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Hi to all on CDH,
As I move ever.. closer to being an "80 year old senior lady" I ponder to ask my CDH "equivalents" if after all our years on this mortal coil, have you achieved all you would like to do in your CD "dreams".
In my case, I’ve now done just about everything I ever wanted to achieve, park walks, shopping trips, (suitably attired) dinners out, makeovers, visits to the ladies, period and formal fashions, bra fittings, (in upscale lingerie), formal CD conferences etc.etc
If applicable, where are all you lovely people on that journey??
Happy Dressing
Nana?? Caty.
PS As an added bonus to the above, I've also enjoyed being a "published author" on this and quite few other sites over the years. In my callow youth schooldays, an English teacher told me I'd make a good writer. Gave me a very swelled head under my wigs....
PSS I just thought of one I wont be able to do. At once of the above conferences I was due to be a "model for a day". But fate intervened in the form of a very sore back and I could not participate It aint gunna happen now, too old and anything that happens these days is too far away and too expensive.
Good topic, Caty, I've never thought about what I'd like to achieve, other than not being caught!
Now that I don't have that worry, at least at home with my wife, a couple of things spring to mind.
First, and I am going to achieve this in October, to actually go out en femme, with the support of some cd friends, and to do the ordinary things you mention. Shopping, coffee, a meal and some drinks. I'd love to do so with my wife but I don't think that will happen, she is incredibly supportive but, as the profile goes, within her own limits. I'll settle for what I have on that score.
Secondly, and again, this is something that I will do, to have a professional makeup artist do her magic on my face! I have a makeup and go booked for October and I'm looking at dates for a full makeover. I have promised myself that treat for my 70th birthday but that's not until next April so, hopefully long before then.
Third and last...so far..to be able to do my own makeup and take some good pics. That's going to take a lot more practise!
Allie x
@ryanpaul An interesting question. I'm not sure that I have ever really had a list of goals as such. It's not like I sat down one day & thought, right, I'm officially trans now, what am I going to do about it. I kind of just drifted into this & I'm just living life day to day.
I guess now the question has been asked, the obvious answer would be to live this full time. It's a bit of a nuisance getting out of Sasha mode every time I need to pop to the shops for something. For various reasons full time is probably not going to happen though so, where to go, bearing that in mind? A makeover would be one thing, I'm still working out my style so getting that better would be good. Maybe a few more trips out, something like a pride event or a festival would be a good place to go. Mostly I would like to be able to share this with everyone I know but I am certain that not everyone would "get it" At my time of life I can't afford to lose any more friends or family as they are getting a bit thin on the ground as it is.
Sasha
@ryanpaul My ultimate goal will never be reached in a few lifetimes - complete acceptance of crossdressing. Maybe if we go far enough into the future there will be no differences between men's and women's clothes, like science fiction, but I am playing my tiny part in that world-wide play.
A closer goal at hand is slowly coming to fruition - expanding my closet for full year round crossdressing *. For example, I need a wider variety of tops and, yesterday, I picked up two really short-sleeved shirts. Not sleeveless, but close. Not sure how much of a fashion trend they will be or have been, but they sure are different than men's shirts. Not sure how often I'll be able to wear them with some really short shorts before someone calls the decency police. 🫣
Who knows when I will be able to work on my face, so there is that huge minefield to cross.
* Yesterday, my wife and I got to go to an outdoor car show of older cars, at her suggestion, so I gladly went. I wore loose weave, blue linen pants, from Zara. It felt amazing to have a cool breeze blowing through the material on a warm summer's day onto my now hairless legs!
Goals or experiences, yeah, I have what is left of a lifetime to do or achieve them all.
@harriette So what's wrong with a man wanting to feel pretty? If I want to wear a dress & heels, so what? If I like to wear jewelry & make-up, why should it bother anyone? Who says that those, who were fortunate enough to be born female, should have exclusivity when it comes to feeling & looking sexy & attractive? When it comes to how one dresses & presents, there are no legal standards. I am me no matter how I look.
those, who were fortunate enough to be born female, should have exclusivity when it comes to feeling & looking sexy & attractive?
My thoughts exactly, Dawn. I think the phrase I used in another thread, was, Why should women have all the fun? And, before someone else mentions it, I know it's not all fun...time of the month etc. So, perhaps "Best of both worlds" is more accurate for me, at least?
Allie x
@harriette So what's wrong with a man wanting to feel pretty?
That's not for me to say. Obviously, I am for it.
