Pulling back for a bit

Oh dear...

So sorry to hear of your problems honey....I hope you can work it out with your wife..... your stories about going out together have been lovely...and inspiring.

Obviously your marriage must come first...... but I'm sure you know that there are people here for you....you have been a rock on cdh for so many....

Biggest huggs, grace xx

Bridgette,

We’ll be here waiting for you when and if you return.

Much love,

Raquel

Good luck with everything hon. I hope things get better for you sooner than later.

Hugs, Liara

Hugs honey💕

I know what you're going through, Bridgette. Prayers.

My heart goes out to you Bridgette.  Take all the time you need. I have no doubt you’ll work this out and both you and your bride will be stronger for it.

❤️C

Bridgette, these changes do happen. And it hurts.

In June of 2020 I came out fully to my wife. She did know before we married but I kept the depth of my femme self deeply closetted. When I finally did tell her all her response overwhelmed me. I wrote several forum post and at least 2 articles here at CDH about my experience.

Her main reaction was the most exquisite question I believe I was ever asked. "OK, well how can I help you feel more like a woman?" Really!? Certainly "unexpected", is putting it mildly.

I had about 2 months of dressing freedom. I can't think of an adjective to appropriately describe that time. However as time went on I noticed she became more sullen with me.

Why? My feminine was "bleeding" over into my masculine. I began being too feminine during the time she needed me masculine.

I sensed this and told her I would give up my feminine self expression. She was visibly relieved and genuinely thankful.

I think just as we "need" our feminine time, so our wives [most of them I am assuming] need their man, sans our feminine self. This man and his particular style of masculine is who they married. That our style of masculine may have a fair amount of our femininity influencing it makes no matter to them.   It is the masculine they know and love us for. Mix in any more femininity and their balance is upset.  And to share that man with another woman, even if that woman is us, is very difficult for many woman.

Oh, BTW I was told that by a wife of a CDH member, [herself a member] both of whom contributed to the forums quite regularly. I've noticed that is no longer the case.

Accepting / supporting wives migrating to a less than accepting / supportive position after a certain amount of time I suspect is not too unusual. And that dear sister makes our balancing act so much more difficult, does it not?

"Letting your inner woman out" is so wonderfully amazing, yet is so often fraught with difficulty and heartbreak. Many of us know that hurt from personal experience. Thus we appreciate your hurt much more deeply.

Hugs,

Charlene.

Dear Bridgette ,

We will always be here for you !

Love Sylvia.

Oh my Bridgette do hope things work out for the best. Know have alot support here at CDH. But you right to pull back some a marriage is most important thing.  Like always been saying you know the light will be on here when ready to come back.

Hugs and peace

Donna

Hi Bridgette,

Good luck mending the fences.  Hope things work out for the better.

Alice

Knowing I have solid support here is a tremendous help to me, and I deeply appreciate it. I won't be gone, but just not quite as active.

Bridgette

Everything you wrote rings so true. I was blending them to much for her. She indeed sees two different people, whereas I (and probably all of us are similar) only see me, myself, one single indivisible person. Now I feel as if I'm being asked to actually BE two different people. Hopefully that doesn't do any damage...

Thanks to all for the support!

Bridgette

Hi Bridgette

Take your time, and sort it out together.

CDH will be here when you are ready.

Love and hugs,

Lara

Hi Bridigette you know girl we are all here for you and good luck with sorting things out big hugs and lots of 💋💋💋💋.

Stephanie