purging - how often?

Yes, I purged several times over the years thinking my crossdressing days were over. I now wish I could get my hands back on some of those terrific items. I am not purging anymore. I hope, but I will donate to charity anything that does not fit well.

Dress, guilt, shame, purge, repeat.  Yes, I've gone thru that cycle more times than I can remember.  The financial loss - depressingly high.  The emotional cost - astronomical.  The last purge was about 12 years ago.  I actually thought I was cured.  Silly girl.  Of course the desire came back.  Except for once I took a good look in the mirror and realized this is who I am.  So I went on another buying spree.  That was 5 years ago.  Now I'm running out of places to put everything!  Being a girl is SO much fun!  I can't imagine ever giving that up.  But if I ever do get sick of the lifestyle, I'm not purging.  All the lovely things will get carefully packed and put into storage.  Because I know I'll want them back.

Be good to yourselves ladies.  DON'T PURGE!

Emily

I've purged twice in my 30 years of cross-dressing.  From the comments I've read here and elsewhere, purging is common, though the frequency varies from person to person.  I have learned to resist purging.  I keep my clothes and accessories stored away so I can not easily get them anytime I want.  I just get them when I have some Stephanie time and intend on getting dressed up.  That greatly reduces the chance of me throwing things away on a whim.

I've found that the only good thing that came out of my purges is that I had an excuse to buy new things.

One time I purged photos of me en femme.  It's not the same as throwing away clothes and accessories, but I did regret it later.  I got some back from a friend who had copies.  The rest are gone forever.

Hmmm, purge..... purge .... ah, here it is.  Page 1092 of Websters New World dictionary.

RRRIP.  Dont need that page anymore.

Now, where were we? 🙂

Love it Steve!

Bought a few things yesterday and promise myself not to purge!

kristen rebecca

That's a good girl Kristen!  Purge is four letter word in my books now.  Lol

Stevie

I could definitely speak about purging,

about 10 years ago I had quite a good size collection of clothes, then I sort of put Cross-dressing in the back seat for a while due to my then current life situation and ended up getting rid of my small wardrobe, Fast forward to this year I’ve built it back up to where I once was. Although you could make the arguement that clothing styles change constantly and clothing eventually will get wore out so it’s almost natural  to purge every once in a while but it’s tough to start over a new collection and expensive.

My wife calls it a wardrobe refresh,2 or 3 items out to the charity shops and 10 items in,a great philosophy so i have adopted the same,life's to short so just enjoy and do the sensible thing. Py xx

It is common from what I’ve seen, but I have never done that...

Too often.😢

All too common, Kristen.

But I think it's time to girl up.

Throwing them away isn't just a waste, it's an admission that what you're doing is wrong.

But it's not wrong.

It's harmless - and if it's sexy lingerie, good for the love life.

I have to say that I find ordinary cotton panties far more comfortable for daily wear!

I haven't purged for 7 years, and have no intention of ever purging again. Storage, if I need to, but good clothes aren't rubbish.

Send them to charity shops if you feel you need to get rid of them, then someone else can benefit.

Love Laura

Thanks Laura,

i like the way you put it. promising myself not to do it again 🙂

Thanks to all the girls for the fantastic feedback. i am learning from the kindest girls.

hugs

kristen

Far too many times.Like you Kristen I would buy tons of clothes,enjoy wearing them but after a day or so guilt would set in and I would throw the whole bunch away.I did this for years.In 2011,I decided to stop purging as the older I was getting the more I realised that Roberta is a big psrt of who I am.What helped me to stop was the knowledge that my was aware of my x-dressing.I didn't need to hide it away anymore.The only things I dispose of now are jjst afew items that have gone out of fashion.I have even got pairs of tights / pantyhose bought about eigbt years ago that I still wear and are still in good comdition.That hasn't stopped me buying more.Hosiery is always an integral part of my outfits.