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Just a short post reflecting on a really nice few hours out shopping this weekend.
Even though I wasn't dressed as Isabel (due to fitting it in-between work commitments), I was fully Isabel inside and I didn't feel out of place at all - I mean its not the first time I've been shopping for Isabel when not dressed as her - but the inner peace I felt this time when carefully selecting some new lingerie was definitely a first! Carefully checking sizes and styles and trying to land in a place of maximum girliness with a level of practicality. I think its fair to say though, the girliness won out though, hands down! Especially with a new bra I came across 🙂 🙂
The best part of the afternoon was when I went into Boots and up to the cosmetics floor. I have been using odd bits of make-up here and there, experimenting as you do. Well I had decided it was time Isabel upped her game on this front!
So I walked up to the girl running that part of the store and patiently explained what I was looking for and why. She kindly sat me down, did skin colour checks and talked me through all sorts of options, made recommendations and tried products on me. Never for a moment did she hesitate or do a double-take at what she was doing. She complemented me on my skin - I am a long-time user of moisturiser but I assume she was just being kind. And when we had done, circa half an hour later, she said whoever my partner or boyfriend was, they would most definitely like this look! I just smiled (a lot). And I still am.
I guess my point is, don't let the lack of an 'Outer Girl' look prevent you from doing things. If the 'Inner Girl' is happy, that is a great thing and it should be treasured and celebrated.
As to what and when I might be wearing these new purchases, that may or may not be a story for another day!
Isabel x
@isabelcross I began buying my own pantyhose at 13, in boy mode of course. Then from 13 to 17, I bought a lot of pantyhose and some bras also in boy mode.
At 17, I decided I was finally going to go out femme. I bought some short girl's shorts, and a pair of platform wedge heels.
The only thing I was missing was a wig. I saw one I wanted in a wig shop, but I was too nervous to go in and buy it. After lots of attempts and chickening out, I somehow got the courage to go in and ask about the wig. The woman there was very helpful and friendly. I ended up buying the wig in the window and one with the same styling but a lighter color.
Then I began going out femme. As my courage built up, I started walking closer to people, then going into stores, walking around and browsing the girl's clothes. It was a huge deal buying my first pantyhose while femme. Wearing pantyhose while buying pantyhose seemed so exciting to me. But like when buying the wigs, I chickened out so many times.
Finally when I did it, and got on line surrounded by people, I was so nervous, I was sweating and trembling, but I managed to complete the purchase. It was a incredible thrill when leaving the store.
@isabelcross
This is lovely Isabel. So glad you had such a good day.
Getting makeup advice is still on my to do list.
I love the “I was fully Isabel inside” comment. I can really relate to that
Lucy xx
@lucyb112 Thanks Lucy, I would recommend it when you have the opportunity to do so x
@joanarbour Maximum girliness - I love this expression. Sums up my thinking entirely xx.
@isabelcross I'm so glad the woman treated you nicely! It reminds of the first time I bought yoga pants in public!
@halloweenconvert7 I’ve yet to ask for advice when clothes shopping. Guess that’s something to work towards!
@isabelcross It's always good to set a goal (it's been proven by psychological studies)! However, I still feel your humble! Much love, Katherine.
@isabelcross I hear you loud and clear. I love shopping for my femme things in male mode now a days as I’ve come to terms with who I am don’t use lines like “ I’m shopping for my gf or sister. I now let all sales associates I’m shopping for myself be it shoes , clothes, makeup and perfume. Never once have I had a bad reaction from any of them. I now go out in male mode but I’ll put on some light makeup and perfume , womens jeans and a top. Just no wig or breastforms.
@isabelcross What a great story and a huge boost for you.
Having someone else look at complexion and give makeup ideas is so valuable and I'm sure you'll have fun testing out the new makeup when you get the chance. Now you've made a connection there, it will be really helpful for you going forward.
I went to the Beauty Store yesterday, the lady that runs my local outfit knows me en-drab and also knows about Anna so I can shop there in comfort.
Also yesterday, I had a couple of prints done from my bridal photoshoot, so yes, ineer femme is there, even with outer homme presented.
Hugs,
Anna x
@isabelcross That sounds like a lovely way to spend a few spare hours! I've yet to have the pleasure of choosing lingerie styles like that - although I have had a bra fitting at M&S back at Easter time, and came away with several examples of the models that fitted me best.
I'm with you about the cosmetics assistants at Boots though, they're brilliant aren't they 🙂 Immediately before my bra fitting, I had a very similar experience to yours. The main difference was that I was en femme - so absolute kudos to you for being able to do such girly shopping en homme. The best I've managed was choosing my nail colour for a mani at the salon, where I had to present mostly homme due to needing to be unshaven for laser on my beard. I did wear Fiona's jeans and a top though.
@finallyfiona Being able to go as Isabel - both outside and inside - would have been heavenly.
It’s a win-win on many levels, the shopping experience, the trying on sessions, the thought of wearing it for me, for someone.. it goes on and on! It could easily become dangerously addictive!
Perhaps a proper bra fitting should be on my to do list at some point!?
@isabelcross Absolutely get a bra fitting, I'd go to M&S rather than a lingerie place though. They should tell you if your forms are too large for your frame but, assuming all is OK, find you something that fits both forms and frame properly, and show you how to make sure it's being worn correctly.
I just had an email today inviting me to book another fitting, since it's 6 months since my first one! Unlike the GG's though, the size and shape of my boobs isn't really going to change much until they wear out 🙂
@finallyfiona lol at the last comment, Fiona 🙂 🙂
As to your first suggestion - takes deep breath - its certainly something to think about but I think I might need someone to hold my hand!! xx
@isabelcross Seriously, do it honey 🙂 It was one of my earliest outings as Fiona, in fact the very event which first made me realise that I'm transgender. I booked it online, and I was upfront (excuse the pun!) about my biological status in the comments. I was treated with absolute dignity, exactly as if I was a genetic woman. And OMG was the fitting lady good, I scarcely knew I was wearing the best fitting model, those are still the most comfortable ones I have.
@finallyfiona Once again you have made me add a new 'achievement' to my list! xx
@isabelcross I'm really glad that you have had good experiences indulging your "inner Girl" while she is not overtly revealed. I have done this on occasion but my preference is to shop with my inner and outer girls operating in unison. I find that when I shop this way, I am more relaxed and able to deeply explore my style and make better decisions what I purchase. I also find I am less impulsive when I can try things on and see them in the context of my everyday life.
What a lovely way to spend the day Isabel. Thank you for sharing honey xx.
What a lovely day, and yes, it is fun to allow your inner femme loose even when your outer look is constrained. I have had a few nake overs and the MUAs are always wonderful and don't care whether our inner or outer femme is presented. They just are in the buisness ti provide make up and advice and most are happy to provide that regardless of gender or presentaion.
Isabel -
What a lovely day for you. Hope you have more like it in the future.
XOXO
Suzanne
