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Seeking advice on going out

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(@jeried)
Estimable Member     SE Missouri, Missouri, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

Im very excited about going out on the town: shopping, dinner and a movie, with my wife. My concern is, which restroom to use. I mean I may look like a woman but…..well you get the idea.  Since I’m new CD I need some advice on this issue. 

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(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4015

@jeried Good question, Jeri.

You are in Missouri, according to your profile. Bill 202 specifies that multi-person bathroom must be gender specific. Single person bathrooms are unisex.

I don't know what that means for crossdressers, but it doesn't sound encouraging. Check into it further.

Go to places that allow you to stay safe.

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(@jeried)
Joined: 1 year ago

Estimable Member     SE Missouri, Missouri, United States of America
Posts: 54

@harriette thank you for the good advice. I tried looking up the Law in Missouri but couldn’t find it. Thank you for finding it for me.  ❤️

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Duchess
(@loneleycd)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
Posts: 2157

@jeried Jeri, use the ladies restroom, unless you aren't even close to passing.  I live in Iowa and alwys use the ladies restrooms when out in fem.  If there is a family restroom use that.  I avoid a restroom that is packed.  I just go n take care of business wash my hands and get out.

 

.   Cassie

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(@tubbydullard)
Joined: 2 years ago

Honorable Member     Citrus hills, Florida, United States of America
Posts: 333

@loneleycd  i use the.ladies room all the time now, and I'm in femme every day.almost.

Passing is easy, no one notices and like you , I don't linger, just in and out with confidence

 Thats half the battle for us girls, confidence.

.

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Lady
(@jillleanne)
Joined: 2 years ago

Prominent Member     Renfrew, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 600

@jeried avoid coffee or tea as they arediarhetics. Use the ladies room if n3cessary and have your wife go with you provided there are more than one stall. Do your business and leave. Don’t spend time in the mirror. Otherwise, shouldn’t be an issue. Remember to sit, not stand. I use woman’s washrooms regularly with no issues.

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(@tubbydullard)
Joined: 2 years ago

Honorable Member     Citrus hills, Florida, United States of America
Posts: 333

@jillleanne 

Me too, good advice

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Lady
(@jillannquinn)
Noble Member     Reno, Nevada, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

Jeri, One thing you should consider are your state laws before you go out and break a law out of simple ignorance. Do a little research or ask an attorney. Either option should allow you to have at least a basic understanding of your state laws. Having never used a ladies room during my own wonderful excursions, I can’t give you advice on what particular actions you should or should not do. Other girls with that experience and knowledge will happily chime in with their advice. Always be safety conscious first and you should have nothing but an unforgettable time!

Hugs, Jill

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(@melodeescarlet)
Famed Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Posted by: @jillannquinn

One thing you should consider are your state laws before you go out and break a law out of simple ignorance.

This this this ↑

Many individual places may have or appear to have more lax rules, and that may be sufficient - to note, I go out in northern VA often, and I will use the Ladies, but I'm aware that VA has laws directing bathroom use, so I'm taking some level of risk (very small IMO, but still).

So find that out first. Then find out if the place you're going has it's own preferences.

But also have fun! 🙂

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 Leah
Baroness
(@leah63)
Noble Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

I would suggest if possible use a unisex or family restroom.  that way you don't ruffle feathers.

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Lady
Topic starter
(@jeried)
Estimable Member     SE Missouri, Missouri, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

Thanks for all the good advice!!!

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Lady
(@emily2day)
Estimable Member     DFW, Texas, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I'm in Texas, I use the single restroom if available, if not I use the restroom that I am presenting as. I walk in confident, take care of business and walk out. don't lingerer about and you probably wont be noticed.

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(@tubbydullard)
Joined: 2 years ago

Honorable Member     Citrus hills, Florida, United States of America
Posts: 333

@emily2day  yes  I use the ladies rooms all the time now it is natural. 

Our animal nature's are not so different whether if we are in.skirts and panties or boxer shorts and jeans. Still, I prefer presenting as a lady. Purple Kiss  

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(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

Life is a bit easier here in the UK, but if I'm in Cerys mode, I'll decide on which toilet I use when I'm in the premises. Here in the UK most coffee shops have single use/unisex toilets, so I prefer those, but if I'm in a pub/bar. I'll see what the clientele are like. If I feel that I might get abuse etc using the gents, I'll use the ladies. I use what I think will be safer.... I've never had any issues, I've never had abuse, but I use what I what I feel safer. 
Just one word of advice, if you use the ladies toilet..... Remember to put the seat down!!!!!! 🙂

Cerys  

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Lady
(@nancygamms)
Reputable Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 8 years ago

There is an app called "refuge restrooms" to find restrooms that are appropriate.

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Duchess
(@2bmadeline)
Joined: 2 years ago

Reputable Member     Walla Walla, Washington, United States of America
Posts: 305

@nancygamms Won't run on my phone, but it does on my PC. This is very helpful. Thank you for posting this.

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Lady
(@jeried)
Joined: 1 year ago

Estimable Member     SE Missouri, Missouri, United States of America
Posts: 54

@nancygamms yes I have it now. Thank you for suggesting it. ❤️

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(@carlafirst11)
Honorable Member     So. California , California, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Living in California I don’t really worry about laws too much, but, if your look is female I strongly advise you to use the ladies restroom, just act and do what a woman would do while using the toilet. Definitely no hanging around and definitely no photos, I have never had any issues with the ladies there while I use it, hope this helps 

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