Shopping as a Man

Laura,

I wear the clothes that are me each day which could be men's, women's, or a combination. I never wear a wig, and rarely where makeup. I dress how I wish with no concern of passing - I'm not trying to be a women. I am me, and I love it.  Feel free to PM me if you would like to know more.

MacKenzie Alexandra

I've shopped both in male and female modes. With the former, I have  a good browse for what I might need, (Not ANOTHER Fayreform bra!!) Then I just rock up to the counter, pay for my purchases and leave.

Most "shop assistants", (we dont call 'em "associates" down here) have a/. seen it all and b/. unlike what I understand in the USA, are mostly not on commission.

My only variation and this happened in a "Fayreform" clearance store* a couple of weeks back, is I ensure I am browsing "solo". If there are any females near what I want to look at, I wait until they have moved away. No need to "make any waves".

15-20 years ago I used to shop in male mode, but only after getting "clearance in advance" from the store. IE Communicate first, then shop later

Of course shopping en femme is so much more fun. I take eons just browsing and as for paying, well thus far I've "chickened out" and only use big box stores with self serve checkouts.

It's the big booming male voice you see....

The other caveat here is I've only shopped en femme after a professional makeover. My make up skills are good, but perhaps not that good as to go out.

Then of course, on line is so much easier and so much more variety from wherever you wish to take your browser and credit card.

Happy dressing (and shopping)

Caty

There's 3 here in Melbourne and 3-4 "Simone Perele's" I've "done" em all!!!

Good Morning Ladies,

I went shopping this morning, when the store was quieter.  Yesterday when at the same store however, it was very busy and I was with my SO.   I actually tried on a pair of boots.  SO knew too, as she asked how they fit, and if I was concerned they made me look too femme.  Wasn't sure about them so SHE suggested I return when they open tomorrow (today) and get them.

I did!  I did end up buying a different pair, but I tried on two pair, walked up and down the isle, a couple of workers wondered by and noticed but just smiled.  I put them in my cart, went to the hosiery section, picked out some trouser socks (almost bought tights but I'm good there for now), then went and made the purchase.  No fuss!  But again the store was quiet, and there was only one woman behind me in line.

Still felt (feels) good, and I can't wait to wear them!  I'll let you all know what my SO says too!

Love and hugs,

R.

Once I was dressed as a man and I walked by Frederick's and saw this beautiful red bustier in the window. I had to buy it now. I went in and told the SA that it was for my  girlfriend. She then asked if I knew her size. I replied that she was about the same size as me. She looked at me and said "Honey is this for you?" I turned beat red and said "You caught me".  She was very gracious and took my measurements. It was a very positive experience.

I only shop as a man.  It would take a lot for me to pass, and I don't have that kind of time.  So usually I will be wearing ladies jeans with boots or flats and a inconspicuoustop.  I used to be scared, but have learned to enjoy it.  It is very exciting to sort through the racks, pick a few things and try them on.  I have found that, especially today, employees will absolutely not say one negative word.  In fact, they have become increasingly helpful and accepting.  Sometimes you will get a stand-offish one, but the majority will just ignore that you are a man.  Maybe give you a quick look up and down, but that's it.

When I was in college I got the urge to buy a couple pairs of new cute underwear to wear around so I headed to the local target near my apt. I was younger and a nervous wreck in the aisle between avoiding other people, trying not to look like a creepy college guy, and at the same time trying to take my time with with finding just the right couple of pairs that I wanted. Lots to consider between styles, available sizes, and colors hmm...

Happy with my selections, I made it up to the register only for an attractive girl my own age to look between me and what I was buying, cracks a huge smile, and says "these are some pretty panties you're buying huh?!"

God that was embarrassing, and I'm hardy one really say much to anyone anyway. I shop online 100% these days. It'd be fun to go out in person again but I have an enormous male frame so that just is what it is. Today I'm sure I'd have an easier time in person being more confident, I'm sure the staff would be helpful and there wouldn't be much of an issue. Maybe a few glances but people mind themselves for the most part.

Hi Lily!

Love the post!  While out shopping yesterday (with my SO), I came across a very big panty (and bra) sale at a local store!  I could not believe the deals!

I have to find my way back there today and stock up!  I have no problem going out and getting a few pair, but I will admit there will be that rush of Adrenalin when I'm standing in line with multiple pairs of panties in hand, and perhaps a bra.  Not to mention I'll be somewhat obviously dressed.

We'll see what comes!

R.

After my recent experience carol singing, I feel so positive about dressing (I don't see it as cross dressing, which helps me!), that I am going shopping as Laura and not giving a monkeys if I pass or not.

While walking from the car park at one end of Uxbridge High Street to where the group were singing, at the other end, a 6'4" man entirely clad in reasonably fashionable ladies clothes that in themselves didn't stand out, I only elicited smiles from people, and didn't feel "rumbled", but perfectly normal, if somewhat elated!

While singing in the mall, many people stopped to video us on their smart phones, applauded and most importantly, put plenty of money on the collection buckets.

Our next venue was the group leaders's work place, where again we were videoed by many, and treated to generous applause. One man came up to me and said "well done, mate", quietly, and extended a hand. I shook it warmly and thanked him, saying with a smile "Oh, you rumbled me then!".

