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Sometimes you don'tAlmond Joy gots nuts, Mound don't
Many of you "mature" ladies will remember those lines. For those who do not, it was from a 60's commercial for two candy bars. These reason I bring this up it that it summarizes my dressing pretty well. Sometimes I feel like dressing, sometimes I don't.
I dress a little or a lot depend on my mood or desires. Some days I dress fully en femme and go out and about while other days I am totally happy going about my day en homme (but always in panties..a girl has to do what feels right.)
I really enjoy my time spent en femme to whatever degree that maybe, but I have no need to dress all the time, but that is just me. I am happy for you ladies that want/need to dress full time and transition if that is you.
Life has many choices, so embrace your choices, or needs.
@jjandme Hi JJ,
At work, all guy. At church. all guy. Other than that 100% all woman. JJ, if I had the courage, I would retire, move, and live as a woman full time.
I really enjoy my time spent en femme to whatever degree that maybe, but I have no need to dress all the time, but that is just me.
I have no great need to crossdress, except for wanting to dress more nicely than I have most of my life. However, because I am replacing all of my drab wear with a minimum of androgynous clothes, I do crossdress all of the time now. Am I wearing dresses and blouses and heels in public? No, but it is what it is and it is nearly 100% of the time.
If you want to dress more or more often, consider a different tact, JJ.
@jjandme You pretty much summarized my experience with it as well for the most parts. Here are some difference as far as I understand. I never doing any make up at all, and my hair is definitely always short and manly in its style even when I am wearing leggings, panties (100%n of the time. I might feel kind of girly/womanly inside yet always with male flair if it makes any sense. I think I am treating clothes as either those I have or have not, those I like/don't like first and only then masculine/feminine. I notice there are many styles of clothing that could easily pass as man's and I truly like those and after them. It makes me smile and lough as in these styles I can go anywhere and nobody would even know, lol! One time i was talking with a dude who was saying to me how he liked my taste in clothing adding I am always looking confident and manly in them and I struggled not to start laughing as I thought to myself "You have no idea what are you talking about. I have panties right now underneath of my slacks, my socks are women's, and I truly care less about the labels " . I excused myself and walked away and when I new he could not hear me I burst laughing out loud. I still don't know why I enjoyed this whole situation so much.
I'm a little too young to remember the commercials, but I'm a big fan of both Almond Joy and Mounds. I love cocount!
I, too, have my moments. Sometimes I like dressing up fully, sometimes partly, and sometimes not at all. However, I think those "non-dressing" moments are because my body feels too "male". The lack of breasts, hair on my body and face, and a bald head just put me off from dressing, even if I'm at home by myself. It's a process to get ready and if I can solve my hair issues then I think I would dress up a lot more.
Nice, JJ. Finally I enjoy my whole life too. Thanks for the topic.
The nut may be a good metaphor for me. A female seed covered by a male shell. For me it is sometimes an urgent need to dress feminine; sometimes not. I also depend on my mood. On many occasions I wear women's clothing without feeling the need. Just for the mere desire to do it and look pretty. When I dress as a woman, all my outfits are feminine and I don't wear any when I dress in masculine mode. But those are my preferences, so I'm not criticizing anyone who does anything else. Each one with their own style. Everybody with the right to enjoy life.
By the way, I don't usually wear makeup every day, only when I'm going out or simply if I feel like wearing makeup.
Gisela
@firefly Yes, I get this 🙂 But also sometimes it's in the planning - you can know it's going to be a full-on girly day. Sometimes you know you're only going to be around the house so hair and makeup can have a rest while you just enjoy being in your dress. Sometimes it's going to be a full drab day (but a little femme sparkle from panties and coloured toes is allowed in my case 🙂 ). I do like the nut metaphor too!
JJ, you'll know that my dressing opportunities are almost completely non-existent. I often wonder if I were on my own how things would develop. I don't think I'd dress every day. Who knows, maybe I would. But I'd sure love more opportunities to find out. Find all this very frustrating xx.
Some days you want the whole candy bar, but have to settle for a single M&M. Hopefully you get to at least choose peanut vs plain M&Ms.😜😋💋
Hello Chrissie,
My circumstances permit me to dress every day. I can't even express how much I love being a woman. I don't know where this is going, but I'm open to possibilities.
Sometimes like this, sometimes like that.
Sometimes completely satisfied as a man. Sometimes dissatisfied as a man.
Sometimes completely satisfied as a woman. Sometimes dissatisfied as a woman.
Work, family, everyday life and lack of time affect my mood. Sometimes it just takes time.
Over the years, I have visited/been a member of many CD/trans support groups. The stories are diverse, and no two journeys are ever exactly the same. We are a very unique community of people!
I love being a girl and am satisfied being a man. I cannot explain it and am not even going to try.
Hearing the stories of other CDs in places like CDH or at support meetings, IMHO, provides the necessary support we need to navigate through a world that is becoming more understanding of us, but is not quite all the way there yet.
@catgurl
So true. I am fasinated by all the stories here. Of course I prefer the good, happy ones, but I learn a lot from the sad ones as well. These storeis and connection certainly do help me navigate not just dressing, buy in lofe as well.
Being a member here and elsewhere, and just knowing about other CDs helps me have more empathy for other marginalized people.
