Slightly Embarrassing Question...

Firstly Susan, this is not embarrassing.

Very often, crossdressing is associated with sexual desires or pleasure so what you’re experiencing is a perfectly natural reaction.

For me, the arousal is part of my dressing but, as I’m dressed for the bulk of the day, it obviously goes away of it’s own accord after a period of time.

I’m sorry, I don’t have any magical answers but, from reading and research, this reaction does tend to get less and less over time and as you dress more.  I appreciate it’s not what you want right now, but as dressing becomes more natural and ‘everyday’ rather than an event, the reaction will change.

Sorry I’m not much help, just my 2 pence worth…

Love Rachel

It's not embarrassing at all, it's just part if the journey.

Yep, as Rachel wrote, the more you dress the more it'll become a normal part of being you and less sexually motivated. However, I recognise the challenge you described in your earlier post about the opportunity to dress as frequently as you'd like. So maybe there's some things you can do there to removing the feeling of each dressing being 'an event'

Now the challenge you have is that... if you [cough] every time you dress to resolve the 'issue', you're effectively reaffirming or strengthening the cognitive link in your brain that one always leads to the other. Which'll only make matters worse for you.

Didi💋

Oh, dear... yup, the torpedo in your pocket is a dead giveaway. The first time I did a very restrictive tuck, the act of walking with my thighs close together was in fact a giant turn on which I got away with as the tuck was held by a smaller sized firm panty girdle! I think I could’ve walked 500 miles that day... quite happily!
For me... a restrictive tuck is perfect as it also can show an attractive ‘camel-toe’ into the bargain... something that my wife has remarked on before.

Polly xxx

Hi Susan

When wearing anything fitted I have a pack of size 6 thongs, I’m normally a 10. Two or three of these size 6s on top of each other help tuck my bits away and give a nice smooth silhouette. No chance of too much blood getting down there when I’m ‘tucked away’🤣

My own take on ‘control’ underwear, different from what women use control underwear for, but achieves the same result, a smooth foundation for outerwear.

❤️Bianca

Thanks Celeste,

If I was single, I absolutely would go down the full HRT route to help develop curves etc.

...but, my SO would probably question why I've grown boobs! - I'm too scared to shave my legs, so growing boobs would be dead give away!

...unless it's possible to take lower levels of hormones, sufficient to put my manhood to sleep for a bit without growing some DDs overnight!

Would be lovely if there was a middle ground, but I'm guessing not?

Susan. Xxx

Any one who has had a vas or hernia surgery down there knows that the nurse gives it a flick on the head and it just deflates like a balloon on needles.  If it rises to say hi just give it a flick. No more problems.

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Trisha.

Agree with Rachel. When I first started, I would get aroused at the very THOUGHT of dressing, but after only a few weeks it became less so because I was dressing often. I might start to get aroused, but then it would just dissipate because I was in 'girl mode'. I was even able to start tucking without it being uncomfortable.

My situation now has me to where I've had to stop completely, but I'm still in a good place, especially since I have this outlet. I love seeing the pics and reading the stories, so I can still be Tara here.

I'm sure that if I ever get to start dressing again, I'll have to 're-train' my buddy  🙂

*kisses* tara 🙂

P.S. Please don't try any medications without consulting a doctor first. Also, if your SO doesn't know that you CD, then I would avoid meds altogether until you've had that discussion. I've already put my wife thru stuff earlier in our lives and that's the reason I've stopped. I can't justify to myself to put her thru more hardship

Do you also say, "DOWN BOY!" and make a whip sound?

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I started dressing for the thrill and sexual gratification. It started with panties and grew over time and finally complete dressing and makeup. Dressing takes time I really need to focus on the dressing, accessories, makeup, etc. I've been dressing lately without purely focusing on the sexual component. It is more like female sensual feelings and emotions. Even the sexual feelings have become more feminine.

When puberty hit me, "IT" happened if the wind blew the wrong direction.  There isn't much you can do to prevent it, depending on your age and health.  For me, it became a matter of mind over matter and I worked hard to teach myself to think of things to counter the situation.  I would begin my dressing with a very well fitting but snug panty girdle to hold my tuck before anything happened, and that usually worked best to control things.

Once it was out of sight, I could turn my thoughts to my more feminine side and get ready to head out.  I didn't mind getting excited in the right situations, but I always felt it best to have the control myself and not biology.  Now, since my cancer and some other previous health issues, there is no more growth or emission.  In fact, I do think think things have gotten a bit smaller, but that may just be wishful thinking.

PaulaF

I got aroused many years ago in my early panty wearing days when I put a pair on not anymore

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I am 71 and I feel the same way Celeste,use it b4 you lose it!

Debbie werner

No but that sounds like a good idea.

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Trisha

I've never tried this but Saltpeter or Patassium Nitrate might work.. I'd research it and be careful if taking it. Maybe talk to a doctor about it.

Jennifer