Private vs Public CDing.

Thanks for sharing. Spending time here at CDH, will definitely help with building up your courage!

It is so cool that you got glasses. Getting my scrip in some cute frames is on my todo list! There are so many cute styles and colors, it must have been hard to decide!

Oh, and welcome to CDH! Enjoy your time here!!

Hugs, Denise

I was a private person for a long time. But once I went out into the public and saw that I had nothing to fear, I became a girl who go's out in public whenever I want to. I don't flaunt my femininity, but I do make sure that I look as passable as I possibly can. I try to blend in with the flow so I don't look out of place  Its so much better being out in public presenting myself as a woman than hiding in a house or a apartment and I wish that I hadn't waited as long as I did before leaving the security of my house. As the saying goes

You have nothing to fear but fear itself.

Like so many others, I was very private for the vast majority of my life, but in the last 2 or 3 years I have become much more open, and have gone out en femme many times now. My wife always knew about my fondness for wearing women's lingerie, but also for so many years I longed to go further.

My wife has seen me dressed, and actually helps with my dressing at times.

Amy

Grace, Dearest

She has a real conflict of interest gong on. I was helping her cull her closet this morning, by trying on her tops/dresses (we're now the same size). Toward the end, I tried on an ankle-length, pink chiffon dress, and she remarked on how nice I looked in it. And two minutes later, said she thought my desire to wear women's clothes was "sick". She insists that what I do is "wrong", but still goes out with Bettylou (we have a movie date this Friday). What can I say?

Hugs,
Bettylou

I was private for many years.  My first makeover was the push I needed.  Now I go out every chance I get.  It never seems to be enough.  Living part-time is on the horizon.  Full-time/transition after that.

Funny what a little makeup can do....

Bunnymom...

pink chiffon....mmm..

you are not sick, you are wonderful, enjoy your movie, just make sure she buys the popcorn!!

Hello ladies,

Id have to say more private but I am slowly venturing out more and more.  In saying that I do wear a lot of women’s clothes when out in drab at times.  My wife thinks I’m a little ballsy when I’ll wear women’s jeans, sweater and my low heeled ankle boots with a touch of mascara and eye shadow while I’m out!
Ashley

I would consider myself a public crossdresser, in that I have been out in public once, and fully intend to go again. My wife knows and is fully supportive.

I was public when younger but have retreated into private (but active) underdressing. Now panties 24/7 with camis more often than not, all under drab. I am planning to venture out this week as Ginny for some shopping, lingerie, of course!

Hugs,

Ginny

I voted private but I have been out in public once away from home and stayed dressed for two wonderful days. Since the pandemic started we rarely go anywhere due to my wife’s compromised immune system from chemo. Getting our first vaccine shot today 2/4 and hopefully after the second dose we can exercise a little more freedom and plan a getaway. I haven’t been out full enfemme locally and probably won’t. When we do go out I am wearing my skinny jeans, blouse and booties sometimes included are mascara and jewelry. I always wear panties and in the evening it’s my girly lounge wear or pjs. About once a week week I go all out and wear my breast forms, wig and full makeup. I just love to see Stephanie looking back from the mirror....  Stephanie

I picked private.

When I came out to my wife, she was very supportive and she has given me alot of flexibility and support since.  However, my wife made one thing clear and that is I dress in the privacy of our home.

Yes, on a few occassions in the past I would venture out (like picking her up at university after her evening class) dressed up, but for the most part I want to respect the boundaries she laid out as I feel it is a 2 way street, she has given me alot of leeway in dressing up and buying clothing (which has been alot), so I want to abide by her rules of only dressing up in the house.

If I could, I would go public, but right now private only.

Hi Mary Jane
This is an interesting question. I guess many of us start private and then some of us go public. I began cross dressing in private but very soon became aware that I wanted to present myself as a woman in public. So I dress at home in private when SO is out, if she is away overnight I dress at home but go out into the local neighbourhood - shopping, eating out (all pre covid). If I went away overnight I would usually take some of HildaRuths clothes etc with me so that I could go out for shopping and a meal en femme. Soon I will be living on my own and I expect to be able to spend much more time being and becoming HildaRuth both at home and in public. Like some others have written I can't really see the point in getting all dressed up and just staying in doors. And I've found that when I'm out and about locally there aren't any problems e.g. the lady who cleans the stairs in the apartment block just says, "Good morning dear" when we pass on the stairs and when I first met my neighbour in the adjacent flat dressed as HildaRuth she recognised that it was me i.e. the person she had known as David and she said, "Oh I do like your hair. What do you like to be called?"
So my experience is that if you do 'go public' the chances are that you will be welcomed. I do hope that is true for you.
Love
HildaRuth 💋💋

I'm very open about my crossdressing, My need to dress was so great, that I could not hide it any more.

I have been crossdressing for over 3 decades. Been starting to become open to the public from the end of the late 1990s and was completely open by the early 2000s.

Hippie

Thank you, Grace; I will.

Hugs,
Bettylou

Here is what I did, back then I was a drunk. Booze was my courage and when I start to sobered up. I was at some public place dressed and had to walk home dressed.

After a few or more times of doing this. I realized that I didn't need the booze anymore.

Some I remember and some I don't

Maybe try getting a buzz going, cause if I was there. You would go going out dressed with me. I could be your booze of encouragement.

Hippie