So close, yet so far. Frustrating!

I feel the same way sometimes. I soo wish this 5 o clock shadow never existed. Just hang in there sweetie 😘

I find that I'm not particularly attractive.  But I can make my face say feminine.

Now if I have someone who really knows what they are doing with makeup, I am definitely more attractive.

Hi  Rae Make use of the covid mask while its here. Concentrate on the eyes and brow and try not to over do it. So many of us have truly beautiful eyes focus on your assets bring them to the forefront. Our age has given us so much more to deal with as so many of our cis sisters. If its not one thing it will be another for sure.I think now its enough just to express how we feel by showing others who we most identify with. 50% of the woman will appreciate your efforts and may compliment you on your efforts. The other 50% will never understand and in some cases are a little intimidated by your ability to look so feminine. Enjoy being you and just do the best you can. Luv Stephanie

So what if you have some male characteristics? I have not been able to pass for several decades yet I still go out dressed fem.

Just do it!

I am right there with you Rae...

I'm scared to DEATH, but, I am planning to attend the Diva Las Vegas event(IF Covid allows it).

You can see my profile pic, boy oh BOY am I a Boy...but I will keep working on the right makeup, hair, outfits...and just going to DO it...

I think that you will feel the weight of the world lift off your shoulders if you can find it in yourself to go out and be YOU...

Hugs,

Dala

Just do your best to get your face to look as femme as possible. When I began dressing fully femme at 18 and began going out, not having a femme face was a concern. I chose a long, wavy wig that would frame my face. It didn't fix everything but made such a huge difference.

I always felt that being femme was about sexy legs, nice breasts and pretty hair. Ge those right and the rest takes care of itself.

Thank you for posting Rae. It's truly a sad dilemma, as if getting the right size and shape clothes and shoes wasn't hard enough for us CDs. I like my guy face and voice, I just wish it was "allowed" to go with my feminine side from the neck down, but too much of society (and my wife) just aren't comfortable with that mix. People are shallow and they expect beauty, which women use to hold other women (and sometimes us CDs) back.

Put your power heels on and strut out there with confidence. Beauty is from within!

Great idea about wearing a face mask. I say use it and get out there!

I know what you mean and who you feel

A few points and I don't mean to objectify women and beauty but could not think of other terms to use:

1. Makeup and the right hair can make a world of difference.  It might not make us a model but can make us average

2. There are many "handsome" women out there who are attractive but have some manly features.

3. There are some below average women and those who do not even try to look attractive.

4. I only post good pics, many if not most make it obvious I'm a cd.  We are our worst critics.