Good question, Katy. I think I've done most of what I wanted to do. As I have mentioned before I often get an idea in my head and after thinking about it for a while I go for it and do it.
In a few weeks I have a hair coloring appointment, follow that up with doing brows and nails again and I will be ready for fall.
Cassie
@ryanpaul Absolutely not and unfortunately, I never will. I am trans and feel that I missed out on a lot of wonderful experiences since I did not grow up as a female. Regardless, I am now doing everything I want on a forward basis as my authentic female self.
I'm 52, but in years of CD-ing I am 1. I have a lot of regrets about not doing it younger as I've known since I was 14, did dress a bit into my early 20s, but no makeup.
Whilst going out for a drive is an occasional thing and is away from home, more for me is ideas for photoshoots, I have modelled both in drab and femme and would love to do more.
I'd also love to go to gigs, eat out etc, but it has to be right and comfortable for my wife.
Hugs,
Anna
Interesting topic..I have admit I don't really have any CD goals. Except I sometimes wish I had a wig.
@mary Petra- that’s one you must fulfill as soon as possible! It will make you so happy…
For starters, I'm so inspired by all the mature gurls out there, I think it's so encouraging that at 64 I can explore my other half without feeling like I'm completely alone in the world. My number one goal is to step out of the closet as much as I can, I would never be able to be completely out to my family and most of my friends, but it's a big world, I need to see (and be seen) some of it. Right now my goals are to have a professional make over, attend a big event, some kind of multi day extravaganza, I want to meet and mingle with lots of other gurls, and just be able to get out in public and be seen once in a while.
I'm 55, now living full-time as Fiona, out in every area of my life, and I didn't even have any CD goals! One thing I would like to do is to visit another country as Fiona. To fly pretty. I also want to see the Northern Lights, I feel a Lapland or an Iceland holiday coming on! Which will definitely prompt me to get some good winter gear 🙂
I fell in love with this Priscilla Victorian Off-Shoulder Ball Gown dress,so this is on my list.... 
I have never planned anything, it has all happened as a consequence of something.
The first knowledge as a child was to dress as a girl and be one. I didn't understand the implications of being one but there was my start.
As a more mature adult satiating the desire to dress was done covertly and then wanting to look better, more convincing was the next. Coming out going out and so on led to me living full time as a woman and I have done many things including work. I have realised those dreams as any one new who meets me only knows the woman i now am.
There may well be a few surprises and new things that I will do. I never made a bucket list as I love surprises.
I am close to that 80 mark and could make a long list things I would have liked to have done, but I will just mention two for conversation sake.
In my younger years, when I was slim & attractive, I wish I could have gotten out in public more often than I did, but job and family responsibilities prevented that.
Now in older years I wish along the way I had made some long lasting CD friends over the years, but I think the lack of internet and moving around too much prevented making friends.
I didn't start to crossdress actively until I was 69. I'm 72 now, and my main goal seems to be to develop the most convincing presentation I can and experience as much as possible from a female perspective. Although I didn't realize it at the time the whole CD experience has done me a world of good psychologically and has made my looking forward joyful as opposed to looking backward with regret - something which seemed impossible before that. With that in mind every CD experience is for me a dream attained.
Living full time as a woman has resulted in my having a wide variety of interesting experiences and the result is that I have accomplished pretty much everything I set out to do.
I suppose I have a few things left to achieve. My #1 aspiration is to travel abroad en femme. I may actually attain that goal in the next year or two.
I am in my early 60s and many things in my life are changing. I am curious on how all of this unfolds. There are many things in life that I would like to fulfill. When I was young, I was so busy and distracted that I never really sat with myself and pondered this topic or questioned what is important to me. Now I feel more drawn toward living full-time or as close to that as I can.
I have just reached formal retirement age and have been thinking about what I've achieved in my crossdressing. Only in the 10 years have I been able to crossdress regularly. I've gone from nervous ninny hiding indoors to a happy crossdresser and at every dressing opportunity I'm out of the house for walks around my neighbourhood, up the local convenience store, walks in parks and gardens, shopping trips for clothes, (visits to the ladies), shopping at supermarkets. I've had a light meal in a cafe too.
With the limited time I have to dress I have done so much more that I thought I ever would do. I still have few things I would like to do - visit a museum or art gallery; have nice day trips out to see visit places further away to see the sights - perhaps a trip to a nearby cathedral city for starters.
Looking forward to future experiences 🙂
