Older Crossdressers

I’ll never be passable, but I think I’m more shapely now than when younger. I’ve lost so much muscle mass, and the weight that comes with that and eating BS, drinking too much beer🤣 Haley is much more feminine at 170 than she was at 205!

I guess as I get older and my testosterone levels drop it brings out the more feminine me that has always been there. I am close to/at the 50 point and I would like to have been more involved with dressing at a younger age. I still have a lot of muscle mass I built up when I was young and if I had been more into my feminine side I would have not built so much. Now poor Maria has to deal with not finding sexy things in her size because of it.

I just turned 60. I dabbled with crossdressing on and off most of my life, but guilt and shame kept shutting it down. I have finally come to the level of self acceptance to be able to say I am transgendered and will never purge again. I remember as a teen having dreams at night that I was a girl. In the 1970's, you didn't tell anyone things like that. If I was a teen now, I would be transitioning.

Maybe the reason there are so many of us that are older is because back when we were teens, having feelings of wanting to be a girl would land you in trouble. We can finally come with our feelings now.

Oui C’est la vie Michelle.

I feel when we are younger we try to be who we are meant to be, to attract a partner, be popular, to blend in.

But as we age we care less about  being attractive for others and realise the importance of just being ourselves is so important for our mental health.

❤️B

Please Michelle, we prefer the terms "mature" or " life experienced" lmao.

I'll be chronologically 60 in a couple weeks and didn't have any urges until around 55 which makes me a late bloomer. Although I may have missed out on certain experiences had I started earlier I also believe that having some wisdom made it easier for me to accept it within myself. Either way, I love being me.

Olivia

At 66 I am at the point where on one ;level I don't care who finds out, on another level I don't want to go out of my way to tell everyone.  I to would have my younger self back (pretty sure I would be much more passable).  But nowadays when I'm dressed up I just feel more comfortable, more like this is what I should be.  I'm sure my co-workers suspect something ( with covid for an excuse to let my hair grow out and now I have colored it ).  I love my hair now. Now I am wondering how to tell my brothers, I will either have to tell them most of my newfound fem self or make some kind of weird excuse.  Or I guess I could get my hair cut short again and go back into stealth mode.   I don't want to go back, I want to go ahead, to explore more of my feminine side!!!

Sandy

You just summed it up perfectly for me! Thank you.

Kay,

That is/was the same scenario I faced. I'll be 60 in 1.5 weeks and and like you, realized a good while ago I am transgender.

I have just turned 67 on Monday this week, so I amoungst the older girls too. Like others have said I wish I had gone deeper into being femme many years earlier, as I have been dressing up off and on since I was about 12.

Amy

When I was around 10, I had my first interest in female clothing and felt very out of place for feeling like that...

When I was 15, I had my first gf and hoped that it would be an end to my feminine feelings I was having all the time...

When I was 19, I hoped a gap year abroad would help me find myself and clear my head of all those growing feminine feelings.

When I graduated university at 23, I hoped that this feminine 'phase' could finally be put to bed and hoped that my mind would now concentrate on my career.

When I was 29, I got married and thought that this must be the turning point, the end of all those built up feminine feelings. I truly believed they would finally disappear...

I am now 35, I have just as many things or possibly more commitments going on in my life then at any other time in my life, but the only difference now compared to any other time is that I finally accepted that my feminine side is here to stay and is a really important part of my life... And I want to embrace it now.

But that's the key here for me... I want to embrace it 'now' . I didn't want to embrace it on this level at any other stage of my life that I was having these thoughts, and neither do I believe I should have.

Would I be more passable if I had decided I wanted to do this at 18? Most definitely, and I would probably have had a near 2 decades of actually practicing and training and style matching, to be as convincing and passable as I could possibly get myself to be today... (And probably a lot less barbie pink in my closet!)

But it definitely wouldn't have been me if I had started back then. I didn't have the wisdom, the mentality or any experiences in life that would have made me decide to be brave and accept that dressing is too important for me to not address seriously. Past some vague youthful aesthetics, there would be nothing to identify and convince me that I was that person as I just wouldn't be able to relate. It just personally wouldn't have been me.

Of course I think about the 'what ifs' and turning points that could have happened. But being 'myself' is the most important and first thing I want. Me with the life I've had so far AND now with the feminine side I have finally accepted. For whatever reason, the girl inside wasn't ready to debut any earlier then she did, and I don't think any good will come from me regretting that she didnt ...

... And I don't want to.

Because right now, and tomorrow are far more important for me. I want to know and love the girl I am today, and I am excited for what she will become tomorrow... not what she never was.

There was a recent poll called "What is your age?". The results are quite surprising. Of the CDH respondents to the poll, the TOP cohart fell into the 61-70 category! At 73¾, I myself fall into the 71 - 80 category. Eight respondents are in the Over 80 group!!

If you haven't voted in this poll, you should give it a whirl. Get counted in your CDH age group!!

Beautifully put Krissi....I so like this post!!

and a girl can never have too much barbie pink..... here's to all our tomorrow's girls❤️

smiles, grace x

I am 68 now and time is catching up with me at an alarmingly fast rate, I don't mind becoming an old lady, still enjoy dressing and loving being able to share my photos with everyone.  I have hundreds of pictures and must admit that I looked pretty good in my younger days but the only way I could store them was on DVD.

If I had the technical knowledge to somehow get my glory days onto these magical computers so I could share them it would make this old (but still gorgeous) lady very happy.   X X

Hi Michelle,

A really interesting post, maybe there is some adaptation of the Shakespeare passage from As You Like it about the seven ages of man, we could have the seven ages of woman CDH style.

I am now 57 and have found I am more comfortable with who I am and I generally now don’t give a hoot what people think. I have tended to become more ‘rebellious’ and more non-conforming as I have got older.  I have never been one who felt comfortable having to present as masculine (either physically or emotionally), nowadays I just try and be myself not what I think other people would expect me to be.

Jessica x