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Progressing patiently for the impatient CD

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(@rebeccaoh)
Estimable Member     Oxford, Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 7 months ago

There have been so many milestones in my cd journey to this point that have previously felt like they were impossible. First telling my spouse about this side of me (kind of), acceptance of underdressing, acceptance of pedicures and brow shaping, acceptance of a smooth body, the list goes on. So, when I think about the future and possibly being able to dress around my spouse, I feel excitement and hope. At the same time, we just aren’t there yet and the impatience is killing me constantly. I’m always thinking about how we do get to that point? Is it by being a good partner, or maybe if I can be more attractive that would do it, or maybe we need to talk about it more?!?! In reality, the truth is it is all about time, comfort, and empathy. The battle is just to not be pushy, demanding, etc. I know how she feels and we’ve had some great heart to hearts that confirmed her acceptance of me and our commitment to each other. So , I know I am truly loved and accepted and that this is just a journey we’re on together. But I’ll be damned if the time ticking away isn’t grating at me. My anxiety tells me the beauty I feel these days en femme has an expiration date and I just want to push things forward so badly. I think we’ve all done this at one point or another and know how that ends… sorry for the rant ladies but I just needed to vent my emotions so I don’t explode. 

p.s. I just got a new order of the cutest dresses and lingerie. A pink belted A-Line, a sexy rouched red dress with a sweetheart neckline, and a few others. Also, some new red strappy heels that might need to be broken in but feel great for dancing. All of this with a new small vanity for my office, I’m a spoiled Rebecca at the moment and loving it. Heart  

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(@bellaz76)
Joined: 4 months ago

Prominent Member     London, Middlesex, United Kingdom
Posts: 363

@rebeccaoh thanks for the rant, its so important for us all to get it out... Thanks Im glad your wife knows, and sounds like although shes not fully accepting, shes supportive and Ive heard of a huge amount who are nowhere near as supportive.  

I am like you though and would be itching to have more, I hope you get that for your happiness.  

For me what helped is being on CDH, being part of the CD side, but also chatting to other SO's in the private significant others area of the site, some as accepting fully, some in the middle and others struggle a lot more, but like with the other CD's here, we all can support each other no matter the situation.

I would love to chat to your wife one day, if she ever would like to become a member, not for everyone i know, but there it is, its what helped me to fully embrace and accept.....maybe it would help others as well.

The offer is there for her if she would ever like it.  - sending you both huge hugs - L xx

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(@rebeccaoh)
Joined: 7 months ago

Estimable Member     Oxford, Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 77

@bellaz76 Heart

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(@ellyd22)
Joined: 2 years ago

Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
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@bellaz76 

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(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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@rebeccaoh Welcome to CDH, Rebecca!

Since you say that you dress every day, but maybe not in front of your wife, do you work at home and she doesn't? If so, that sounds like quite the opportunity to crossdress.

Your presentation is very believable, so whatever works for you, keep doing it.

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(@Anonymous 99388)
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Slow and steady wins the race.

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(@hueych53ch46)
Joined: 2 years ago

Trusted Member     Beach park, Illinois, United States of America
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@alexisgrace great advice

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(@hueych53ch46)
Trusted Member     Beach park, Illinois, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

My wife doesn't like me crossdressing 

I to want to move forward with my crossdressing as well 

I know in due time the universe will open the door for me 

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(@Anonymous 99388)
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Jennifer what I did I searched the web for medical documentation on my condition so hopefully she would understand. If that didn't work I was going to suggest couples counseling. Well she fully understands now, she knows I'm not going to leave her or have surgery. It took time but we are in a good place. 

Alexis Grace xoxo 💋 

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(@alison-anderson)
Noble Member     Middlesex county, New Jersey, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

I can appreciate your anxiety, but it is really up to her. I have a friend whose wife knows and accepts it, but isn't ready to see him dressed because she won't be able to unsee it. So he changes at another member's home, they come to the meeting together, go out after the meeting to a bar, and then change back before he heads home.

Probably the worst thing you can do is push too hard, because it often leads to backfire. Keep up the conversations, and don't overdo it if you get a green light.

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