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What are your hopes for 2024?
My hope is that my girlfriend will relax her limitations at least a little bit. Presently, she is okay with me underdressing in bra and panties, as long as I do not do it too often. Everything else I can wear when I am home alone, but not in her presence.
I am hoping this year for her to be open to more items, starting with stockings and garter belts, and just be able to have more talks about my crossdressing without her getting irritated. A more long-range goal is to be totally free to wear dresses, forms and shoes in her presence, but that is maybe a goal for 2025,
I hope you all can achieve your personal goals for 2024!
@cece Similar Boat as many Need to lose weight and hope to be able to be on the River more often. My wife knows and seems complacent with it. but she does not share anything with me negative or positive. so its so hard to read. she acts positive as she does not even bat an eye when I talk about it or show her some pictures but she says nothing. If one day she at least said something like I would like to see you in that I would consider that a successful 2024. thanks for the topic Cheers RC
@cece thanks for bringing this topic up - I relate to your goals, and I share some of them myself. I know it can be challenging to talk with your SO, and uncomfortable. My advice is to stay with your vulnerability and bring up things you want to share with her even so. I have learned to do this in small bites and test things out. At first these conversations were very fraught. Eventually irritation was replaced with curiosity and gradual acceptance - of the situation. (not of everything I desire) It seems you are at a point where there is at least some open-ness to further conversation about your feelings.
Good luck in reaching your goals. It has made me really think about mine.
Hugs
Evie
Hmm, well to keep it simple I'm hoping for many opportunities as possible to get out as Melodee (to be fair 2023 was pretty darned good to me).
To possibly help you with your own goals, I'd suggest being as open and honest as you can with your GF. Many SOs behave in this way because they aren't certain what's going on. We have generally had decades to try to figure out what it all means. They have usually had only weeks or months and don't have the benefit (or curse?) of being in our head to see what's going on. If you want her support, then you must trust her with that sacred info, as scary as it may be.
Good luck, girl! 🙂
My main goal is to lose those holiday pounds that always seem to creep up on me this time of year. I was better about not eating too much through the holidays, but still managed to put on a few extra pounds. Once I get back to more regular exercise and fewer holiday gatherings and I slim up a bit my goal is to do a high-quality photo shoot. I want to have a full makeover and then a professional shoot in both lingerie and a couple of nice dresses.
Like Melodee said, good luck and I hope your wishes come true 🙂
Fiona would love to expand on her progress from 2023. Being at my own house during the working day, 20 miles from OH's house where we live, and staying over one evening per week, it's mainly just the neighbours who'll ever see Fiona. I'm greatly encouraged by comments in other threads about coming out to them, that would open the door (literally!) for a lot more going outside once it warms up, and even away down the road in public. To start with though, at the moment I'm planning to surprise the postman and the Amazon delivery guy (if he even bothers to knock) tomorrow.
@finallyfiona I love it I’m sure you’ll be a very welcome sight tomorrow to those very lucky delivery men!
@ginger1968 Thank you honey, but that post was 5 months ago ... and yes, I did it 🙂
That was the crack in the dam as it were; things moved on rather fast after that. I quickly got the confidence to go out dressed in public, then I came out to my family as bi-gender at Easter. More recently, I've now been living as Fiona 24/7 for over a month! Looking back at what I wrote about my CD hopes for 2024, I think I can safely say, objective achieved 🙂
I'm still working on getting those COVID pounds off and I hope to have more success this year. I also want to get a makeover. I'm "ok" with makeup but I certainly have a lot to learn. I also hope to keep working more of my feminine side into my daily life. I came to the conclusion that I am most likely trans in 2023 and I just don't want to repress my feminine side any longer.
I hope to be able to talk with my wife and expand some of my freedoms to dress at home, I would love to be able to shave my legs all of the time as it has been 20 plus years since I did it the last time. Only time will tell how much progress I can make and how fast but I am hoping this year is a good time to work on that. Maybe next year I can go to Keystone or some other conference.
Good luck with your discussions. Opening up to your spouse can have so many benefits, and getting to shave your legs full-time is an amazing one. My wife doesn't nat an eye when I go for my month waxing sessions.
Hi CeCe,
My personal goals for 2024 are first to have a professional makeover and photo shoot, second try and attend a venue somewhere and meet up with some of the girls, third try and find the courage to come out to my wife,
If i can attain these 3 things then everything else is a bonus X
Hugs Rozalyn X 🤗
Wow Cece, I’m at the same stage you are and am working on the same goals. I think the thing that would be most helpful to me is having more time to talk about my crossdressing.
For so many of us, crossdressing is an intensely powerful and personal experience, hard to understand and even harder to explain to others. With the exception of CDH and whatever other forums we might enjoy, having someone to share these deeply personal feelings with can become as powerful as the need to wear a dress itself.
Understandably our wives and girlfriends, having very little frame of reference, find talking with their husband/boyfriend about him wanting to present as a woman (sometimes after a long marriage) very uncomfortable. Best advice, the more you talk the more natural it will become. I will often find an article or essay regarding crossdressing that I find thought provoking and will bring it up to her so we can begin a conversation. The more I do this the more comfortable we both become. Last advice, no secrets.
Robyn
@robyn1408 Robyn - your words reflect almost exactly my thoughts and experience. In particular, "having someone to share these deeply personal feelings with can be come as powerful as the need to...dress..."
I have bared my some of my deepest feelings to my wife, in the beginning it just came pouring out. Cathartic. Although she is a reluctant sounding board, she listens and I am grateful for her patience. She even encouraged me to go on this forum in the first place. Like you, I search for articles, podcast episodes and posts that I find relevant and bring it to her. Sometimes there is a conversation and sometimes she just listens. It is enough for me that she is there. I also have two therapists that I meet every few weeks - primarily to talk about gender fluidity and life, now that I am learning to embrace who I am.
Thanks for sharing your wisdom,
Evie
Good luck with accomplishing your goals for this year.
I haven't really set any goals for the year. I usually take a wait and see attitude. I let my wife take the lead on bringing up my dressing so she is comfortable with the conversation, so far that has worked pretty well.
XOXO
Suzanne
Hi CeCe,
My CD goals for 2024 are similar to many others:
- Want to lose weight
- Continue to improve my makeup skills
- Go out in public dressed for the first time
Davina
