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Ladies,
Lately I am feeling seriously obsessed with body shaping. I have some foundation wear: panty girdles, shapers, but have not found a good corset or waist cincher. There are so many options and I am unsure how to select something that will make me look snatched but not be too uncomfortable.
And what is this idea about 'waist-training'? Is this really a thing that can be achieved to slim your waist over time? or is it simply getting used to wearing something restrictive?
In any case, would love to know what you have found that works. And how do you determine how much you can go down in waist size without stopping breathing? (haha)
I appreciate your experience and insights as always,
Hugs
Evie
Of different shapewear I've worn, I like the kind that hook in front and then zip up in front, with the zipper squeezing you in a little more. I like the confining messages that corset sends to me. "You are female, you are locked from your birth. You can live within a corset. It is the same with your gender. You can be comfortable. Get on with your life and wear your corset and your pre-ordained femininity in comfort."
To get some terms down:
- Cincher/Waspie - this is usually an elastic item worn on the waist to smooth out one's figure. It will squeeze some, but isn't going to make a dramatic effect. It's usually closed with bra-like hook and eye clasps.
- Waist trainer - generally just a mini-corset. They tend to be 8"-9" top to bottom (underbust), steel boned (meaning vertical steel ribs to keep the shape) and close with a busk: a series of 4 or 5 eye and post fasteners. It is then laced up the back.
- Corset - a larger version of a waist trainer. Can be over- or underbust. They are also steel boned and lace up.
The latter two are going to squeeze you and provide more of an hourglass shape. They can be uncomfortable as, being steel boned, they may rub against your own ribs or pinch. Whereas a cincher is all soft parts and generally very comfortable to wear, but at the cost of being less shape defining.
All of them can come with or without stocking suspenders, or just loops for adding them separately - 4 & 6-strap versions are the most common.
Waist training, as such, is the process of getting corsets tighter and tighter over time. I'm not sure how much you can achieve without removing ribs (which some do). If you stop wearing them long enough, your body will revert to it's natural shape.
I wear waist trainers. I have a smaller one and two larger ones (which may or may not make them corsets...it's a gray area lol). I have a cincher, but it simply cannot put my body in the shape I want.
Hi Evie have tried a few of each but as a bit of a larger girl a corset can only be worn for a few hours but does help a girl get a better shape.. Stephanie
Dear Evie, Chrissie, Harriette, Anna, Dani, Melodee, Stephanie
Melodee, OUTSTANDING JOB on the products available and their descriptions!
I bought the following item about 4 years ago on Amazon. Unfortunately, it is currently unavailable. I have been extremely happy with it when combined with my 'bubbles' silicone hip/butt wear and my Vollence silicone B or C cups. IMMHO, the key is to establish that critical 8-10 inch difference between your bust and your waist. While wearing forms, I think I hover around being a 41-42 bust, a 33-34 inch waist, and a 40-41 hip.
My only gripe is that it may 'bleed through' a white body suit and show 'wrinkles'
Dark clothes, not as much.
Burvogue Waist Trainer for Weight Loss-Women Trimmer Slimmer Belt Latex Corset Cincher Body Shaper (Black 18-steel bones, L(Waist 31.5"-33.5"))
If you can find something similar, you will be off to a good start. You shouldn't need to spend more than $40 dollar.
I wear some form of shapewear at all times when dressed. The first thing you need to realize is that shapewear is designed for genetic woman. One of the difficulties in 'blending in' is the natural differences between men and woman. Men usually have broader shoulders, longer arms and larger hands. Men are also usually taller and tend to have longer torsos. I have found most all-in-one shapewear, such as a bodybriefer or bodygirdle to be impractical. I use separate upper and lower shapewear whenever I am en femme to create more of a waist to hip ratio.
I have several boned corsets which I wear, especially when I wear an outfit that involves tucking in the top. I have never found waist cinchers to be very effective mostly because they are too short and create a lumpier silhouette. I originally tried under bust corsets, but found that they were too short to taper my waist. I did not like the way the over-the-bust corsets crushed my imaginary breasts, and they also tended to be too short to be effective. I experimented by using an Empire over-the-bust corset as an under-the-bust style, and it was perfect.
By sliding it down, the lacing allows me to pull my waist inward and the bottom is below my waist. There are many skirts I cannot zip up until I have my corset in place. I lace it to reduce my waist about two inches, so it is not uncomfortable to wear. I can definitely feel it, but I have found it to be somewhat enjoyable as it reminds me I am wearing it.
I have a couple of corsets and a waist-trainer or two but in the end, I'm male and have a male shape; any attempt I've made at narrowing my waist to a more feminine form has been largely futile. It FEELS like it's working but looking in the mirror is less than encouraging. Perhaps I'm too old to have shapewear do anything but feel tight, and in some cases, rather uncomfortable.
The best thing I found to change my shape was losing weight, getting rid of the arch-enemy of the male: the big belly. I lost 30lbs in two years and had I tried to cross-dress before I lost the weight, let us say it would not have been a pretty sight.
These days, I just try to stay relatively 'slim' (or rather, just not fat) and wear looser tops. My style of clothing also negates the need for hip pads too (although I do have some) as tight skirts and dresses are not a good look on me.
Becca
From my experience, the only thing that works for me is steel-boned corset. While it is the most uncomfortable, it makes my waistline more feminine. It also acts as a "protection" for my outer clothes. Before I discovered corset, sometimes when I moved too suddenly, I tore my dresses. Corsets help maintaining good posture too, but it's hard to bend over (obviously).
Google orchardcorset for all the info you need to know about corsets and corsets for men. There are videos about how to measure and order qualoty corsets. Most of the corsets out there are for fashion, not function and do not do well for men , especially for waist training. There is information aboy the difference between a quality corset and a fashiom one. There is also imfo on how to wear ome and how to lace it and nreak it im etc. Good corsets are not cheap, but you get what you pay for.
I wish I could wear a corset. I'm too fat hahahaha