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Being a crossdresser has certain advantages and disadvantages (Pros and Cons). I list a few below.
Pros
1: A crossdresser will tend to take better care of her health, mainly weight and facial appearance.
2: A crossdresser understand a wife or girlfriend's need and desires better because she has the same need and desires.
3: A crossdresser usually make a better parent because they not only have a father's instinct but a mother's instinct as well. This is especially true when raising a daughter.
4: A crossdresser is usually a good homemaker when it comes to cooking and keeping a home clean.
Cons
1: A crossdresser usually worries a lot about being discover by family, neighbored, coworkers or just a stranger.
2: Most crossdressers are closet dressers and thus live very lonely lives.
3: Being a male, a crossdresser usually have broad shoulders and big feet, making it difficult to find feminine clothing that fits.
4: A crossdresser just starting out and with no training tend to make the same mistakes at buying big breast, spick heels and not knowing how to apply makeup.
These are just a few Pros and Cons I thought up. If you can think of others, feel free to tell me.
Edie, hi. I don't know why others didn't take the chance to add to your list.
I have to say that I mostly agree on the "cons". But not quite so much on the "Pros"...
On the one about us having the same needs and desires. Wanting to wear similar styles of clothes hardly qualify as having the same needs and desires I'd say. True, as humans, sure, we have similar needs. Affection, protection, etc. But I think that if you as some of the supportive wives in this site they may not be in agreement either.
That about the "mother instinct"? Ok, maybe if you could define "father instinct" and "mother instinct" and how different they can be, and how can it be that wearing women's clothes would provide us with that understanding. Now, don't think I don't get it, at least partially. in her teens, I was my daughter's "favorite" parent. I took her shopping, even for her prom dresses. She would come to me for advice. But that didn't have anything to do with me being a CD. Just a caring dad. And certainly not every CD is a caring parent. Same as how some non-cd fathers can also be caring and well, even mother-like.
Ah yes, the part about a CD being a good homemaker and keeping things clean... you must have missed so many photos posted where the background is more than messy... and again, I'd like to get the wives opinion on that. I think that while most may be more careful with their women's clothes, they would be about the same as other men in taking care of the house chores.
Let's face it. Being a CD is only a part of who we are. We have about the same rate of professionals, doctors, jerks, sex offenders, wonderful people, etc, etc. as other segments of the population.
All this, of course, in my opinion.
Gaby
Pro
We have an innie and an outie, without that annoying 3-10 day off duty cycle.
Just a bit-o-fun
I can attest to being a very poor housekeeper and probably about the least sensitive to the needs of family members (fortunately I've been spared the burden of parenthood, but I'm realistic enough to admit it probably wouldn't change the core of who I am).
If anything, for me crossdressing provides a distraction and release from the (often legitimate) burdens and responsibilities of life. As such it has the potential to be healthy or unhealthy, depending on my personal priorities. I'll be the first to admit it is often a selfish pursuit, but one must balance care for self with care for others, and I believe this concern transcends any scruples of sexuality or gender identity.