Role of wife of CD

Good morning from snowy Ontario, Elizabeth!

I'm assuming you're speaking figuratively??

I've been the lady-of-the-house for over 20 years!

When my SO climbed the corporate ladder, I put my career on hold while I became the primary caregiver for our children. So, I had NO problem wearing the apron and other fine and feminine accoutrements!

I was the only dude looking after the kids in our neighbourhood back in the 90s. I hung out with the other moms as our kids had play-dates. Once, at my place while I was chatting with my girlfriends and our kids were playing road hockey, a salesman came to my door and asked to see "the lady of the house". I was looking rather scruffy and said, "You're looking at him. Whaddya want?" The moms busted out laughing!

I do hope that nowadays that if a dude stays home with the kids that he's not abandoned by his male friends. I didn't get much respect with the dads back then. F*ck em!

Hugs, Barb 👵🏽

Barb,
My wife has also climbed the career ladder, and I, like you gave up work to be the stay at home dad. Our son is 21 now and away at university. My wife has climbed the ladder well. She always has been the may wage earner. I've just been made redundant for the 2nd time in my life and at 54, don't expect to working full time again (not my choice, just expectation). In most aspects, my wife has become what was known as "the man of the house". This isn't a crossdressing thing, it's just life.
I don't want to be "the wife" and I don't want my wife to be "the husband". I'm still very much a male when dressed, and I don't wish to be dressed all of the time. I'm happy being a man, and my wife is happy that it stays that way.

Cerys.

I hear ya, Cerys!

Oh, I'm still a dude! I do lots of dudie things, like cheer for Liverpool over a pint with the lads. (I have a friend in Yorkshire who's a Liverpool NUT! And he gets very defensive about HIS team! Of course, I prod him some, just like a dude!). Good fun!

However... having an expansive spectrum (ahem...) I can become girly quite easily. So, I guess you can say I'm a "femmy-dude". And I have many girls here to thank for helping me come to this realization. I'm very gender-fluid. And my SO appreciates that in me, at least within my state-of-mind. I look at the world more reflectively without the aggressive constraints of testosterone now that I'm nearly 60. Testosterone is okay if you're a footballer, but not if you want to hold and advance in your career nowadays. And this is coming from my corporate SO!

Fortunately, I rebounded for a couple of years after our kids left home, much to my SO's delight, but she wasn't concerned. She says I did an admirable job with our kids. Our daughter is an RN and is climbing her ladder rather fast and our son is working on his PhD in computer science.

I hope your son is doing well at university! Nice chatting with you!

I think I'll go and open a fresh pair of Oroblus...

Hugs, Barb 🤗

Barb, Thanks!
My son is studying for a masters in physics in Imperial. So I think we did an OK job bringing him up 🙂
I've never had ambition. I'm quite highly skilled (Electrical engineer), but I've had a tough physical working life working in industry, and depression hit me like a cricket bat across the head a number of years back, so I've decided I do not need the stress of a high paying, stress inducing job. My body isn't keen either 🙂 I keep myself busy driving for a food bank. If I find a nice little part time job, I'll go for it, but I'm not chasing the money ever again.

Cerys.

There are those who would argue that most women wear the trousers these days...

Maybe - yeah, why not - it'd be fun!

Mind you, I already do most of the laundry, child care and collection,, cooking, etc...

Or maybe it's unfair of me to stereotype women's roles - like it is to stereotype anyone into a role because of sex, nationality, religion, etc... just a thought!

Yes very much! I would like to be the housewife and have my future wife be the husband of the house

Hi Liz,

When I met and moved in with my wife to be, she was a full time teacher, and I wasn't gainfully employed, so it made sense for me to pick up a lot of the chores and child minding to make her life easier. There would be a meal on the table at the end of the day, the washing got done and simple things like that. The kids were a little bit older, so I didn't get into the 'young mums' circles.

She was definitely the 'boss' when it came to life at home together with the family in one sense. But I definitely wasn't the 'wife' - she always joked that when we got together, she acquired another child 😉

Marti xxx

Btw, Canada beat Mexico in men's World Cup qualifying yesterday by 2-1 in freezing Edmonton, Alberta! What a game! Alphonso Davies is a phenom!

:B

Is that Canada qualified for the World Cup? Northern Ireland drew with Italy 0-0  in Belfast. We should have beaten them. We didn’t qualify because we finished 3rd in our group. We where in a group with Italy, Switzerland, Bulgaria and Lithuania. Switzerland topped the group, Italy finished 2nd and have to compete against another 2nd placed team in another group to qualify.

Liz

Canada is currently on top of their CONCACAF group with the U.S. in second spot one point behind and Mexico is in 3rd. Top three teams advance to the World Cup and the 4th plays in an intercontinental playoff.

If we qualify, it'll be the first time since 1986!

Sorry about Northern Ireland...

⚽ Barb

Your group would include North and Central America teams, Canada , USA, Mexico, Venezuela, Guatemala and Bolivia?
We in Northern Ireland always seem to get drawn with the top teams in Europe. Not that I’m anti English, but England always seem to get drawn against lesser teams. They played San Marino and beat them 10-0.
Liz

Hmmm, I have to ask what "man of the house" actually means?  Just because you are practical / possibly earn more doesn't make you any more "man about the house"!

I was thinking of a scenario where the man of the house couldn’t do what is deemed male work like painting wallpaper, handiwork about the house or if he couldn’t make his partner pregnant.

Liz

Liz

It would be wonderful to be treated as a woman by my wife.

Hugs, Liara