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Hi everyone
For all of my 60 plus years - well maybe not the first ten! - I have wanted to dress and feel like a woman. Thats pretty much the same for all of us I guess.
And for all of that time, I have considered myself 100% heterosexual. I've never been physically or sexually attracted to men, only women. Especially ones who know how to dress.
But then over the past couple of days, whilst actually searching for something else, I stumbled across a load of photos of two CDs kissing (I mean snogging), and other sexual activity. I thought this would not have any effect on me, but surprisingly it has. I've become very aroused by these pictures, and am now wondering "is this something I should try and have I missed out?". I've always been fairly adventurous sexually, but so far only with women!
So now I'm totally confused by how I feel. It's not something I'd even considered before, but here it is. I may be bi-sexual I suppose. I'm not about to start hitting on anyone on here, there are lots of other sites for that sort of thing if its a road I decide to go down, so please don't worry or stop talking to me!!
I just wondered if anyone else has experienced this. Help!!!
Much love
Helen xxx
I just wondered if anyone else has experienced this. Help!!!
Yes, My expression of gender and sexuality has changed/evolved over the years. I find this just natural for me. I stopped worrying about what or who I am as far as categorizing myself and am happier for it to be honest. I won't go into details here since it seems to be taboo (which is fine) but am pretty open about these things and have no issue discussing them in private especially if it would help you feel less alone in that.
-Big Hugs
Nadia
Yes, I have experienced it as well. For me, it was in college when hanging out with a friend, he suddenly kissed me right on the lips.
It startled me and our night quickly ended.
After a pondering it for awhile, I invited him back over to my house to hang out.
I must say, it was a delightful experience.
If I was not married, I would explore it again....
We are all curious, whether we admit it to ourselves or not. As we explore alternatives, such as dressing options it opens us to our own curiosities.
Habe I had similar feels? Yes, but have never acted on them, nor am I likely too. I have been i. a monogamous relationship for over forty years, and have never been in more then one relatiinship at a time my whole life, so I doubt that will ever change...but who knows, I am always curious.
Yes, it happens and it's not the end of the world. Personally, I think it has to do with being attracted to the female form.
Robin
I think this happens often enough. I discovered I'm attracted to females regardless of what's between their legs. And yes, I've acted on that IRL.
/EA
Whatever you do should depend on your relationship and feelings between you and the other person.
For example, when young, as I described earlier here, I had the chance to do more with a friend. I was not attracted to him sexually and part of that was his body smell. He was clean but had an odor that irritated me.
There are many things to take into account with any relationship. Don't rush.
Hi Emily I think that may be it. Were these people dressed in drab I know I wouldn't be attracted to them.
But en femme it may be a different story, as you say regardless of what is between their legs. Everyone I've met so far has been lovely as a friend, but not got me revved up so to speak. And for now, its only photographs. But maybe one day I'll meet someone and think, well, maybe....
Much love
Helen xx
Hi JJ I think curiousity is absolutely the right word. At this moment I don't know whether I would, or not, if given the chance. But I guess, if the right person came along, I just might.
Much love
Helen xx
Life is for living.
Helen,
I can relate to the confusion. While in high school, I had a romantic interlude with a neighborhood boy. We were both raging with hormones and not that lucky with the girls. One thing led to an other and we started having sexual encounters. I really began questioning my sexuality for the remainder of high school and well into college. I ultimately suppressed my feelings towards men and soon fell in love with a wonderful woman who is now my wife. It wasn’t until my mid 40s that I finally accepted the position I have bisexual tendencies, especially while dressed. I have not acted on these tendencies, but do discuss the desires with my wife. I too do not know where this path will take me. I just know it is going to be one very small baby step at a time.
On this journey we are on many of us discover something new about ourselves.
For some it is exploring your sexuality.
I am bi and I am single but do go out on dates with men. And I can tell you there is nothing more girly more feminine that walking down the street holding your dates hand.
Alanna
Me too Emily
I've met CD's who are straight, who are bisexual and who are gay. And there are a lot of subsets within each group so people's interests are all over the map. You are one among many who have that particular interest, it's very common.
As Emily said, some just like the feminine form no matter who's presenting it. There's no reason to rush and act on it. Just go with it for a while, see if your interest continues and enjoy!
Hi Helen,
I have always been straight and do not find men attractive at all and have only had relationships with women, but sometimes I find some crossdressers really attractive. I put it down to the way they’re dressed as there’s so much effort put in to looking as feminine as possible. As we all know crossdressing is a progressive journey for most starting with maybe wearing one thing and before you know it you are head to toe woman.
