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After several years living as Gina and years apart from my ex-wife, my ex and I have recently re-established a new relationship as special friends. When my ex-wife discovered Gina and during the divorce that quickly followed, my family also learned about my female persona. Since then, just about everyone in my family distanced themselves from me, with the exception of one sister, who discovered and embraced Gina and has been very supportive since I was young.
Last month, my sister advised me the family was planning a family reunion for the upcoming summer, and many people were asking about me. My sister informed them that I was living full time as a woman. In spite of this, several people said they hoped my sister would reach out to me and see if I would want to come to the reunion.
My ex-wife has been encouraging me to do so. I must admit this is a situation where I am having difficulty finding the courage to attend the reunion as Gina and present myself to a large group of family members, especially after I suffered ridicule and abandonment from most of them when they found out about me.
Any opinions on how to deal with this situation? I must admit my gut reaction is not to expose myself to certain conflict.
Wow Gina thats a TOUGH one! I will say my mother did not and has never taken Carolyne well and has no desire to see/meet or anything else with her. If your family is important enough to desire rekindling that relationship then as with all family there will be drama. If your family is not important enough to experience certain drama, be it you or crazy uncle Bob drunk with a lampshade, then do not expose yourself to what will definitely happen. I have found for me any family function is in man drag and the family that knows just doesn’t talk about it. This of course is an option but if Gina is who you want the family to know and accept, there must be a first step. I will keep you in my thoughts and wish you the best. I hope whatever your decision that it causes you no grief or heartache. Keep us posted and I hope to hear GREAT positive news 🙏🏻.
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Gina,Thats a tough one.If you decide to go to your reunion,please be yourselfand be the woman you are.If your family accepts you,fine.If not ,have a great time with your sister.
Hi Gina. What a question to have to deal with. Ultimatley, you have to decide. A wise sage once said.....To lose ones past is to lose ones future. Think about what your family meant to you in the past and do you wish to remain close in the future. Family are the most judgemental group of people you could find. Is it honesty they expouse or is it just meaness? Your sister will support you and the older the family gets, the more willing they are to be more accepting. However, you must be true to yourself above all else. Think of each one of them and ask yourself, if they died would you miss them and regret not being closer? Good luck with your decision......I wish you all the best.
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Lady Veronica
I wish I could offer some advice but do not feel qualified. I think Lady Veronica nailed it better than I can. I think making sure they know what to expect is key. You can always leave.
Gina I hope all is well? As I am sure like the others who posted, we are worried and curious if your family accepted you and things went well? I hope it was a very good and happy experience and your family embraced you with open arms. You have been in my thoughts since your initial post. Take care.
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I think it would be good for you and them. ❤
Hello all and thank you for the kind advice. Well, as I contemplated attending the event word got out that I may be coming. Through the grapevine I began to receive information the animosity and disapproval had not gone away and that most attendees would not be accepting if I came as Gina. There were several that clearly hoped I would not attend, even in drab. I decided that I would not be the catalyst for drama and cause any disruption of the events. I chose not to go. Afterwards I learned an "intervention" had been planned. I think I chose wisely.
Although so many of these people are very important to me, it is clear most do not share a reciprocal opinion. I have re-established contact with a small group who were interested in seeing me and we have since met. Their reactions were mixed but all expressed love and compassion. As a group they were astonished at my transformation. I guess the venture was not without benefit. Life continues to go on. Thanks again for the concern.
Gina thank you for the update. I know we all worried for you and are happy you are OK. I am sorry things didn’t go great but glad you were able to interact with those that care about you. I wish you the best going forward.
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