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Other Close Relatives (or Friends) Who You Discovered Are On the LGBTQAI+ spectrum...And did you come out to them?

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(@chloec)
Prominent Member     Lakeshore, Michigan, United States of America
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Reading the topic about someone's Dad accepting them for who they are got me thinking.  Has anyone here discovered someone else who they are, oh, closely related to or good friends with that while they may not be crossdressers, they  still fall somewhere in the listing above? 

I'm a brother, father, grandfather, and cousin to a lot of people, and while it's possible, I know of no one directly in any of those relationships are anything but well, what some call 'straight'. But it would seem that the larger the circle, the more likely someone else is there. However!!! I do suspect there are possibilities from what our interactions have been and following their story.

And if the answer is yes, have you 'come out' to them?

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Lady
(@harriette)
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Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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@chloec My family is about as small as it gets, close to extinction. Both parents were from single-child families (But they had the same birthday. That's how they met.) I will be the last male in my direct family. My two other brothers will be a bit more productive.

Everyone is straight, at least on the outside.

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@chloec Have a gay daughter and a bi son both adults,  They dont know about stephanie for sure but I am sure they have their suspicions. I dont think they really care about those things one way or the other, but I am not ready to come out to them.  My wife thinks I should and I have told her I am not ready to do it personally but if she thought the the time was right she could tell them.  I also have a gay aunt but she doesnt know stephanie either.

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Lady
(@jillannquinn)
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Noble Member     Reno, Nevada, United States of America
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@chloec I have three stepchildren (two sons and one daughter) and I’ve come out to all three of them. My daughter and the younger son are both bisexual and the older son has autism and lives with us. In order to have more time to dress as Jill instead of sneaking around the house (I had for two years) when he wasn’t home, I came right out to him one day while I was fully dressed and explained to him everything. He thought I was a drag queen but I explained the difference between drag queens and cross dressers and his response was so awesome and so intelligent that I was momentarily floored. He said “Well, it doesn’t hurt me.” Why can’t so called “normal” people have the same response?

My daughter is very smart and an advocate for anyone on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, so I knew I was safe telling her. My younger son was the last one I told and the one I had the most reservations about telling. He too is a special needs adult and his maturity level is often at a child’s level. If any of the three out me to my family and friends it will be him.

My youngest son (biological) is too far right wing at this time to accept Jill, so for now he doesn’t know. I may reach a point with him where I get too tired of hiding and just tell him and let the cards fall where they may.

Hugs, Jill

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Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
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@chloec 

Good timing Chloe!

Last night I came out to one of my only cousins that didn't know.  We haven't spoken since before the pandemic.  It was a LONG conversation. 

I've known for years that Andrea is 'adventurous'.  Well, there's a LOT that I didn't know!  Her enthusiastic "Oh really" held more than a hint of prurient interest.  She is now the queerest person I know.  Coming out had 'implications' I never could've anticipated.  Yikes!

/EA

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
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No one in my current family or close friends that are in the spectrum - well no one that has admitted it or even suspected. There was one relative in the family tree that was gay in a time when it was illegal. he is talked about as a good person and was accepted within the family circle. 

I did have a contact made through a friend of a crossdresser they knew. When we started to chat we were amazed to find that we attended the same school and knew each other! Alas he has now purged as he is after love.

 

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Baroness Annual
(@d44)
Famed Member     New York, United States of America
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I am not aware of anyone in my family who is on the trans spectrum.

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(@finallyfiona)
    Leighton Buzzard, Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
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My son has Aspergers, but from what I know of his mindset, I don't expect I'll ever come out to him.  I've an aunt now in her late seventies, who only ever had an eye for the girls, she's rather cut off from the entire rest of the family (not because of the LGBTQ+) but could potentially be someone who'd understand if I were to talk to her.  

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Duchess
(@robyn1408)
Reputable Member     Dennis, Massachusetts, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

I have a nephew who is a FTM adult. Fully transitioned at 22. I see him once a year but have never come out to him. We just are not close in that way. I also have a long time friend who lives in Provincetown Ma who transitioned, ftm, at 60 yrs old. I really would like to come out to him and thinking about it I feel like I should arrange a good moment to have “the talk”.

I mean of all people I would expect support from them. Food for thought. 
Robyn

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Lady
(@jake1850)
Trusted Member     Cape Cod, Massachusetts, United States of America
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Baroness
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(@chloec)
Prominent Member     Lakeshore, Michigan, United States of America
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I decided a little fuller explanation for why I asked, is called for after reading these replies, and posts in other threads. Before she passed, my mother told me that my father who died in a terrible accident when I was young, definitely had at least two male most likely gay friends. Today's world? Eh. late 40's early 50's? unusual. My parents met involved with theater in college. Today? Eh again, 1939-40, ok. He came from a family of 3. Other two, male and female, everyday people from what I could see, married, kids. His father? Well, 1 of 2, and the sister never married. Their father?, 7 of 8 who lived into their 60's or later. devout Catholics. only 2 married, the rest? male and female, no church involvement at all, just stayed single. Why? I have 3 adult offspring, two married with kids, the other? Single, has dated a lot, and today enjoys being single, and living in a very well known gay community.

I am who I am, they are who they are.  i have no problems with any of that, people are people and deserve to live the life they feel comfortable, single, companionship, whatever. I love my kids all equally. I'm just suspecting there's more to it all then something in the water, or random choices people make.

I was born this way, when I popped out, the doc said 'male' which went on my chart and has followed me since. Since at least 4 or 5 I've known there was something different about me. I've been following the vlog of someone intersexed. Popped out, doc said female, on chart and done. However, years later, they found they weren't quite exactly what the doc said, because appearances can be deceiving. Yet, they were raised and continue to accept they are of the gender they have felt all along, regardless of anatomical differences. I just think in my circle of family and friends, there are likely more differences than people are letting on. I'm just wondering how prevalent that might be. Hugs to all who have read and those who have replied.  ChloëC

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