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So to start, something I noticed about my wife over time regarding my dressing. Her personality definitely shifts depending how much or little I'm dressed. My wife started and encouraged my dressing many years ago so its never been an issue. However, over time I've noticed her personality really shifts depending on the degree of my dressing. For instance, if I'm in my normal underdress mode, guy top, women's panties, ladies jeans/shorts and sandals or sneakers I'm pretty much her "guy" with what she calls sexy clothes. If we're staying in and I'm in a skirt, heels, bra, and ladies top she really treats me as her woman. That is to say, she speaks to me in a very feminine manner and very much acts as if I'm her wife. It doesn't bother me and honestly I really enjoy it. However, I'm not sure she's even aware she's doing it. So my question is ladies, does your SO treat you differently depending how much or little you're dressed?
most definitely girl! I have been married almost 40 years and came out then and dressed privately. But during COVID I came out as TG and started therapy and told her I want to transition but she said NO. I still dress almost nightly and some days. She calls me Miss Hope! But she works me good girl, making me wait on her. I get y to I show her outfits and get her opinion.
i think she is scared how serious I am about transition and I don’t want to add more stress to her life. She already has MS.
Hugs,
Hope
Hi, Audrey, good question.
My wife doesn't treat me or address me any differently whether I'm in guy or girl mode...I'd like it if she called me Allie but, hey, let's not get picky. She does give me honest feedback on my outfit choices and has been helping with makeup colours and tones. I mentioned in another post, that it must be a vicarious pleasure for her because she never wears makeup except for mascara.
I have, in fact, said to her before, and she agreed, I'm more girly than her! As I've said, what's to complain about? I know how lucky I am.
Allie x
I don't think so. My wife does refer to me as Becca when we are out and about, be silly not to really, but we talk about makeup and jewellery whether or not I am dressed. On the other hand, I am different when out dressed and take a much greater interest in clothes and trinkets than I do when I'm in drab. If in drab, I still get bored with these very same things. Weird.
Becca
Hm...other than the name and pronoun change, I don't think she really treats me any differently. Then again, in my dealings with her specifically, I don't think I change very much, so...seems to hold in both directions.
I feel I do have a very different personality with other as compared to how I might in guy-mode, but she and I have been together ~10yrs and those grooves are just well worn, I feel.
@melodeescarlet I’m with you because you’re one of the best people I know. That doesn’t change based on what you’re wearing. That being said, with our society being so gendered, it doesn’t surprise me that people act differently around different genders. Especially if they have had scarring interactions with a specific gender. There are people studying how women interact with each other and how that benefits us on a brain chemistry level. It is very deeply rooted, so it makes sense that she might not be consciously aware of the changes.
I’m with you because you’re one of the best people I know. That doesn’t change based on what you’re wearing.
How lucky am I?!
She does not treat me differently, nor do I act differently. I am a guy in a dress, and we both accept that. That said, over time I do notice her mansculinizing and me becoming more feminine. We are not reversing roles, buy there is a shift. I think the change has a lot to do with just aging and shifting hormones levels and such.
When I am dressed at home my wife treats me a girlfriend. She calls me Stephenie and we girl talk. I am so grateful she is so accepting of me.
