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Hopefully its ok to post (with some edits) a topic I tried over on TGH since I'm looking for suggestions...
I wanted to express my contentment and happiness for how far I've come in the last month towards accepting that I am a woman, after making a decision this past autumn to stop resisting "it."
This morning I woke up in a beautiful yellow floral nightgown. Got up, made coffee, and enjoyed my quiet time soaking up the female vibes I'm now allowing myself to absorb. A little later I stepped into the shower, shaved some stubby legs, then a pat dry. After dressing in my pre-selected bra, panties, and pantyhose, I was thrilled this morning to finally have a skirt to wear. And it fits perfectly. As do new white flats. I picked out an existing mens shirt in a matching color, and then I was ready for housework. (Which is now finished).
I have questions. I don't think I am most accurately only a crossdresser. Maybe, ok, I love panties and stockings. But it's also like... relief. Relief to live, as I can, alone, as a woman. To have, I think (or I guess) the emotions and the desires of a woman. I love that I can wear a flattering bra all day, every day. It's like a need. It seems from what I've read, that CD's are most commonly wanting to wear for a little while, or 1-2 times a week, etc., and then they are fine. They go back to their hunting, or tire repair, or other masculine pursuits. I'm not like that.
If I didn't have kids and who are now living lives of their own, it would be different. My woman-ness, my situation in life - it has germinated and blossomed after they already had come along and, I think for me, to ask for or expect their acceptance, maybe there is only so far I can go towards my dream.
But back to my shirt for today. I have to at least pretend I'm a man when I'm out. I'm constrained by my location in a small-town, the kids, etc. But I want to find women's shirts. It can be just a long-sleeve Oxford button-down. I don't want to wear a man's. So the challenge is in the sleeve length, and so far I've only found one brand, Land's End ($54) that comes in like, a 16T (Tall) for example. I think I need to not just accept the guidelines for how female vs male sleeve length is determined. I can't believe than with me, the sleeve length is 34, and all the women's shirts are 22, 23, 24 inches.
Well, thank you to all for letting me share.
I believe that once you have passed the 'autumn' moment it begins the next process of conundrums as to how to achieve the dream.It is multi faceted and quite confusing at times. You have quite a lot rattling around your head and I found that the way to do it was to put everything into 'boxes' and rate them in importance. You are in a the first phase of working out suitable clothing, that is box one. Then perhaps the next is working on your style and then it is for you to work through your thoughts and ambitions and place them in 'boxes' and mark according to a workable sequence of importance to complete the aims, you could add some kind of timeline of course. You can add and change the sequence but at least you have noted each thought so it isn't forgotten.
Hi Gina,
Have you tried Lane Bryant. They carry tall’s and have tops/shirts in plus sizes. You could call the customer service number to inquire about the sleeve length if a local store isn’t nearby.
Alice
Thanks for the tip. I will check them out, too.