 1% of the worlds population. But they always have a cure for their poor body image. All you have to do is buy this or that and in the matter of weeks you will begin to feel so much better about your self. I really wish i understood Why we all identify with the female gender. The female beauty originates from the inner self. When our cis sisters feel more confidant in them selves, I am sure they will recognize some one that identifies with them and only wants to emulate the gender they most identify with. We a very unique and should not only accept how we feel but should embrace our uniqueness. We all come in different body shapes and sizes. Having that perfect body that the beauty industry has created for us to chase is not going to be achievable for most woman and woman of the heart. Let people see your heart and the clothes will not matter. Luv Stephanie

Bianca

So observant. I have experienced the same. The women make the effort whereas the men feel they do not need to bother. I call it lazy.

It is a wonderful feeling to behave with the same mindset when dressing in either mode. Indeed it makes dressing in drab more adventurous, in some cases boundaries are crossed....fun.

Averyl

Hi Stephanie (K)

Thanks for your insight.

Yes there are pressures on women to try to be perfect, and that can bring  self esteem and confidence issues to some who feel they need to aspire to be perfect. And as you say these attributes come from within, not in how you look.

Be happy and confident how you are. However I do believe that being the best you can be ( if that’s what’s you want) isn’t a bad thing. Whether it be losing weight, taking better care of your skin and body, to dressing however you want, wearing heels or make up or a wig for a while can bring some of us a sense of happiness and joy, and boost confidence and self esteem. Yes it may be shallow and temporary but many enjoy it and find it fun.

Be happy in your own body, but it’s your body to dress up as much as you want, or not.

❤️B

I feel I have always had the sense of fashion. I used show off by saying what size a GG was wearing. I have always enjoyed seeing GGs in dresses and outfits, especially the awards shows.

Gloria