Shopping as a Man

Once you say "by the way it's for me" a whole new dynamic opens and from my direct experience the sales assistant go out of there way to help. I have had the same experience with purchasing make- up too.

Lisa

My only SA contact is using the fitting rooms and checkouts, noone has ever batted an eye at fitting rooms and checkouts I have had compliments on my choices. I have done a lot of reading and this subject and 99.9% of the time its positive or no reaction.

I always go where no one knows me so figure what's the worst that could happen. Go fot it and good luck.

Maria x

I bought a pair of flats at Payless shoe store yesterday. It was after dark and the store was empty. I thought this would be easy to try on a couple shoes and make a purchase. The shoes of interest were in the back corner of the store. Try on the first one, didn’t fit well. Grabbed a second pair , sat down , much better. Then a family of four walks in. They spotted me at the back and made a bee line towards me. Like they wanted a front row seat to watch the circus. The parents said nothing, but looked at me with complete disgust. Then their young daughter started chanting “weird” , and continued even as I was at the cash register. The sales lady was professional and courteous though. I live in a fairly large city , not much tolerance . Hopefully the kids therapy bills don’t get too expensive 😜

I do a lot of my shopping, as a man. I have very rarely had a comment, except for a sales associate, asking if I needed help, or a fitting room.

Hi Bren! Welcome to CDH!

Sweetie....I have shopped as a man and purchased femmine clothing, lingerie and make-up without any issues except for 2 old biddies behind me in the shopping line who gave me dirty looks and mumbling. I turned around and shot them my best dirty look and said point blank...you have a problem??? You have a problems with me???   My wife is in hospital due to an accident and she needs some panties and bras...I am very familiar with size and I resent you calling me a Drag Queen. Keep you dumb comments to yourself. Today....more and more males are crossingdressing and they represent a much larger market than females do.  It all boils down to sales and money. Stores and, associates as they like to call them, are there to sell....they do so gladly and bend over backwards for you. I have often been tempted to take up some of these young girls offers to assist me in clothing rooms as they know instead of selling one pair of pantis....guys will march out of the store with a few hundred dollars worth of items. I have seen clerks fight for our business because they make huge purchases once over the initial embarassment.  Enjoy shopping, remember...the United Nations passed a law world-wide to-day...that considers all rude remarks about any person to be considered hate crimes with severe punishment. Child are taught by imbecile parents who can be charged world-wide by any police force now except for certain countries who did not or don't belong to UN. They have to change too or sanctions will be impossed by UN and all delegates.

We live in interesting times...by the way USA opted out. and still is continuing to persecute CD/TGH and Gays.

Hugs...Lady Veronica

Hi Bren. For me it has been an almost entirely positive experience, the more comfortable and confident I become the better it goes. I don't push my presence on people(other customers)that i see are uncomfortable as I don't like it done to me either, I simply move to a different rack and go back when they move on. I shop by myself and with my girlfriend repeatadly in a few stores. I make no attempt to hide that most of the items are for me. A couple of the SA's have now become chummy and even a little curious, ahem.

I I generally shop as a man, by which I mean wearing men's clothes. Even if I am we aw ring women's clothes, there is no doubt as to what my gender is - I don't wear a wig,and rarely wear makeup.  That being said, I have nothing, but wonderful experience with the sales associates at the retailers which I frequent. Most are wonderful and offer their advice freely and respectfully.  From my experience, money is money.

MacKenzie Alexandra

I usually shop as a man. On every occasion it’s gone well for me except once when a SA asked if she could help me out. I said yeah I’m looking for this skirt in a large size. Her reply was “not if it’s for you”. I responded saying. “What if it is?”  I stopped her cold in her tracks. She didn’t know what to say at that point. The other SA came up and said we definitely have that in a large. After that she showed me some other things and I went home with a new skirt, blouse and a necklace. It was great.!  For the most part though the SA’s are always willing to help.

I Always shop as a man and have only had great SA to help me, Just be your self and you will find that you will be fine

Thanks so much to everyone who replied, I know where I'm shopping this coming weekend?👠👙👗😊😊 Hugs, Bren

I frequently shop wearing "male" clothing and have had almost all positive experiences. As others have said, the Sales Assistants are more interested in making a sale than a judgment. And that goes for everything from lingerie to shoes to skirts and dresses to wigs and more.

It is, as a rule, pleasant. I try to be discreet and not bother the other customers, and always ask before using a dressing room if there are not clearly marked men's and women's dressing areas.

Hi Bren,

I shop in "hybrid mode" because that is how I dress all the time now, when not at work.  That is, womens jeans, shoes/boots and definitely panties and cammies, hose of some type too.  People don't seem to care, although I will get looks from other shoppers at times.

The more you do it the more comfortable you get.  Just focus on what you are looking for, no need to make eye contact with anyone, but do be aware of your surroundings.  It all goes well.

The one thing I struggle with is, you can't necessarily try things on.   Although if the store is set up correctly, you can take things to the mens section and use the dressing rooms there.  I've done this once before.   In places like thrift/second hand stores that sell a lot of clothes, or smaller boutiques, they have "gender neutral" dressing rooms.  So that is much easier.  Less expensive too!

🙂

Msybe this is another topic, but has anyone gone shopping dressed fully as a woman, even though you know you wouldn't pass?

I'm working my way up to doing that (via affirmation and confidence boosters like long walks across fields and along country lanes, building up via a coffee shop trip which is next, then a trip to the opticians, and on to my first clothes shop!), and would really appreciate some comforting stories!

Love

Laura

Sounds thrilling, Laura!  Can't wait to hear how your adventure goes!

R.