Out and about

To read that I managed to get that across is half the job done!

The other half will be to read your stories...!

Love Laura

Can't wait to read it!

Love Laura

I'm aware that cross dressers tend to be marginalised even there. I didn't see any other CDs there, just a guy in an orange jumper, skirt, and token lippy - which looked kinda funny with a beard, but hey, anything goes!

Everyone I spoke to was interested in the plight of full-on cross dressers like me, and the difficulty on being accepted anywhere.

They loved my stories of doing ordinary things, and people's reactions, and were so incredibly supportive.

They asked all the awkward questions, but in a friendly way.

I feel so much more prepared for any interrogation into why I do this.

In one case, my response was "because I f%$#ing want to", but I'd had 4 shots and 4 beers - and judged my audience and moment well, as the laughing testified.

Because people tended to ask similar questions, I felt a bit of liberty to vary answers and see what came back.

Guess what? All positive!

If you go in with the right attitude, people will get behind you whatever the reason... although be prepared for those who just don't get it.

One guy, a 6'7" basketball player insisted I was a woman in a man's body.

I started out by contradiction, but in his drunk state, and possibly narrow comprehension, he disagreed quite fiercely to the point I thought he might get rough.

I couldn't see how I might be antagonistic, but luckily was saved by Bee, who I danced with.

After seeing that, he laughed and told me I was man to the core, as I'd found a new way to attract ladies without trying!

I will let him in peace with that idea.

Love Laura

What a fabulous adventure! Thanks for sharing, and for myself, it makes me want to do something similar!

I've ventured out a bit, but never quite like that, I've been much more restrained.

Amy

Hi Amy

It's all about motivation - why would you want to go out.

Make a list of positive things you'd like from the experience, set a mission or two  and accomplish them - or as many as possible.

Think about the negative things that may happen, and prepare yourself for them, but set your expectations that these things won't happen, because you're prepared.

As I strolled aloog the promenade, I heard a Jamaican tinged voice say "F#$% me, is that a woman or a man?".

This filled me with joy, just because the owner of the voice felt he needed to ask - at least some of the illusion I had set out to create had worked.

A second voice replied "It's a man, bro!", and the first voice replied "Cor, f@#$in' 'ell".

This was the only slightly negative comment I'd had, and even then, I didn't hear it as a negative.

My mind was fixed that this was going to be the best experience I could make it, but out of that framework, and the missions I set (promenade walking, shopping, clubbing, etc, I had no set expectations apart from to really enjoy the experience and to positively interact with as many people as possible. Something that male me finds almost impossible, but, it seems, Laura has quite the gift for.

Laura is bringing happiness to me and people around me.

I can't really ask for more - except to do it more often, and my remarkable wife is pushing me to do exactly that.

Hence I am passing on that encouragement to my girls here at CDH.

You really can turn your closeted hobby into something that brings joy to many people, if you want to.

Love Laura