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Hi Everyone ,
I’ve been thinking about something and would to know what other people think. My wife of eight years found out about my dressing approx six months ago which to my surprise was very excepting that I like to wear woman’s clothes. Since then I’ve been wearing panties more often at home on my days off but now I’ve been shaving my legs and trying to keep them silky smooth by using her epilator . My wife asked me if I was wanting to transition. I stated no and that I loved being a man but loved the feel of shaved legs and love wearing panties and women’s clothes. ( I consider myself as being Heterosexual with no desire to be with the same sex or becoming a woman.) She then said that the reason she ask was that I was going through a lot of pain with the epilator the first time and that I’m keeping them shaved and the hair may not grow back. She said, “are you ok with that ? ”. I said yes are you ? She said she didn’t mind but didn’t understand why I would want to keep them shaved all the time if I only fully dress once in a while. So this got me thinking/wondering , is the fact that I want to wear panties more on my days off and wanting to keep my legs shaved all the time a sign that I might be transitioning without fully realizing it or is it just the simple fact that I like to dress and keep my legs shaved because I like the feel. I want to think I’m not transitioning or ever wanting to transition but I never had this much open freedom before either. Let me know what you think.
Lynn
I've kept my legs shaved for a few months now. It's an amazing feeling.
Somehow my wife hasn't noticed, but I've also been covering with pjs and sweats all winter. As far as intimacy she only noticed the stubble on my chest which was a buzz killer (and rash creator) for her.
I have no concerns about the "rabbit hole" as I see me giving my daughters away in a tuxedo not a gown.
I noticed that it will take 3 weeks to grow back. I wear shorts all the time in the summer so I'm trying to figure out when to stop shaving.
Shave away and enjoy 😊
Hannah
Hi Lynn, my personal newfound rule of thumb with all of this is simple.... "if it feels good and it feels right, stop analyzing and just do it"! I've beaten myself up for way too long searching for answers about why i am the way i am and why i feel the way i feel, and finally realized those answers probably don't even exist. i decided that for me, there are much better things to burn that energy on, like do i buy the damn shoes now or wait for the sale? Secondly and to address your question more specifically, i don't think any one inclination necessarily means you will or won't be destined for transition should you choose to accept it. Which brings me to my second newfound rule of thumb, "always keep an open mind". I've wasted decades in denial and so wish i could go back and relive those years with a completely open mind. i know i'd be in a totally different place today if i could. 2 years ago the thought of me pulling a Caitlyn Jenner was laughable, now, even though i still don't think i will, i'm finding i can no longer completely rule it out...
2 years ago i started with an epilator and razors, and quickly discovered it wasn't good enough and didn't last long enough. i quickly moved to a Tria home laser, and that wasn't fast enough! lol So i've been getting professional laser hair removal done for the past 8 months and wow! Silky smooth skin with disappearing pores feels amazing!! i do expect some long glances and possible questions this summer when i don flip flops and shorts with my now hair free feet and legs... but i see it as a minor and temporary discomfort compared to how good it ultimately makes me feel 24/7. i shake my head and constantly smile at my personal irony, I spent my whole life trying to be as masculine as possible to hide my androgyny from the world, now in just 2 short years it seems i can't undo all that fast enough. I'm finally realizing and embracing my reality that what other people think of me, is so much less important to me than what i think and how i feel :))
Hope this helps in some way...
hugs,
Kristy
BTW, all this concern about "what will people say when they see me (as my male self) with smooth, shaved legs?" Have you not noticed how many men are now shaving their legs (and the rest of their body hair)? Not to worry, it's not a big deal anymore. Good luck.
Thanks Zoe
I felt the same way about hospital appointments, but supposedly it is not unusual for men to wear panties when they're in hospital. I had a hospital appointment yesterday and asked if I could wear a skirt. The staff I saw didn't treat me any differently when I wore a skirt instead of trousers. I've got another hospital appointment at another hospital next week and I'll ask if I can wear a skirt then. In the last few weeks, I've realised that people tend to be more accepting than I thought they'd be.
I hope this helps.
Take care
Ilona
Lynn
I guess the consensus of opinion is "we all love the feeling of shaven legs".. I love the feeling with nylons. For those of us who have concerns about the summer wearing shorts: I thought I had a crisis when we vacationed in Aruba last month.. Stop shaving for two weeks before. No problem.. I don't think any one noticed ..I keep my thighs shaven ... Covered by my shorts ....however it took me two weeks before to polish remove my red toenails but that is another story... Walking in the warm salt water and sand finally did the trick 😊
Be well. Leonara
hi Lynn
i read with interest your question.
i was suprised to hear from my partner that many hetro men shave all their body hair and lots of women seem to like it so go for it girl !
i think you must be one of the lucky ones like me in having a partner/wife who understands how we feel and supports us. maybe one day we will all be treated normal....but then again.whats normal ?
hugs.
sonya
Hi Sonya: Yes, many hetero men shave, not just legs. Feeling smooth is, apparently, not just a trans thing anymore.
Hi Sonya, Thank you for your reply . Yes I really think I'm very fortunate that my wife if excepting of my dressing. It's to bad that people are narrow minded about cross dressing to the point that they feel the need to attach unnecessary labels to it. Hopefully one day society will except the things we do as normal and not a sickness.
hi Lynne, i shave my whole body once a week. Thats arms finger toes and everything in between. As you can imagine i hate hair on my body. I do have hair on my head tho. I know when i finish shaving my skin feels wonderful as i do too. Bronwyn
Hi Bronwyn, thank you for your response. I love the feel of shaved legs, the feeling is awesome
Hello Lynn. I'm a bit surprised about your comment " I want to wear panties more on my days off." I've become more adventurous in the last month, but I've been wearing panties for years. Now that I've told various medical staff that I'm trans, I also wear feminine clothes for medical appointments. I have had a lot of support from other people. If you want to wear panties at work, Lynn, go ahead. Hopefully, it will make you feel better.
I remember the first time I shaved my legs and chest it only lasted for a little while. Then I bought some Naire and headed for the shower. As I spread the lotion over my body, I felt myself drip from excitement. After the time for it to work, I turned the shower on and began to rinse the cream ..OMG, it felt so good I nearly came. When I finally finished, I felt so tingly I couldn't believe it. After drying off, I spread body lotion over myself and decided that was how I would keep my body nice and smooth
I have talked with my wife very openly about my love of wearing "women's panties" why women's panties. I like the feel. The style,and yes the excitement I get from selecting and buying my next favourite pair. I shave my legs regularly to keep them silky-smooth and soft to the touch. What a great feeling it is when I slip into my female mode and yes admire myself in the mirror. Not the best looking in the UK but at 63 years one of the most contented. Even though my wife is accepting of the fact that I love to wear lingerie when I have my private time she does not realise that I need to meet and talk with other like minded people. Thank you all on this site.
I keep my legs hairless all the time and could care less if anyone looks. I love the feel of my smooth legs and will not go back to being an hairy ape.
I do wear panties everyday and have for years. I do own 2 pair of typical male ugly underwear but rarely do they see the light of day. My typical day is thigh stockings, panties, bra and camisole.
