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Lady
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(@maive)
Estimable Member     Western NY, New York, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I had made a friend through CDH starting last October 2023. Her name was Lucinda Hawkins and she lived local to me. We emailed through CDH and exchanged personal emails and phone numbers. We were planning on getting together for coffee and hear each other’s stories and possibly go out for a girl’s night out. As the next months passed, we just couldn’t find time due to Holidays and family happenings. In December Lucinda wasn’t feeling well and I was getting ready to head south for a couple months. We decided to get together in the Spring when I got back. I emailed a couple of times during the winter and again when I got back home. I received no response. Sadly, I found out that Lucinda passed away in early January. Apparently, cancer. I regret never having that coffee together. I am sure we could have found time. So, Ladies be who you are inside and don’t put it off. Enjoy every aspect of your life. We all deserve the happiness in living every day as we wish without any regrets!

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(@Anonymous 95235)
Joined: 12 months ago

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Posts: 245

@maive So very sorry to hear this Maive, and as others have noted its sad that her friends on here would be non the wiser. Its so heartening to know you took your friendship beyond "the virtual "  Crossdresser Heaven is no ordinary forum, we owe it to others who went before us , and those of my age who had no forums before the net to say who we are and to stand up and be proud of who we are . I am new to this wonderful forum, In 6 weeks I have become Samantha  beyond my wildest dreams thanks to the ladies on this site amd some in particular who I would not embarrass by saying their names.  I will raise a glass of something special to Lucinda as she sounds like someone special xxx

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Managing Ambassador
(@lizk)
Joined: 5 years ago

Illustrious Member     North County San Diego, California, United States of America
Posts: 3857

@maive 

I am so sorry to hear this sad news Maive.  I remember Lucinda well.  She was a frequent contributor to the Forums for many years.  She joined CDH in September 2015.  540 of us called her a friend!  I will be raising a glass in Lucinda's honor this evening.

/EA

 

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2192

@maive 

You have my heartfelt condolences, Maive, we often don't know how much someone has touched our life until we lose them.

I lost my closest friend earlier this year, we had been friends for nearly 50 years and it still hurts. One of the last things he said to me was not to leave things until it's too late and that spurred me on to fully embrace my feminine side and also to find and join this amazing community.

Know that I feel your sense of loss and, with everyone else here, raise a glass to Community.

Allie x

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(@cdashley)
Joined: 5 years ago

Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1488

@maive So sorry to hear this terrible news.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 2 years ago

Sad indeed!

This has happened during my long on-line life a few times and what to do about it was discussed here maybe a year or so ago.

We need to leave our survivors enough complete information so that they can notify our cyber friends.

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Lady
(@maive)
Joined: 3 years ago

Estimable Member     Western NY, New York, United States of America
Posts: 117

@harriette I think a lot of us have no survivors that know about our dressing. Many never came out to anyone. That is where CDH is so important for so many reasons.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@maive Yes, but if something sudden happens, we just go quiet. Survivors need our logins to deal with various accounts, crossdressing or not.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

There may be other threads about what we can do to help our survivors, but this is the one that I started.

If you still want your crossdressing to remain unknown after you go, then I guess that you will have to take some chances.

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Managing Ambassador
(@melodeescarlet)
Famed Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

So sorry to hear that, Maive. 😔 

We're none of us promised tomorrow, so get out there and smell those roses! 🌹 (or tulips, as the case may be)

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

So sad Maive. Always try to meet those you have made a commitment to and yes, live life to the full.

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Duchess Annual
(@firefly)
Noble Member     Panama, Panama, Panama
Joined: 7 years ago

It's sad news. I remember Lucinda Hawkns because she was very active when I joined. She was younger than me.

My condolences, Maive. With good friends a piece of us always dies, but we keep them alive in our hearts.

Gisela

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Guest
(@Anonymous 95235)
Estimable Member
Joined: 12 months ago

Likewise, it is mystery?  Hopefully not sad, when a girl disappears off CDH without explanation.

My wife was very ill last summer, and I was absent from CDH for a few months.  When I returned, a girl named Daniel Wayne, over in Alabama, had vanished from CDH.  If anyone knows why she left CDH, I would appreciate knowing?

She was an exceptionally pretty blond girl, moved down to Alabama from up north to be closer to her grandkids here in Atlanta.  We were always going to get together, we never did. 

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Duchess Annual
(@patches)
Estimable Member     Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

So sorry Maive.  Thank you for sharing this news.

". . . Each person's death diminishes me, 

for I am involved in mankind.

Send not to know for whom the bell tolls,

It toll for thee."

 

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(@Anonymous 95235)
Estimable Member
Joined: 12 months ago

So sorry to hear hope all is well 🙏 

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Guest
(@Anonymous 95235)
Estimable Member
Joined: 12 months ago

I didn’t know Lucinda but I’m so happy she touched so many lives! And now she is still inspiring us to be better people! 
Way to go Lucinda!

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

 Maive -

Sorry to hear of Lucinda's passing. It is sad that so many of us can't be truly open even to those close to us. Maybe one day that will change.

XOXO
Suzanne

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Guest
(@Anonymous 95235)
Estimable Member
Joined: 12 months ago

So sorry to hear this. Is there a way perhaps one of the administrators of CDH could post a photo or photos of Lucinda here in her beautiful memory? ❤️

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