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I assume that I'm perceived by the general public as trans, and then they think about me whatever they think about trans people in general. I like the general public best when they keep their thoughts to themselves, but they can think whatever they want as long as they let me live my life. Some people refer to me as a man, others as a woman, and I'll tell you in a way it's fun to note how people behave differently as you present more male or more female. I've had a few bizarre experiences, but not really ever a bad time (at least, not as bad as it could've been).
I go out trying to look as femme as possivle, but know full well up close that I do not pass and anybody with a few functioning neurons can figure it out. From a distance, or passing on the street I can likely get away with it.
Most important, I do not really care. If somebody percieves me as female, great! If not, no big deal. I enjoy dressing and going out, and I am not going to.let others change that.
I think my initial intention was to get out of the door dressed regardless but not as a 'man in a dress'. I was at the point where I felt that I looked good enough to give the impression of being a woman. By the general reactions it worked but did get a few stares and a couple of negative reactions so knew I needed a little more work. I was very conscious of anyone staring and any glance was treated as a negative.
Being fortunate to have good friends who helped and encouraged me and also went out with me I made those adjustments to my looks and demeanour. I have friends now that have never known the 'old' me and never asked about my past life as we go out as if it were perfectly normal. That can be extended to the way I have been treated to work colleagues, neighbours, my church and anywhere having long interactions is normal.
Now I have no problems at all. Even interactions are positive and am addressed as a woman, whether they realise or not and on balance mostly not.
I never kid myself that some will realise and I am 'read' but being treated well and respectfully is all that has been experienced. If they do know they clearly don't care and if I get misgendered and it is not with malice or noticed I just carry on.
Most people truly do not care what we wear. Sure there is a tiny amount of loud mouths in congress trying to make an issue of it, but they are just trying to be loud and obnoxious, and if it was not this topic it would just be something else. The loud mouths have pretty much lost on the gay/lesbian issue, though a few still keep trying. So now the find another bogeyman to vlame.
I was just at a national historic site (coincidentally about supression of human rights), and was reading an information board while a women walked up and was reading the other boards. We didn't interact, but she was close enoigh to obviously I was male. A few momemts later when I was back at my adventure van I see her walk up to her adventure 4X4 rig when she makes a detour over to me and asks about my van. We had a very pleasent conversations about travel and such things. It was very pleasent and not the least issue with my 38C boobs prominant in a snug top, a althetic skirt with black tights, my long hair and a bit of makeup. We just had a normal conversation...nothing more, nothing less.
Whenever I go out, if I am not meeting another lady is always to do whatever any other person will do, run some errands, do some shopping, get a bite to eat. I will definitely try to blend in as much as possible by dressing and acting appropriately.
I am certain that I have been clocked a few times, but it has just been a quick second look, I have had the fortune to find very respectful people, whether they see me as a transgender or a crossdresser they have always addressed me as a lady.
My suggestion has always been to dress and act accordingly whenever you are dress, if you dress like appropriately, people will treat you with respect, but there will always be an exception, so walk away don’t react to vulgar comments or behavior.