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It has been more than a year and half since I revealed my desires for cross dressing to my wife. I emphasized that I was not gay or bi, nor did I wish to transition. Just a guy who likes women’s clothes and really wanted to experience being completely dressed up, make up and all. She was immediately accepting and supportive which I contribute to her brother being gay and the fact that she is just a wonderful soul. I explained to her how over the years I have bought panties and pantyhose to try on. Of course, not knowing how to navigate women’s clothing sizes, I usually got it wrong.
About a day or two later, she said that I should try on her dresses and tops that she believed we would be close to the same size. This would give me a guide as to where I should be in the way of sizing. Some of her clothes fit but others not so much. I had not bought a pair of forms yet so I wasn’t really sure how well they would actually fit with boobs. She suggested a cup size and I ordered a pair. Once they arrived, I put the forms on and then the clothes that we thought were a good fit and voila!
Since then, I have bought several femme clothing items that are more to my style and liking. Occasionally though when trying to decide on an outfit for Karla, I will look through her clothes and find something there to wear. Sometimes it may be a dress or just something I can match with a skort or pants.
Not too long ago, my wife was out of town visiting her brother. I ordered two nightgowns that I thought would be just great. I loved the colors and the length. When they arrived, they were just what I expected. Once she returned from her visit, she fell in love with them. So, she ordered four more in different colors. They are perfect for summertime sleeping in the South and we have been rotating them between us.
I know that not all SO’s are accepting and supportive. In a perfect world they would be. For those of you who do have an SO that is supportive, here is my question. Do you share clothing? This could be dresses, tops, shorts, pants, bras, nightgowns etc. Also, do you shop together so as to buy something the both of you can wear?
I would love to hear from you.
Hugs,
Karla
You are one lucky girl!
Yes, and I don't know how I deserve it.
Thanks!
That is so great to read, Karla. My SO and I are nowhere near the same size but I do buy us matching items and remember to treat her to the things she likes. She’s into jungle animal prints which look great on her but I could never wear.
My wife and I are very close in size. I think I tried on every dress she ever owned before I got found out. After some time she did accept that I crossdress. Only once did she borrow something of mine. It was a dark blue sheer blouse with a flower print. She used to wear very stylish clothing but as she has gotten older she is dressing kind of frumpy. I think I have way better taste than her right now. I did borrow a jacket from her that I took a picture of in public photos. Other than that we don’t trade back and forth.
Congratulations Karla on having an accepting SO.
Alice
My wife and I are similiar in sizing, however I'm getting a little tubbier while she is going the opposite way.
We have never shared clothing.
1) I still have panties that are still brand new, never worn. I suggested she take some of my new ones so she doesn't have to buy any. Difference is, hers are seamless and no visible edge, mine does have an edge which means mine produces very visible vpl.
2) Wendy's wardrobe consists alot of sleeveless blouses/tops, and skirts, most above the knee. My wife works in an office type setting, and sleeveless is a no no as visible armpits are deemed unhygenic. My wife isn't keen on wearing skirts in the office, one being it is short and 2 no one else in the office wears skirts.
3) simply put, my taste in clothing is vastly different from hers. I love skirts, especially ones that hit just above the knee. For her, she likes capris.
So yeah, we haven't shared and chances are we won't.
My wife and I shop together sometimes, but we're nowhere near the same size and our tastes are completely different. So while we don't share clothes, I do trust her opinion and she understands my fashion sense well enough that my fave summer dress was a gift from her. I live it that one! How I got so lucky in love, I'll never know...
My wife and I shop together all the time. We don't think twice about it. I'm free to be Cerys as much as I like. We often go out together shopping or just out and about with me as Cerys.
My wife often borrows my clothes. Whether it's a casual day out, or a posh ball or dinner.
I rarely borrow her stuff. That's my choice. It makes me feel great when my wife borrows something off me. It's my way of paying her back for all the crp she's had to put up with thanks to my ways.
It sounds like you have a very supportive wife. They are quite rare. Look after her. Treat her well. Don't take her for granted. If she decides on rules, stick to them. Don't push. Be sure she knows how special she is.... And she is special! Buy her something without buying something for you. Good luck with your future. Enjoy being free to explore. Enjoy being Karla!
Cerys
Karla -
That is wonderful for you that you are able to do that with your wife.
In the past year my wife has become more accepting of my dressing. We have gone shopping together a few times. One time was a trip to get her things. I picked out clothes for her (she calls me her fashionista) and when we were done getting her things she asked if Suzanne saw anything she liked. I showed her a blouse and she bought it for me. Another time recently we were out and talking about shoes. She pulled into a shoe store, once in the store I picked out a couple pair and she had me try them on to be sure they fit. That was a big surprise for me. It has been fun since she has become more accepting. There have been a few times that I have been dressed when we are home together.
Early on, and to this day, she has given me some of her things that no longer fit or she doesn't wear anymore. We have an agreement that we can borrow each others clothes so long as we ask first. We are about the same size so it works out okay.
It is so much better dressing having her support and participation.
XOXO
Suzanne
What a lovely story Karla I can only dream that my wife will react like yours when I reveal my desires wear women’s clothing.
Karla great post. My wife and I share jewelry and I have borrowed a skirt or two. We are not at all the same size in most clothing. A few shopping trips together. Really appreciate having a supportive wife I hope someday she will be as excited as your wife seems to be.
My wife and I are too different in size to share clothes but, we share other things like makeup, skin care products, and wigs.
We do shop online together a bit though. The first time we bought ourselves matching robes to wear on our “spa nights” which was a lot of fun.
Here's hoping for the best.
My wife and I swap clothes from time to time. She has gone up and down in sizes over the years. When she has lost weight my wardrobe grew. But she has also "borrowed " also known and stole tops of mine. I can't complain because she let's me buy more. We shop together alot. We pick out things for each other and talk clothes all the time. I get makeup she doesn't want anymore. So it works out great. We have even traded bras.
