Private vs Public CDing.

Hi Mary Jane,

I'm private right now however I do paint my nails and I do wear my undies 24/7 both in private and public. I hope to go out in public someday but for right now I'm private. I applaud everyone who can go out in public, I need to find that confidence.

An interesting typo in the title...!

I generally dress in private, but have certainly been out in public.  I am very circumspect as to where I will go out in public since I am not 'out' yet to friends and family.  When the time is right, I will do that, just not yet.  So, locally, I have to be careful; away from home, much less so.

I love being out and about when dressed - it feels right and just a little exhilarating.
The first time I was truly out in public in a busy place, I was with someone else and that made it much easier, so, where possible, I'd recommend doing just that.

Isabel x

Right now, I'm private.  I really want to get out this year (new year's resolution) but there's some other factors around that like telling wife etc.  Not being able to drive also makes it challenging to go far away from my neighbourhood easily.  Sure I'm happy being private right now but one day I'll walk up to Gregg's en femme hehe

Love Rachel

My wife knows, and I frequently dress when I work from home, on days when our son is taking classes elsewhere. I'm not out to him as the wife isn't ready for that, but he suspects, I think, based on the questing he asks his mother. She often, what I would say, over-answers, but that's a different thread.

I've been out and about on rare occasions in this covid ravaged world. My neighbors may well have seen me, whether they knew it was me I don't know... or care. I don't figure i answer to them.

At work, I wear lip stick that matches my lip color, but is glossy; I pick my brows into a more or less feminine shape and wear color on them; I wear clear mascara; i wear earrings of various descriptions, including studs with stones, pearls,etc and gold hoops, as well as multiple rings on my hands, clear nail polish, and am writing on growing them out but it's winter so they break. I'm not out there, but I'm not entirely Mr Drabs either (full underdress, of course).

Bridgette vS

i totally public. i can't sit around the house dressed, well i can but thats no fun. nobody in my family or friends know i dress. i have been going out in public for about 5 years now. i'm talking about 20 hours or more a week. its great. i buy clothes to show them off, not to just look in the mirror and say that looks nice. if i had a wife and she knew i was a cd i'd probably talk her into going out in public with me. i'm sure we would have a great time. girls like to have girl time with other girls. they like it when you understand about womens clothes, shoes and other womanly things. i think it would bring you much closer.

Hi Mary Jane,

My wife knows about my C/D ing and I worked hard to stay in her boundaries and not dress in front of her or bring it to the bedroom.

Even with all of that it killed our intimacy.so now I am starting to dress at home more and I actually went out twice in public this year ,what a wonderful experience.

Hugs Patty

I'm private and dress primarily indoors. Besides all of you my SO is the only one I've told. As for dressing around her...I don't see it ever happening beyond basic and conservative panties. I informed her where my stash is located but I do not think she has ever looked. If she does, so be it and maybe it would be for the best if she did. It might allow for one more door to be broken down. But don't actually break my closet door because I still need somewhere to hide my stuff. I can still dream though.

I guess I am a hybrid of the 2. My wife knows but doesn’t support it, or care to participate. I go out of the house fully dressed 3-4 times a week. I dress at home alone to some degree every day. Tough question for me to answer definitively.

Gosh. Bad typo. Joys of using phone and not computer. (I guess one could say its not p.c.)

Hi, Mary Jane... I’m certainly a public dresser. I have even come out to a male friend last weekend and he was happy for me to tell him and we will have dinner together with his wife and mine. His wife works with our city’s leading trans surgeon! Lucky me!

Today I’m off to the Cosmetic Clinic as Polly... I changed my name with them two weeks ago. Stupid going in to them under my drab name! So, yes... I’m a public dresser

Hugs Polly

Private to fearful private for me right now - but something that I’m looking to change if I can find the courage and skill.
I desperately don’t want to get ‘clocked,’ if I was I feel like I would have a panic attack or maybe some kind of heart failure .....  Yes, ridiculous I know but....

I’ve been thinking that now is the right time of year (here in the NE U.S.) because I could wear a long coat with my over the calf high heeled boots and that would cover us a great many failings with respect to my body shape and unperfected feminine mannerisms.   Strangely, I’m not as concerned with my makeup - I recently bought a pair of girly framed prescription glasses (I have horrible vision) and I really like how feminine I look in those on good makeup and hair days.  So you’d think going out in public would be easy, but here we are......   Send me some courage please.

It takes courage to share with that kind of honesty. Thats a great start.

I understand. Big question.

Mary J,

Thanks for sharing sweets, I added a poll to the last question in your post! I hope you don't mind. Thanks again!

-Samantha Roarke-

PS: That's great your wife is so accepting!