He didn't know what to say, but didn't appear to be offended - and no offence was meant.

That was the only reference anyone made to my obvious natural gender vs my apparel and makeup (which I was particularly pleased with - my foundation looked natural, my Maybelline mascara had worked wonders on my lashes, my lips were near perfect and I even had a subtle dab of eyeshadow, so I was happy with my makeup even if it didn't turn me into Sophia Loren).

I was myself, and felt completely accepted.

So Laura is going Xmas shopping, and may well buy a dress and/or new underwear as a treat for being amazing.

I want to do something amazing to deserve it, like deal with a difficult situation, or help someone in difficulty - but it's only going to be a shopping trip, so amazing will constitute buting really pretty panties without blushing or going male about it and attracting comments.

If any ladies near Berkshire want to meet for a coffee and shop, I am so up for making it a girls' day shopping!!!!

Let's see :0)

Love

Laura

Laura,

I must say that I have been shopping twice as a man for female items over the past two days. Purchased my wig, black thigh highs, make up and make up mirror and the 19 year old make up artist working in the store helped me to get what I needed even applying samples to my face to get the colors right. I had NO problems with the store employees, just a couple of looks from other shoppers, but I moved about with confidence and they left me alone. So just enter with confidence, you may get some looks but so what. I think in the future I will simply confront those who stare, and say something like, "Yep, thats right, I am one ugly girl", and go about my business.

Hugs, Brenda

Bren, spot on.

Confidence is the key, and the particular clothes I chose with the decent makeup job helped tremendously with my confidence.

The biggest boost was knowing that my wife had told me to get on with it and be myself. Right now I want to ask her to marry me again - twice :0)

She is going to get such a surprise on Christmas Day - I won't say anything in case she finds this site before I tell her about it, which I fully intend to, as I think it will help her going forwards.

I've been wanting to do this for decades and feel like I'm exploding into the world - and being accepted for who I truly am.

So gushy, but I have to keep reminding myself that my wife had way less of an idea of how exciting or deep this would be for me, and treat her gently and kindly.

The hardest part for me is this almighty self-centered way of thinking that has overtaken me somewhat.

I'm strongly aware that I need to channel my happiness and good fortune which is in such an abundance right now so that my family get the biggest share possible.

The sheer number of references to myself in this post make me realise I have a real challenge here, which is what I was looking for.

I want to thank all the ladies who posted such positive messages in this thread - in just a couple of weeks I've gone from being a bit nervous about a quiet country walk to relishing a shopping trip in London at the busiest time of year! I will be looking for something for my wonderful wife.

Christmas truly is about the giving!

Love and hugs

Laura

Hi Bren!

Did this again yesterday, in my half man, half woman (hybrid mode).

Shopped and bought panties and jeans.  No one seemed to matter, if anyone really notices.

Ladies,

I can't believe what a great response I received with this post and I thank everyone who contributed. I am feeling so good tonite, so content and complete. Today I took the day off work and took my wife shopping. My day began at 3am this morning when I woke to my SO hanging X-Mas lights up in our living room!?? When I asked what she was doing, she broke down crying telling me she felt anxiety & confusion stemming from my coming out to her. It broke my heart and I felt like a big pile of dog crap because I caused this to happen. We ended up sitting on our bed and talked it out till 6am. We both felt so much better! She told me she feared that I may want a male lover or maybe I wanted to go do whatever at the adult theaters in downtown Phoenix because I liked dressing in woman's clothes. All stereotype garbage but it was a much needed conversation to help her to rid herself of her insecurities. So around 9am we jumped in my truck and headed to the mall to go shopping. It was a fantastic time, I must have spent $2000 on clothes, shoes, boots, more thigh highs, lingerie and some adult toys. I was so busy looking thru the racks and trying on women's clothes, I didn't have time to feel paranoid. I even tried on a couple cashmere sweaters right in the isle with help from a sales associate. At a shoe store, I choose a couple pairs of high heels, tried them on and walked down the isle to see how they fit right in front of two male and one female shoppers. We both Loved it and my SO was busy looking for items for us both. And your absolutely right Laura, confidence is the answer. I have always projected confidence in my male life, and I now know I can feel confident in my female persona. Obviously, I went shopping today as a man but I know I can do it in feminine clothing. And like Laura, I credit the new me with my SO's acceptance and the girls here on the website. Just knowing I have someone like me in my corner has made all the difference.  (Thanks again Ladie's!! Xoxoxo).Tonite when we came home I tried on my purchases and spent time walking around my house and outside thru the backyard in my new 3" heels 're-learning " the walk" with my SO's help. She has confided in me that she has always been bi-curious and she actually had fun shopping and watching me dressed and in heels. We ended our day with the most  exciting love making in 10 years. It's been such a great day!! I love her more than life itself and she loves me unconditionally. I know everyday can't always be like today, but I will take what I can get and give back to her tenfold. Being accepted for who and what I am unconditionally makes all the difference. Today I realize I am no longer that 14 year old  kid who's parents caught him in full  drag and be-littled him because they had no understanding of his true feeling. Life is Good Again! I plan to be the best and prettiest girl I possibly can and I'm so happy I don't feel the need to hide in shame. I'm looking forward to my make up session sometime in January, I will take some photos and post them then.I

Thanks Everyone, Your Freind, Brenda xoxoxo