Significant others approval

Hi,

like most things in a relationship my wife and I have a £20-30 fritter limit each month. But if there is a purchase that will affect the home budget we talk it though. Recently we bought an open canoe ( quality us time) that was planned and prepared for. The £10 dolly shoes I got for me first outing as Tasha were a spur of the moment thing. But we don’t do it to often.
We communicate about everything that’s why we are still together after 37 years. We tried the other way and it nearly destroyed our marriage. Lesson learned So we talk.

Hi Lexie I do not need approval to spend my money or our money. She does not need my approval to spend her money or our money If there going to be purchases beyond lets say $100 there may be a brief discussion to why the money has to be spent. I may go out shopping for my fem self which happens very rarely but when i do I would mention it we both know to keep our purchases  at or around $100. We both have fem needs and wants. I complain about the cost of some her moisturizers and she may complain about I have more bra's than she does. Communication, Understanding each others needs and Compromise. Its a partnership.

Luv Stephanie

Don't have a SO so no need of approval  Do spend within limits Do know when to stop buying for awhile.

lol. Sounds like a shopaholic hehe.

My wife and I are lucky to have pretty decent incomes these days so monthly budgets are less of a concern than they have been in the past. Not that she doesn’t comment if she sees a lot of packages arriving but as long as I’m not over spending for us it’s ok, we are a team after all and I have limits but they are my own if that makes sense.

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Were not shopaholics!

I had one who tried that and we broke up fast. I figure so long as I work for my money nobody will tell me how to spend it. I don’t mind discussing bills and finances but nobody will ever have that much autonomy over the life I work for.

I buy what I want, no approval needed from my girl friend.

Used to. But that doesn't sit with me. She wasn't that way at first. Kinda developed bossy wife habits. And of course she didn't like being told to %@&$ ^#$ so that ended. 🙄

I went thru this with my ex-wife.  Control freak.  Never again.

If it's for myself I buy what I want.  If it's a significant purchase for the home, I'll have a discussion with my GF.  We split the bill on stuff like that.

Hi Lexie...

I did go through the whole money argument when I was married...and it was totally one sided whatever/ whoever I spent it on....

but since we parted and divorced and I don't even know what country she lives in!!!!.......

......... I'm now totally out of control, and I have no one to blame but me 😂😂😂😂

Grace x

My loving SO and I have been together for over 20 years, second time  round for both of us. So financial independence was a given from the start. OK we share household running costs, but that's about it. We do  ot have any shared credit cards etc

She is a very down to earth person and does not spend big $$   on any of her clothes, Caty is the opposite. Yes I love a bargain as much as anyone else, but "see silk nightie, buy silk nigthtie"

Refer my article published herein 14/6/2021

Caty

As he sole breadwinner, I buy what I want, and she uses her disability to buy whatever her heart desires. Except, shoes, she feels I have too many, now. How is that even possible? lol
Hugs, Regi👸💕

My beloved and I each have our own “slush funds” and what we choose to buy out of those is our own business. All our real money is joint and we discuss purchases that are outside the day to day expenses before spending. Wifey doesn’t spend on clothes like me and has looked at my closet and commented on having more name brands and designer clothes than most women she knows. Of course I dress better than most women she knows too!  😂😂. We respect each other on money and it has never been an argument point for us other than her overly generous nature towards extended family but even that is just me being b**chy and not a real issue. I would hate to have to justify or ask for permission to get a great deal on some Camuto heels or a Hilfiger dress, that would so spoil the pleasure of shopping.
🍷C